"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
"I want to get to know you"
- Thread starter Hurrican
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Serialized3
Master Don Juan
"I wanna get to know ya -- I really wanna **** you, bay-beh"
I would not use this. I personally play minds games with girls through words and not answering my phone,thus being my push. Now I always leave the part of me "wanting" or "getting to get to know them" them in what I do physically,thus being my pull. Never say what you want,act what you want physically. The moment you express what you want verbally she knows you are hooked.Hurrican said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
WORKEROUTER
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Obviously by approaching her you want to get to know her. You don't need to tell her.
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I think it's a great line to use, if you have no other natural way of approaching the girl. It's simple, and sounds sincere. :rockon:
But here's the main problem, I see with it. While it will work as a opener, it could mess your game up with the target girl afterwords. Because it's giving her to much leverage. IE: She knows you want her already. It gives her no challenge, no mystery, and makes her, not you, the Prize to be won. :nono:
But don't sweat it, I think it will work great with one little tweak to the "line."
Here it is: Approach girl:
"Hi, I'm Hurrican. Would you like to get to know ME better?" :rockon:
See how, this sets the right frame? Hell, I think I'm going to try this opener this weekend.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That is a solid opener that requires a continued solid followthrough. It is a chance to develop some rapport and setup a date.
Keep in mind that this opener is useful when you've already made eye contact, you smiled or had some sense that she wanted to speak with you in the first place. It's not a great idea for cases where she's reading a book and you tap her on the shoulder, she looks over to see your face glaring at hers "Hi, im bob, want to get to know me better?"
It does however generate several quick "How do you suggest I do that?" "Sure, what can you tell me about yourself? "I dont know. Should I?" "What is there to know about you?"
I completely agree. The only way to know and to develop experience is to get out and experiment with your theories. Even if they fail, you have just gained field experience that will serve you well in future.Bourne said:
There seems to be a lot of "I'd say this" or "I'd do that" kind of advice on this board, but what really counts is the past tense advice that says "I DID this" or "I TRIED that".