What does your dating routine look like?

[tesla8520]

After dating different women for a while, I have you developed a routine i tend to follow. I'm pretty sure you did too.

For example, mine is to go for a walk first and get a gelato or a tea, then, If we're having a good time and she feels comfortable with it, we might go to my place. (Usually a 5 minute car drive from there).
Then we either cook something together or order a pizza.
After that, we watch a movie together, usually lying on the bed.
And if there's chemistry and we're both feeling it, then things can naturally progress from there.

This is the routine I've got the most success with..
Usually when we're out for a walk, I tend to stop and try to compliment her or say things about the environment while trying to touch her and see how she respond.
So If she is touchy I will ask her to come to my place.
If she's not touchy, I will prolong the walk.

Then when at my place, it happen also that as soon as I close the door, women hit on me, or they just feel safe that they could eye contact me, and I do understand they want sex right away.
This is not very common but I had once a woman to take my pants off and give head withouth even talking.

Let's say she still not comfortable, we'll stay there deciding whether to cook or order something.
Iprefer to cook, just because I can be touchy while cooking.
But also because I can cook my own food, and it will be awesome.

Given that, then we drink a glass of wine, but I never give them 2, because they will be drunk and I don't want that.
Then we chose a movie and hit the bed.
The longest movie I saw last 5 minute ahahah, the woman understand immediately we're there to have fun, so we start sex.


How does my routine look like?
Then, I'm very curious on how I could improve it, and also please describe how your routine look like too.
We want to share that knowledge for the guys

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

1st dates:
comes over to my place -> bang
drinks at a bar -> comes over later that night -> bang

2nd dates:
drinks at a bar for 1st date -> comes over for 2nd date -> bang
hike or beach date for 1st date-> comes over for 2nd date -> bang


No much variation... Looking back over the past several years I think every girl I've banged was on the first or second date and majority of my first dates are either at a bar or my place. I mean i've had some odd 1st dates here and there, for instance next week i'm going on a motorcycle ride with some latina chick, but stuff like that is an anomaly and in those cases I still push for her to come over by the 2nd date regardless. I find with some women it's not viable to try to get them to come over on the first night, to I just plant the seeds to have her come over another night instead. I think in the majority of cases where actually banged banged, the 2nd date was already being discussed by the end of the 1st one.

I kind of fell into this routine by accident I'm actually fine with having sex on the 3rd date but for whatever reason this system seems to work for me. My whole strategy is built upon filtering out low-interest women as quickly as possible; I can assume if they won't fck by the 2nd date, they aren't high interest.

Once they're home, I don't really have any "seduction" routines or anything like that. I will usually just throw some dumb movie on like any other guy would, cooking dinner and drinks is involved, but usually not. Every girl is different when it comes to intimacy and solving the rubiks cupe of getting into her panties, so I don't really find having a "routine" or "system" useful in that context.

 

[The Duke]

1st date: meet at bar with good atmosphere. If things go good I take her to another venue within walking distance.

2nd date: meet at a bar with some live music.

3rd date: invite her over to my place or pick her up at hers. Usually do some action date(concert, pool, dancing, top golf, etc) them back to her place or mine and sex usually happens.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

1st dates:
comes over to my place -> bang
drinks at a bar -> comes over later that night -> bang

2nd dates:
drinks at a bar for 1st date -> comes over for 2nd date -> bang
hike or beach date for 1st date-> comes over for 2nd date -> bang


No much variation... Looking back over the past several years I think every girl I've banged was on the first or second date and majority of my first dates are either at a bar or my place. I mean i've had some odd 1st dates here and there, for instance next week i'm going on a motorcycle ride with some latina chick, but stuff like that is an anomaly and in those cases I still push for her to come over by the 2nd date regardless. I find with some women it's not viable to try to get them to come over on the first night, to I just plant the seeds to have her come over another night instead. I think in the majority of cases where actually banged banged, the 2nd date was already being discussed by the end of the 1st one.

I kind of fell into this routine by accident I'm actually fine with having sex on the 3rd date but for whatever reason this system seems to work for me. My whole strategy is built upon filtering out low-interest women as quickly as possible; I can assume if they won't fck by the 2nd date, they aren't high interest.

Once they're home, I don't really have any "seduction" routines or anything like that. I will usually just throw some dumb movie on like any other guy would, cooking dinner and drinks is involved, but usually not. Every girl is different when it comes to intimacy and solving the rubiks cupe of getting into her panties, so I don't really find having a "routine" or "system" useful in that context.

Watch out for the latina chick playing you. The interest in motorcycle riding could be sexual transmutation on her part (i.e., the kind of chick who gets her jollies off w/o actually having sex). Plus, Catholic.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Watch out for the latina chick playing you. The interest in motorcycle riding could be sexual transmutation on her part (i.e., the kind of chick who gets her jollies off w/o actually having sex). Plus, Catholic.

bro what

she just bought a new bike and is still getting comfortable with it so i offered to practice with her. even if we don't bang i still want to just for the love of riding, and i'd much rather do that with a latina chick than some rando.

 

[CornbreadFed]

1st date: Anywhere convenient and affordable

2nd date: Go off what was brought up in first date or the same shvt, but try to end at her place or mine.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

If you are getting a woman to your house that quickly why are you taking so long to go from there to "possibly" banging?

Seems like you are literally c0ck blocking yourself with this process.

 

[CornbreadFed]

If you are getting a woman to your house that quickly why are you taking so long to go from there to "possibly" banging?

Seems like you are literally c0ck blocking yourself with this process.

Chad that gives out creepy vibes

 

[tesla8520]

1st date: meet at bar with good atmosphere. If things go good I take her to another venue within walking distance.

2nd date: meet at a bar with some live music.

3rd date: invite her over to my place or pick her up at hers. Usually do some action date(concert, pool, dancing, top golf, etc) them back to her place or mine and sex usually happens.

Curious why you don't bang in 1st or 2nd date Duke

 

[The Duke]

Curious why you don't bang in 1st or 2nd date Duke

Its never my mission to bang on the typical first or second date, although if it happens thats great too. I just shared what my typical routine looks like.

 

[remarkable]

This depended on the quality of the woman and how strong my interest was. I put it more effort when I was more interested. Though, sometimes, the women I was less interested turned out to be better women. But with limited time and energy, I just had to be more selfish.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Depends on the women. Routine signals that an approach is suboptimal because it should be flexible enough to adjust to each opportunity individually with what would give you the best chance of success.

Routine means that you are trying to fit round pegs into square holes at times which is not what you want to be doing.

Be fluid like water not rigid like steel

 

[tesla8520]

Be fluid like water not rigid like steel

Even water to be fluid need a container that will shape it.
So the routines are a container, and what happen and you adjust to, is being water.
A man should be container and his own water at the same time.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Even water to be fluid need a container that will shape it.
So the routines are a container, and what happen and you adjust to, is being water.
A man should be container and his own water at the same time.

Yes that's true, but too often men are far too rigid.

 

[tesla8520]

Yes that's true, but too often men are far too rigid.

That is interesting since you might want to be respected by women, but at the same time you might say you need to bend some times, so it would be nice to know more about that.
(Actually italian man are flexible like butter is, while I imagine american man rigid like steel)

 

[Mertz09]

Its never my mission to bang on the typical first or second date, although if it happens thats great too. I just shared what my typical routine looks like.

This is an interesting topic. I lean more towards what the Duke talks about.
I am curious as to what age group these women are that you guys are talking about? 20, 30, 40, 50s ? I’m thinking this is the younger women because I don’t see a woman like B excellent who’s in her mid 50s behaving like you are describing. As B says “That is how the higher quality gals do things.” I believe “higher Quality” = older, and more mature.

 

[Velasco]

so far this year all my lays have been straight to my house. i get their number from where i met them in public and then invited them over to my place.

 

[nicksaiz65]

so far this year all my lays have been straight to my house. i get their number from where i met them in public and then invited them over to my place.

“Just as planned”

 

[The Duke]

This is an interesting topic. I lean more towards what the Duke talks about.
I am curious as to what age group these women are that you guys are talking about? 20, 30, 40, 50s ? I’m thinking this is the younger women because I don’t see a woman like B excellent who’s in her mid 50s behaving like you are describing. As B says “That is how the higher quality gals do things.” I believe “higher Quality” = older, and more mature.

I am referring to all women, regardless of age. If they don't subscribe to my way of doing things, then I find a better prospect. I don't think putting out on the first or second date means you are low quality, nor does not having sex until the 8th date make you quality.

I did notice when women start to get in their early 40's and later, they aren't as quick to have sex. They like to drag the process out longer and to me the juice isn't worth the squeeze. There was a time I would date 45-49yo plus women but never again.

 

[Sega Genesis]

I don't think putting out on the first or second date means you are low quality, nor does not having sex until the 8th date make you quality.

I agree with this^^ and to @Mertz09 your attitude that a woman who has early sex is 'low quality' is precisely why many women intentionally withhold sex despite wanting it.

Social conditioning and concern the man might view her as a 'hoe' and low quality. I am guilty of this myself not proud to admit!

But I am rethinking how I view things and conduct myself because I think every situation is different and shouid be assessed as such.

Also BE can correct me if I am wrong but I recall her posting she and her now-husband had sex on first date that lasted three days!

And they are now married!