You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
wow, Gene Simmons?5000
Past a certain point it's more about how much of a sex addict/hedonist you are or how much you're trying to prove or how much effort you're putting in.70 ish
Who really cares, though. It's just a number. Most people would rather have slept with prime Adriana Lima and megan Fox in '2 and a half men' (17?) and that's it, instead of a 100 count of average looking women.
Also, how much effort did one put into their lay count?! I mean, I guess anyone get get a massive lay count if he spends every spare second swiping and cold approaching, especially if going for girls below him. Or travelling to 3rd world countries etc. (or other 'tricks')
And It's not like it's something to really brag about anyway, in a way. I mean, it's not really a 'skill'. That's why sosuaves sole adivce when it comes to this is basically 'hit the gym more', 'approach more girls', 'make more money'.
Some really really good looking dude is gonna have a high lay count of stunners, AND he likely didn't have to work for it at all. (like my ex wing) - But do we clap for him when he tells us his 400 slay count of mostly teenage models? I mean, it's kind of to be expected when you look at him lol. It would only really be a flex if he was 5ft tall and bald and pulled of regular miracles, but then we know from infields of professional PUA's (presumably the best that exist it this or at least very close) that there is a very real 'ceiling' when it comes to this and they all basically get the results you'd expect and not one has ever come close to blowing my mind with their results
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
over 35 doesn't count either unless you're 50+There has to be a point system based on quality. Older women, fat women, single mothers, and ugly women don't count. In fact, you are deducted points if you have slept with them.
Hot girl 18-22 100 points
Hot girl 23-26 90 points
Hot girl 27-29 30 points
Hot girl 30+ 8 points
Hot girl 35+ 2.5 points
Hot girl 40+ 0 points
Ugly girl any age -1000 points
Single mother any age -1500 points
Fat girl any age -2500 points
The whole point of Sosuave is to get HOT YOUNG girls.
You come in here and say "I've slept with 40 women. 25 single mothers, 10 ugly, 10 fat" You've slept NO women.
If that's your ultimate goal in life, I feel sorry for you.There has to be a point system based on quality. Older women, fat women, single mothers, and ugly women don't count. In fact, you are deducted points if you have slept with them.
Hot girl 18-22 100 points
Hot girl 23-26 90 points
Hot girl 27-29 30 points
Hot girl 30+ 8 points
Hot girl 35+ 2.5 points
Hot girl 40+ 0 points
Ugly girl any age -1000 points
Single mother any age -1500 points
Fat girl any age -2500 points
The whole point of Sosuave is to get HOT YOUNG girls.
You come in here and say "I've slept with 40 women. 25 single mothers, 10 ugly, 10 fat" You've slept NO women.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Why are you assuming for your own agenda?If that's your ultimate goal in life, I feel sorry for you.
Has nothing to do with that. As a man, women should always be a secondary pursuit to your goals and ambitions, not the center of the universe.Why are you assuming for your own agenda?
no one is saying that lol. i might be misunderstanding what you quoted in your post, but to me a notch count is incidental and not much else. i just find it suspect how many guys here are claiming 100 or even 200+ and i would LOVE to see a photo collage of all those chicks.Has nothing to do with that. As a man, women should always be a secondary pursuit to your goals and ambitions, not the center of the universe.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Nope.To the men with higher body counts (20+), any regrets?
This guy gamesstat padding...
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.