I'm in the Mood
Master Don Juan
I'm in. I have extremely bad approach anxiety.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I'm in the Mood said:I'm in. I have extremely bad approach anxiety.
Robyn923b said:It would be unfair to compete against less experienced lads and to contribute to their anxiety by defeating them. My AA is still present, but not to the extent that it was before. Upon reflection, I agree that it is time to let other guys a chance to win. However...
I want to help new guys get over their anxiety and define the winner from the last competition once and for all.
Let's break down challenges into two categories: I. New participants II. Top 4 previous participants. This way we can coach the new guys and give them challenges. At the same time, the four of us will compete to see who is the best without interfering with their progress and motivation. This way, we would post our interactions and gentlemen new to the game would have the opportunity to see our moves and learn from them. Additionally, I will help you create the challenges for the new participants. As for the advanced challenges, we (the top 4) will create them consensually so that we have realistic, challenging goals that will move us to the next level.
PM me your thoughts.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
How about if we create teams? This could be more interesting and have a greater impact on this community.AAAgent said:coaches don't normally participate (but i understand u guys want to participate as well).
If you guys were more experienced i'd say each person could pick a few people to coach. If their gladiator won....that would be awesome haha.
If you guys do decide to have your own competition i suggest starting a new thread as your posts may hinder ours or discourage some others.
I'm in the Mood said:How about if we create teams? This could be more interesting and have a greater impact on this community.
black jesus said:when does the tournament start? i dont want to be left behind haha
AAAgent said:coaches don't normally participate (but i understand u guys want to participate as well).
If you guys were more experienced i'd say each person could pick a few people to coach. If their gladiator won....that would be awesome haha.
If you guys do decide to have your own competition i suggest starting a new thread as your posts may hinder ours or discourage some others.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm in the Mood said:How about if we create teams? This could be more interesting and have a greater impact on this community.
Packers2010 said:your a cool guy. so want to be on your team
Hey, I'd like to contribute. I'll finish out our Top 4 slot.Gray The Prince said:Yeah, we talked it over and we're going to do what you suggested. This thread will for you guys and will be moderated by me, Robyn and AJ.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
We have a competition you can join. GTP and I are in it. You can join since you were in the last 4.This is to set the winner once for all.Deicide said:Hey, I'd like to contribute. I'll finish out our Top 4 slot.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.