"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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defiancy

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in spanish class, i shut up a chick up, but then later asked me about my ex-gf, in which i never really went out with

This ex was a fourth grade admirer thing...funny huh?

So I ended telling her she goes to some other high school.
Just then another girl who is a slut and a b*tch shouted out loud, "u have a girlfriend?" (not sarcastically or offendingly)

It may not seem like much, but recently I'm DJing couple girls and one of my targets had a thing for me

Since that was shouted out loud, I'm wondering about 2 perceptions she can have

The perception of competition to her or she'll forget about me and move on

I'll see her actions later, but for now what do you think?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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LikRetsam

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English please.
 

Fitch

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Yeah, seriously -- can you rephrase that?
 

defiancy

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Sorry if you didn't understand I'll start again

basically i talked to one girl for a while and she mentions the subject of my exgirlfriend. When she does, another girl outbursts, "you have a girlfriend?"

NOw..lately I've been DJing a girl in my classroom and I wonder if this will effect her, since she heard the outburst as well as the classroom.

I"ve heard that it can suggest competition for a girl, but i'm not sure if it can make a girl give up on you since you're already "taken".

So I hope u can see my picture now
 

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Depending on her personality -- she may or may not give up.

Most likely -- she will. You just have to choose.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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