"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

Former CIA spy talking about how to charm anyone quickly

BackInTheGame78

Moderator
Joined
Sep 10, 2014
Messages
16,999
Reaction score
19,356
Also lends itself to seduction because as he said this is the first stage of seduction because the trust/connection you build here then gets transferred to being able to trust that person with their body.

Also love his work on shows like Beyond SkinWalker Ranch and some of the other Discovery channel shows he appears on in an investigative role.


 
Last edited:

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

The Duke

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 4, 2008
Messages
6,564
Reaction score
11,580
This is how I run most of my dates. Its why 95% of my first dates go good and lead to second dates.

Get them talking about things with depth, get in their head, connect on the common ground and keep doing it. At the end of the date, she needs to have done 70% of the talking and you are the leader of the conversation. If she tells you that she knows nothing about you and you know most everything about her you have done a good job.

Before I have a date, I go thru their social media, interests, where they lived, and figure who some of their exes, where they work. Anything and everything. This builds the foundation so I know how to lead the conversation and build the connection quickly.

For the haters out there, I ask you to reflect upon a time someone easily talked you into something and made you feel happy about it.
 
Last edited:

BackInTheGame78

Moderator
Joined
Sep 10, 2014
Messages
16,999
Reaction score
19,356
What's next, I wonder. Navy Seals swimming lessons?
If it is relevant to something most men struggle with these days, why not?

I'd bet the majority of guys who don't get a second date when they are interested in a women don't due to their lack of conversational skills more than anything else.

If those Navy Seals are teaching you how to survive in open water, I would probably listen since you never know when that could actually happen to you. And it probably wouldn't be in a way you would ever expect it.

As my high school physics teacher use to say: "Everybody is likely to be in a head on car crash once in their life. You better know what you plan on doing before it happens if you want to survive."
 
Last edited:

Divorced w 3

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 20, 2022
Messages
3,892
Reaction score
2,558
What's next, I wonder. Navy Seals swimming lessons?
I literally got ambushed once in a parking garage in Columbus Circle, Manhattan. The attendant couldn't speak English and was trying to point something out on the fee, which I had already paid. It was about 10pm and he took the step of calling the rest of the attendants, all with similar language barriers - and then he shut the door to the garage. Shyt went sideways, real fast. They circled around me while the guy kept pointing at the receipt. I showed them that I was dialing 911 and they ended up opening the door and let me and my girlfriend leave. My best friend is a Tier 1 special operator so I called him to tell him about what happened. He told me I did it wrong, because they could have just come at me and taken the phone. His advice? Get a 3.5 inch, serated street legal switchblade, which I have to this day - and get back in the car and punch it straight through the garage door next time.

The CIA lives off of developing personal relationships with real world assets in hostile territory and they are used to doing it fast. Take advice where you can get it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

BackInTheGame78

Moderator
Joined
Sep 10, 2014
Messages
16,999
Reaction score
19,356
I literally got ambushed once in a parking garage in Columbus Circle, Manhattan. The attendant couldn't speak English and was trying to point something out on the fee, which I had already paid. It was about 10pm and he took the step of calling the rest of the attendants, all with similar language barriers - and then he shut the door to the garage. Shyt went sideways, real fast. They circled around me while the guy kept pointing at the receipt. I showed them that I was dialing 911 and they ended up opening the door and let me and my girlfriend leave. My best friend is a Tier 1 special operator so I called him to tell him about what happened. He told me I did it wrong, because they could have just come at me and taken the phone. His advice? Get a 3.5 inch, serated street legal switchblade, which I have to this day - and get back in the car and punch it straight through the garage door next time.

The CIA lives off of developing personal relationships with real world assets in hostile territory and they are used to doing it fast. Take advice where you can get it.
James Bond getting laid a lot wasn't by accident
 

sevbucmash

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 10, 2022
Messages
1,075
Reaction score
547
Age
42
The CIA lives off of developing personal relationships with real world assets in hostile territory and they are used to doing it fast. Take advice where you can get it.
Buddy, you will not be hearing a person who was part of special services going around talking about special services, if guy was retired, he'd be driving a cab somewhere, keeping quiet. That kind of deal. Person in original post video material is a clown. That's the whole point. I don't know how one can eat the story about CIA technique which ex-CIA operative is teaching..... That just outright sounds like crap. You want to roll with it, go ahead. I don't buy it for a second.
 

Divorced w 3

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 20, 2022
Messages
3,892
Reaction score
2,558
Buddy, you will not be hearing a person who was part of special services going around talking about special services, if guy was retired, he'd be driving a cab somewhere, keeping quiet. That kind of deal. Person in original post video material is a clown. That's the whole point. I don't know how one can eat the story about CIA technique which ex-CIA operative is teaching..... That just outright sounds like crap. You want to roll with it, go ahead. I don't buy it for a second.
If he wasn’t legitimate he would get called out for what’s known as stolen valor.

The guys who shot Bin Laden are literally giving tours and writing books. I saw the shooter a couple weeks ago speak at a private club. That idea of quiet professionals went out the window when the guys started seeing the size of the paychecks.
 
Last edited:

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Atom Smasher

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 22, 2008
Messages
8,656
Reaction score
6,611
Age
69
Location
The 7th Dimension
I literally got ambushed once in a parking garage in Columbus Circle, Manhattan. The attendant couldn't speak English and was trying to point something out on the fee, which I had already paid. It was about 10pm and he took the step of calling the rest of the attendants, all with similar language barriers - and then he shut the door to the garage. Shyt went sideways, real fast. They circled around me while the guy kept pointing at the receipt. I showed them that I was dialing 911 and they ended up opening the door and let me and my girlfriend leave. My best friend is a Tier 1 special operator so I called him to tell him about what happened. He told me I did it wrong, because they could have just come at me and taken the phone. His advice? Get a 3.5 inch, serated street legal switchblade, which I have to this day - and get back in the car and punch it straight through the garage door next time.

The CIA lives off of developing personal relationships with real world assets in hostile territory and they are used to doing it fast. Take advice where you can get it.
That’s a great story, and a great concluding statement.
 

BackInTheGame78

Moderator
Joined
Sep 10, 2014
Messages
16,999
Reaction score
19,356
Buddy, you will not be hearing a person who was part of special services going around talking about special services, if guy was retired, he'd be driving a cab somewhere, keeping quiet. That kind of deal. Person in original post video material is a clown. That's the whole point. I don't know how one can eat the story about CIA technique which ex-CIA operative is teaching..... That just outright sounds like crap. You want to roll with it, go ahead. I don't buy it for a second.
He was in the CIA for 7 years and left due to disillusionment of their mission and culture.

This stuff is not hard to Google.
 

The Duke

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 4, 2008
Messages
6,564
Reaction score
11,580

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

sevbucmash

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 10, 2022
Messages
1,075
Reaction score
547
Age
42
I don't doubt he worked for the CIA. What I find funny is how he's using his CIA background to market ordinary social skills as "secret spy tradecraft" for clicks and course sales.

"How to build rapport" becomes "CIA SEDUCTION SECRET."

"How to gather information during a conversation" becomes "CIA MIND CONTROL TECHNIQUE."

"Be observant, ask good questions, and let people talk about themselves" becomes "FORMER SPY REVEALS PSYCHOLOGICAL WEAPON."

Strip away the spy branding, and a lot of it is just common social intelligence packaged as classified wizardry.
 

BackInTheGame78

Moderator
Joined
Sep 10, 2014
Messages
16,999
Reaction score
19,356
I don't doubt he worked for the CIA. What I find funny is how he's using his CIA background to market ordinary social skills as "secret spy tradecraft" for clicks and course sales.

"How to build rapport" becomes "CIA SEDUCTION SECRET."

"How to gather information during a conversation" becomes "CIA MIND CONTROL TECHNIQUE."

"Be observant, ask good questions, and let people talk about themselves" becomes "FORMER SPY REVEALS PSYCHOLOGICAL WEAPON."

Strip away the spy branding, and a lot of it is just common social intelligence packaged as classified wizardry.
Sure, but you could say that about literally anything from any source of information.
 
Top