Forgive my impertinence, nonetheless I believe the following analogy can benefit many fellas, yourself included:
Dinklage did what was required to gain what many describe as "high status", DESPITE his possible disadvantages, same way gents like Michael Liebowitz here
spend their 25 years+ in state pen educating themselves both formally and informally, rather than passing the time as most convicted felons do: Snorting dope, playing dice, watching sh-t tons of TV, and fantasizing about how much better things would've turned out, if they'd been born into different environments
The conscious decisions Dinklage made are what allowed him to "mog" other men, surely as the choices Liebowitz made led to him becoming a published author and celebrity commentator, while he was STILL locked up
So, are you going to go to work on yourself ala. Liebowitz, or are you going to be the dating and mating equivalent of a convicted felon who laments his circumstances, as opposed to finally investing in himself/altering the thoughts and behaviors which are sabotaging his prospects for securing The Good Life?