"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Former CIA spy talking about how to charm anyone quickly

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Also lends itself to seduction because as he said this is the first stage of seduction because the trust/connection you build here then gets transferred to being able to trust that person with their body.

Also love his work on shows like Beyond SkinWalker Ranch and some of the other Discovery channel shows he appears on in an investigative role.


 
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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This is how I run most of my dates. Its why 95% of my first dates go good and lead to second dates.

Get them talking about things with depth, get in their head, connect on the common ground and keep doing it. At the end of the date, she needs to have done 70% of the talking and you are the leader of the conversation. If she tells you that she knows nothing about you and you know most everything about her you have done a good job.

Before I have a date, I go thru their social media, interests, where they lived, and figure who some of their exes, where they work. Anything and everything. This builds the foundation so I know how to lead the conversation and build the connection quickly.

For the haters out there, I ask you to reflect upon a time someone easily talked you into something and made you feel happy about it.
 
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What's next, I wonder. Navy Seals swimming lessons?
If it is relevant to something most men struggle with these days, why not?

I'd bet the majority of guys who don't get a second date when they are interested in a women don't due to their lack of conversational skills more than anything else.

If those Navy Seals are teaching you how to survive in open water, I would probably listen since you never know when that could actually happen to you. And it probably wouldn't be in a way you would ever expect it.

As my high school physics teacher use to say: "Everybody is likely to be in a head on car crash once in their life. You better know what you plan on doing before it happens if you want to survive."
 
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What's next, I wonder. Navy Seals swimming lessons?
I literally got ambushed once in a parking garage in Columbus Circle, Manhattan. The attendant couldn't speak English and was trying to point something out on the fee, which I had already paid. It was about 10pm and he took the step of calling the rest of the attendants, all with similar language barriers - and then he shut the door to the garage. Shyt went sideways, real fast. They circled around me while the guy kept pointing at the receipt. I showed them that I was dialing 911 and they ended up opening the door and let me and my girlfriend leave. My best friend is a Tier 1 special operator so I called him to tell him about what happened. He told me I did it wrong, because they could have just come at me and taken the phone. His advice? Get a 3.5 inch, serated street legal switchblade, which I have to this day - and get back in the car and punch it straight through the garage door next time.

The CIA lives off of developing personal relationships with real world assets in hostile territory and they are used to doing it fast. Take advice where you can get it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I literally got ambushed once in a parking garage in Columbus Circle, Manhattan. The attendant couldn't speak English and was trying to point something out on the fee, which I had already paid. It was about 10pm and he took the step of calling the rest of the attendants, all with similar language barriers - and then he shut the door to the garage. Shyt went sideways, real fast. They circled around me while the guy kept pointing at the receipt. I showed them that I was dialing 911 and they ended up opening the door and let me and my girlfriend leave. My best friend is a Tier 1 special operator so I called him to tell him about what happened. He told me I did it wrong, because they could have just come at me and taken the phone. His advice? Get a 3.5 inch, serated street legal switchblade, which I have to this day - and get back in the car and punch it straight through the garage door next time.

The CIA lives off of developing personal relationships with real world assets in hostile territory and they are used to doing it fast. Take advice where you can get it.
James Bond getting laid a lot wasn't by accident
 

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The CIA lives off of developing personal relationships with real world assets in hostile territory and they are used to doing it fast. Take advice where you can get it.
Buddy, you will not be hearing a person who was part of special services going around talking about special services, if guy was retired, he'd be driving a cab somewhere, keeping quiet. That kind of deal. Person in original post video material is a clown. That's the whole point. I don't know how one can eat the story about CIA technique which ex-CIA operative is teaching..... That just outright sounds like crap. You want to roll with it, go ahead. I don't buy it for a second.
 

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Buddy, you will not be hearing a person who was part of special services going around talking about special services, if guy was retired, he'd be driving a cab somewhere, keeping quiet. That kind of deal. Person in original post video material is a clown. That's the whole point. I don't know how one can eat the story about CIA technique which ex-CIA operative is teaching..... That just outright sounds like crap. You want to roll with it, go ahead. I don't buy it for a second.
If he wasn’t legitimate he would get called out for what’s known as stolen valor.

The guys who shot Bin Laden are literally giving tours and writing books. I saw the shooter a couple weeks ago speak at a private club. That idea of quiet professionals went out the window when the guys started seeing the size of the paychecks.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I literally got ambushed once in a parking garage in Columbus Circle, Manhattan. The attendant couldn't speak English and was trying to point something out on the fee, which I had already paid. It was about 10pm and he took the step of calling the rest of the attendants, all with similar language barriers - and then he shut the door to the garage. Shyt went sideways, real fast. They circled around me while the guy kept pointing at the receipt. I showed them that I was dialing 911 and they ended up opening the door and let me and my girlfriend leave. My best friend is a Tier 1 special operator so I called him to tell him about what happened. He told me I did it wrong, because they could have just come at me and taken the phone. His advice? Get a 3.5 inch, serated street legal switchblade, which I have to this day - and get back in the car and punch it straight through the garage door next time.

The CIA lives off of developing personal relationships with real world assets in hostile territory and they are used to doing it fast. Take advice where you can get it.
That’s a great story, and a great concluding statement.
 

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Buddy, you will not be hearing a person who was part of special services going around talking about special services, if guy was retired, he'd be driving a cab somewhere, keeping quiet. That kind of deal. Person in original post video material is a clown. That's the whole point. I don't know how one can eat the story about CIA technique which ex-CIA operative is teaching..... That just outright sounds like crap. You want to roll with it, go ahead. I don't buy it for a second.
He was in the CIA for 7 years and left due to disillusionment of their mission and culture.

This stuff is not hard to Google.
 

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I don't doubt he worked for the CIA. What I find funny is how he's using his CIA background to market ordinary social skills as "secret spy tradecraft" for clicks and course sales.

"How to build rapport" becomes "CIA SEDUCTION SECRET."

"How to gather information during a conversation" becomes "CIA MIND CONTROL TECHNIQUE."

"Be observant, ask good questions, and let people talk about themselves" becomes "FORMER SPY REVEALS PSYCHOLOGICAL WEAPON."

Strip away the spy branding, and a lot of it is just common social intelligence packaged as classified wizardry.
 

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I don't doubt he worked for the CIA. What I find funny is how he's using his CIA background to market ordinary social skills as "secret spy tradecraft" for clicks and course sales.

"How to build rapport" becomes "CIA SEDUCTION SECRET."

"How to gather information during a conversation" becomes "CIA MIND CONTROL TECHNIQUE."

"Be observant, ask good questions, and let people talk about themselves" becomes "FORMER SPY REVEALS PSYCHOLOGICAL WEAPON."

Strip away the spy branding, and a lot of it is just common social intelligence packaged as classified wizardry.
Sure, but you could say that about literally anything from any source of information.
 

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This is how I run most of my dates. Its why 95% of my first dates go good and lead to second dates.
First and second dates before you smash, is laughable. :rofl:

Get them talking about things with depth, get in their head, connect on the common ground and keep doing it. At the end of the date, she needs to have done 70% of the talking and you are the leader of the conversation.
70% her talking.

30% you talking.

0% fuking.

The math ain't mathin'.
 

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First and second dates before you smash, is laughable. :rofl:



70% her talking.

30% you talking.

0% fuking.

The math ain't mathin'.
If you know how to sexually flirt via text, you can invest that time in that manner instead of snooping around her socials (lol).

That way, the math changes to

30% her talking

20% you talking

50% her thinking about riding you

And you can smash at the end of the date (or during the date if she invites you straight over) or on date 2

Not quite Mode One, but better than what used to work 30 years ago and not nearly as much today.
 

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50% her thinking about riding you
Thoughts with no actions, is futile.

I can think about losing 20 pounds, but if I'm not putting in the work, the pounds will remain.

And you can smash at the end of the date (or during the date if she invites you straight over) or on date 2
She is a stranger.

Why would you (more likely than not) spend money on a stranger of a woman?

Not quite Mode One, but better than what used to work 30 years ago and not nearly as much today.
It's Mode 2.

And beta.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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