"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Former CIA spy talking about how to charm anyone quickly

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Also lends itself to seduction because as he said this is the first stage of seduction because the trust/connection you build here then gets transferred to being able to trust that person with their body.

Also love his work on shows like Beyond SkinWalker Ranch and some of the other Discovery channel shows he appears on in an investigative role.


 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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This is how I run most of my dates. Its why 95% of my first dates go good and lead to second dates.

Get them talking about things with depth, get in their head, connect on the common ground and keep doing it. At the end of the date, she needs to have done 70% of the talking and you are the leader of the conversation. If she tells you that she knows nothing about you and you know most everything about her you have done a good job.

Before I have a date, I go thru their social media, interests, where they lived, and figure who some of their exes, where they work. Anything and everything. This builds the foundation so I know how to lead the conversation and build the connection quickly.

For the haters out there, I ask you to reflect upon a time someone easily talked you into something and made you feel happy about it.
 
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What's next, I wonder. Navy Seals swimming lessons?
If it is relevant to something most men struggle with these days, why not?

I'd bet the majority of guys who don't get a second date when they are interested in a women don't due to their lack of conversational skills more than anything else.

If those Navy Seals are teaching you how to survive in open water, I would probably listen since you never know when that could actually happen to you. And it probably wouldn't be in a way you would ever expect it.

As my high school physics teacher use to say: "Everybody is likely to be in a head on car crash once in their life. You better know what you plan on doing before it happens if you want to survive."
 
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What's next, I wonder. Navy Seals swimming lessons?
I literally got ambushed once in a parking garage in Columbus Circle, Manhattan. The attendant couldn't speak English and was trying to point something out on the fee, which I had already paid. It was about 10pm and he took the step of calling the rest of the attendants, all with similar language barriers - and then he shut the door to the garage. Shyt went sideways, real fast. They circled around me while the guy kept pointing at the receipt. I showed them that I was dialing 911 and they ended up opening the door and let me and my girlfriend leave. My best friend is a Tier 1 special operator so I called him to tell him about what happened. He told me I did it wrong, because they could have just come at me and taken the phone. His advice? Get a 3.5 inch, serated street legal switchblade, which I have to this day - and get back in the car and punch it straight through the garage door next time.

The CIA lives off of developing personal relationships with real world assets in hostile territory and they are used to doing it fast. Take advice where you can get it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I literally got ambushed once in a parking garage in Columbus Circle, Manhattan. The attendant couldn't speak English and was trying to point something out on the fee, which I had already paid. It was about 10pm and he took the step of calling the rest of the attendants, all with similar language barriers - and then he shut the door to the garage. Shyt went sideways, real fast. They circled around me while the guy kept pointing at the receipt. I showed them that I was dialing 911 and they ended up opening the door and let me and my girlfriend leave. My best friend is a Tier 1 special operator so I called him to tell him about what happened. He told me I did it wrong, because they could have just come at me and taken the phone. His advice? Get a 3.5 inch, serated street legal switchblade, which I have to this day - and get back in the car and punch it straight through the garage door next time.

The CIA lives off of developing personal relationships with real world assets in hostile territory and they are used to doing it fast. Take advice where you can get it.
James Bond getting laid a lot wasn't by accident
 
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