You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Hey Filth,Purefilth said:today is the day to "SHUT UP AND SQUAT!!!"
frontsquat 50kg x 12
Backsquat
100kg x 8
120kg x 3
140kg x 2
145kg x 1*****PR*****
120kg x 1
100kg x 5
90kg x 5
90kg x 5
calves - 3 sets
leg press - 120kg
2 sets 12
I had more in me, but im waiting on some new knee wraps as I lost my ones, and I do not like these neoprene pieces of crap that I have for the moment to improvise.
ill smash out a decent weight for a set of 12 then add more for a couple of working sets - then maybe a third.Ronaldo7 said:Hey Filth,
I was wondering about your leg press. Do you simply do a set weight for sets and reps or do you add weight as sets progress?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Leg press works everything a bit. If you are going the full range of motion, you will develop it nicely. Do you do drop sets after the 12 x 3 sets? Since leg press has a short range of motion compared to other exercises, you could try incorporating drop sets that will really extract all the juice. Example: If you do 12 with 11 45's on each, you could try taking out 3 plates from each side. Do say 10-12, take out 3 more, do 12-15, take out 3 more do 15-20. That has worked very, very well for me.Purefilth said:ill smash out a decent weight for a set of 12 then add more for a couple of working sets - then maybe a third.
It all depends on what I got out on squats before - If ive smashed some volume and cant make it down the stairs then I will skip leg press altogether.
If ive put through low volume but high intensity on backsquats then I need to get a decent pump before I go.
Plus I take a wide stance - which hits the posterior chain more, so I still have a lot left in my quads then ill keep adding weight till I cant do a set of 12 anymore.
I diversify a lot - As long as you hit the big 3 every week then shiit like leg press is optional pump material. It may not work for everyone but it does me well enough.![]()
Ronaldo7 said:Leg press works everything a bit. If you are going the full range of motion, you will develop it nicely. Do you do drop sets after the 12 x 3 sets? Since leg press has a short range of motion compared to other exercises, you could try incorporating drop sets that will really extract all the juice. Example: If you do 12 with 11 45's on each, you could try taking out 3 plates from each side. Do say 10-12, take out 3 more, do 12-15, take out 3 more do 15-20. That has worked very, very well for me.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Classic moviePurefilth said:You're thinking "generation iron" I'm talking old school 70's with Arnold in his prime![]()
Can't forget about this either: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8sHvWYAzIRoEspi said:A very motivational film--best part is Waller hiding Katz' blue t-shirt.
And Arnold giving "advices."
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.