"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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At a desired height difference of 10", a 5'5" man would have to pursue a 4'7" woman

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Average female height ranges from 5'6-5'7, thus a man of similar stature can easily accentuate his height via footwear and the like, so as to be significantly taller than MOST women on this planet

Really though, @MatureDJ , when even Peter Dinklage has been able to snag a non-dwarf, I'm baffled as to what you're fixation on this subject is
 

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Average female height ranges from 5'6-5'7, thus a man of similar stature can easily accentuate his height via footwear and the like, so as to be significantly taller than MOST women on this planet

Really though, @MatureDJ , when even Peter Dinklage has been able to snag a non-dwarf, I'm baffled as to what you're fixation on this subject is
As an actor, he mogs me.
 

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I've dated plenty of women the same height or an inch or two shorter than me.

Focus on other things you are lacking. It's not height trust me. That's just the excuse you keep hanging your hat on.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A lot of guys say that to get around women's height bias, you just date shorter women.
I've always thought the woman's height is irrelevant. No matter how short they are, they still want that six foot guy.
Because they want the guy who stands out among other men.
It's not about their own height, it's hypergamy. There's nothing special about dominating a woman physically.
They want the big guy who can protect them from other men.
 

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As an actor, he mogs me.
Forgive my impertinence, nonetheless I believe the following analogy can benefit many fellas, yourself included:

Dinklage did what was required to gain what many describe as "high status", DESPITE his possible disadvantages, same way gents like Michael Liebowitz here
spend their 25 years+ in state pen educating themselves both formally and informally, rather than passing the time as most convicted felons do: Snorting dope, playing dice, watching sh-t tons of TV, and fantasizing about how much better things would've turned out, if they'd been born into different environments

The conscious decisions Dinklage made are what allowed him to "mog" other men, surely as the choices Liebowitz made led to him becoming a published author and celebrity commentator, while he was STILL locked up

So, are you going to go to work on yourself ala. Liebowitz, or are you going to be the dating and mating equivalent of a convicted felon who laments his circumstances, as opposed to finally investing in himself/altering the thoughts and behaviors which are sabotaging his prospects for securing The Good Life?
 

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A lot of guys say that to get around women's height bias, you just date shorter women.
I've always thought the woman's height is irrelevant. No matter how short they are, they still want that six foot guy.
Because they want the guy who stands out among other men.
It's not about their own height, it's hypergamy. There's nothing special about dominating a woman physically.
They want the big guy who can protect them from other men.
100%. its not about the height of the woman vs you, its you vs other men around you that she can see. and it does make a difference. the workaround is if and when the taller men give you respect and defer to you.
 

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So, are you going to go to work on yourself ala. Liebowitz, or are you going to be the dating and mating equivalent of a convicted felon who laments his circumstances, as opposed to finally investing in himself/altering the thoughts and behaviors which are sabotaging his prospects for securing The Good Life?
I have worked on myself by becoming a very astute and successful equity investor - and the financial gains have allowed me to consider spinning WealthGame, although that obviously is fraught with traps.
 

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I have worked on myself by becoming a very astute and successful equity investor - and the financial gains have allowed me to consider spinning WealthGame, although that obviously is fraught with traps.
The PUA gurus try to spin having money as a disadvantage, because they will see you as a "beta provider" (notice how they stick that "beta" in there as an insult), and want to use you for your resources. Some say they will even deny you sex because they don't want you to see them as a slvt. Obviously you don't want a gold digger, or for a woman to want you for your money. But a successful man is attractive, that's how it should be played. Women will admire you for your competence, maturity, and ability.

But the real reason to build wealth is for your own benefit.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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