Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Journal entry 1

after 2 years of mostly getting laid via online dating, I have realised now in retrospect , the juice is definitely not worth the squeeze.

God damn , did I log an insane amount of hours on Hinge , Feeld and the rest .. Sheeit.
sure I got laid a fair bit , but these apps just pay out at random guys; the majority of the chats and effort trying to ‘Game ‘ or connect w women are a total waste.

**** I could’ve completed a degree with that time or picked up some new hobbies. Or just paid for sex,
And my social skills have suffered spending so much time on my phone ..1000%

anyway; whinge over.

So Ive decided to get back out on the streets and try my hand at cold approaching again.
Like the good old days.
and I am starting again now from a place of very high approach anxiety and confusion, having spent the last 2-3 years over consuming PUA /RP theory.
Each time I’ve gone out to do CA in these years I noticed how tense /stressed ive been and also how overloaded with different info my brain is.

TMI and analysis paralysis is real.

Ianyway so I’ve realsied I need to (a) small chunk and (b) get practicing so went out on Friday for a day game session for 3 hours in the cbd . and back on it today again .

this is mainly just for my own recording of thoughts and conversations and meeting women (and just people)

Stay tuned for progress updates.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Friday CBD
So I drive to the city.. and sheeit if Ive totally forgotten how the city is now . It’s absolutely terming with Asians. They are everywhere!!
It’s like Beijing here downtown. 50:1 ratio. Jeezos.

And the city is so young! Everyone looks like teenagers. Fvck! This is a fail already.

Anyway, so after the intial shock I walk to the centrql Library park where I recall some PUa dudes doing CA way back in the day. I see a few who may be , but they are solo and just walking through maybe and super young.

I then go to the super mall, which used to be the other main spot of the Day Gamers.(.I’d met a coach guy there once so was hoping to spot him there and chat. )
Can’t see anyone there. just very young Asian folks and some others, but all way young.
I go upstairs to a bar ,my old pickup spot .. it is dead AF. I recall some memories . And also realise that was so long ago. Dang.

I end up at Starbucks charging my phone and vape, I scope out the joint inside. It’s just too young. And really I do not see any attractive ones either (for me).
I end up outside drinking coffee and vaping ,just watching all the various types walk by,
There are homeless people and weirdos and junkies…lots of anime dressed asian chicks,
2 disabled chicks with purple and blue hair lolloped past.. some cool suavely dressed foreign dudes…And also multiple hot white blonde Beckies (mmm! :devil: ) ..but every single one of them is with a dude that looks to be her BF , a Chad guy , who is at least 6-12 inches taller than Becky,

Danggg.
Reality check for me .

I see some woman in my age range oh a bench next to me rolling a ciggie…she notices me.

So I prepare to finally do my first approach,,,

to be continued ..!
 

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So I’m preparing to walk around the glass panel of the café area to open this woman… when a junkie steals my lunch and gets in before me to ask her please could he have a cigarette.. Then he sits down and starts talking to her.
After 5 mins he’s still there . She is mid . So I call it and walk back up to my car,

I had even written a cheat sheet of openers before I left home and it was in my pocket unused.

I did drive back home through a more hipster area and noticed lots of cool folks hanging out at some funky bars and cafes. So I’ll target that area next time.

So lesson of the day - choose your niche
pick the right location(s) and right demographics firstly , lol…
 

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Update to last post,
So after my fail on Friday I tried again when I was out and about on Sunday .

After some though had my opener prepared.
This is my structure

me -“hey! Quick question - do you have a brother??”

Her -“yes/no/what?”

Me - because I would MOG him into the Shadow Realm bro ! Into the SHADOW REALMMM hahaha” :rofl:
(Delivered with a victorious , confident laugh)


note on my opener
it doesn’t matter what she says in reply to the question or if she understands the punchline . Likely no woman will get it,

the purpose is to engage her so I can make solid eye contact long enough to observe her eyes for any flashes of attraction , and observe her face for micro expressions of attraction (smirking etc)

this is what I’m currently small chunking to get my skills back. Super solid eye contact.

The old saying of “it’s all in the eyes “ is very true . And it is the first and probably most important thing for me to practice in the interaction .

I call it ‘Laser Eyes.’

…and my role model is Dr Hannibal Lector :rofl:

so far since Sunday I’ve had 2 interactions with women in a cafe and shop where I’ve done this and have started to see this “flash “ across the eyes and notice micro expressions in their face,

Yassss :cool::Do_O

my 2 maxims for opening

“It’s all in the eyes”

And

“First impressions last “
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I don't understand what the purpose of saying something idiotic is.
It’s not idiotic , as she won’t understand it .
It’s just indirect and “chaff” to get her attention and engage her to observe me.

if she wants me to explain it . I’ll tell her what Mog means and how I’m claiming to be better looking than her brother.
Thens she may roll her eyes or laugh. No matter.

it’s just some bullsh1t banter to engage.
 
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“Oh hey!
Quick question - Do you have a brother ?” Haha
 

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It’s not idiotic , as she won’t understand it .
It’s just indirect and “chaff” to get her attention and engage her to observe me.

if she wants me to explain it . I’ll tell her what Mog means and how I’m claiming to be better looking than her brother.
Thens she may roll her eyes or laugh. No matter.

it’s just some bullsh1t banter to engage.
Still makes no sense to me, but you do you.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I really like this movie scene, and use it as a model /reference for the kind of vibe to project .

it’s the intensity of the vibe . And Lectors laser eye contact and his dark charismatic energy.

Which for me ,as being quite rusty in approaching ..need to get back again.
Just to hold very solid EC and read the womans eyes and face…as I am talking.
her face will give away her attraction signals.
What I’m saying is not that important .
As long as it’s indirect and not leading with some generic cheesy looks based compliment. (Yuk):rolleyes:

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I really like this movie scene, and use it as a model /reference for the kind of vibe to project .

it’s the intensity of the vibe . And Lectors laser eye contact and his dark charismatic energy.

Which for me ,as being quite rusty in approaching ..need to get back again.
Just to hold very solid EC and read the womans eyes and face…as I am talking.
her face will give away her attraction signals.
What I’m saying is not that important .
As long as it’s indirect and not leading with some genetic looks based compliment.

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So you want to project a sociopathic serial killer vibe? Good luck with that.
 

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So you want to project a sociopathic serial killer vibe? Good luck with that.
no. it’s just about the intensity and locking in the EC.
He’s just my model for it.
It’s about projecting a solid/intense vibe to capture attention , lock in the EC and give the woman a ‘jolt’.

So it should come out looking like this ;
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cos I is handsome ;)
 
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no. it’s just about the intensity and locking in the EC.
He’s just my model for it.
It’s about projecting a solid/intense vibe to capture attention , lock in the EC and give the woman a ‘jolt’.

So it should come out looking like this ;
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cos I is handsome ;)
Being handsome and "weird" doesn't do a lot for you.
 

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Being handsome and "weird" doesn't do a lot for you.
weird lol:rolleyes:
Go on then , advise me what would you suggest , how would you open. Please don’t let it be going in leading with a cheesy cookie cutter compliment .. :rolleyes:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Update to last post,
So after my fail on Friday I tried again when I was out and about on Sunday .

After some though had my opener prepared.
This is my structure

me -“hey! Quick question - do you have a brother??”

Her -“yes/no/what?”

Me - because I would MOG him into the Shadow Realm bro ! Into the SHADOW REALMMM hahaha” :rofl:
(Delivered with a victorious , confident laugh)
for some reason i thought of this lol

http://instagr.am/p/Ddo0BpiRX47/
http://instagr.am/p/Ddmbj4NKdXS/
 

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I like this guy.

how he’s just using simple statements and has that simple arrogance.

“Hi. I’m Chad. I’m kinda like the campus beauty around here”
“Did you guys notice all the NERDs around here “?
“You guys look like…”
“I like you both…”

Hes giving off an easy, deserving , arrogance. :up:

Just assuming the sale . making mostly simple statements, not asking many questions about them , not giving many compliments either (any?)

wow….Nice. :up:Great video.
 
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@characternote

I do have a therory of women reacting to a man’s height.. there being an innate hard wired Dom-sub primal response to that. Just his massive height

like, that it triggers arousal immediately.

hence it doesn’t matter what he says, as long as it’s not completely wussy/beta.

be interesting to see if Chad acted like a total pvssy wuss , stuttering and anxious AF. If it would make any difference.

I’m speculating mayhe a way to trigger this response / innate primal thing , as a shorter dude.!is to be massively “boss” and commanding with the voice.

I did roll with a shorter player guy, who had a voice like this. Very “rude” /sneering / bossy tonality when opening. It seemed to trigger that kind of instant compliance … in ch1cks closer to his league tho.

Chicks a bit taller than him ,!but not super tall chicks .

he was pretty handsome too but , so that’s a thing.

but…still his voice tones snapped them to attention I reckon , immediately.

I was out last night at a gig and tried to open a tall chick next to me , “hey hage you seen this band before ?” But she just half sneered and shook her head and gave me nothing.

maybe I ought to have barked it at her with more command-tone.

“hey b1tch! Have you seen this f*cking BAND before?” Haha.

Could’ve used my ‘brother’ opener .. dang.. but it was a bit too loud anyway.
 

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I like this guy.

how he’s just using simple statements and has that simple arrogance.

“Hi. I’m Chad. I’m kinda like the campus beauty around here”
“Did you guys notice all the NERDs around here “?
“You guys look like…”
“I like you both…”

Hes giving off an easy, deserving , arrogance. :up:

Just assuming the sale . making mostly simple statements, not asking many questions about them , not giving many compliments either (any?)

wow….Nice. :up:Great video.
You become what you think about, so be careful about what you are thinking.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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