"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The attention provided by simping has brought down birth rates…

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My hypothesis which will be difficult to prove is that women desire attention more than sex and as a consequence the over saturated market of simps is providing that attention for women without the corresponding increase in sexual frequency that would have occurred in the days before online simping was available to provide said attention.

Now follow me on this concept. Generally women now are inundated with attention online and this has caused a dysfunctional dating scene that results in less committed relationships which directly impacts pregnancy relates

of course this is a multifactorial issue but simps are partially to blame and honestly in my opinion they are creating a bit of a traffic jam in the social landscape in general

thoughts?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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This doesn't need to be a scientific deep dive, because it's obvious why this is:
  • Social media globalizes the sexual marketplace
  • Lonely men subsidize these women's lives for a parasocial relationship (Twitch, OnlyFans, Instagram)
  • Even average women now massively outearn most men as a result
  • Most women are naturally hypergamous (they want their men to be better off than they are), and shoot for the top 10% of men
  • The top 10% of men have options, and often do not settle down (famous actors, successful musicians, etc)
The result is that attractive women want the best guy they can get...and those guys won't become exclusive with those women...and the other 90% of men can't rise to the elevated standards these women now have. Meaning nobody is happy.

Though I wouldn't necessarily say that's a bad thing...the world population doubled from 4b to currently over 8b in something like less than 50 years. That is not a sustainable thing.
 

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Though I wouldn't necessarily say that's a bad thing...the world population doubled from 4b to currently over 8b in something like less than 50 years. That is not a sustainable thing.
On the other hand, the low birth rate not replacing the population can create all sorts of problems.

Anyway, I'm not surprised women prefer attention to sex - it's the dopamine hit without the work or investment.
 

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Yes i also think as a woman the attention provides the validation without the risk of pregnancy

i really love an adore women which is my downfall as they can be my kryptonite
 

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As a guy who just had a kid, this is completely wrong. Do you have any fvcking children, OP? Unless you need your kids working your subsistence farm, children are a net negative for economics and productivity. They're expensive and drain away all of your time and energy. Birth rates are down because having a child in a modern economy is basically volunteering to cut off your hands.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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As a guy who just had a kid, this is completely wrong. Do you have any fvcking children, OP? Unless you need your kids working your subsistence farm, children are a net negative for economics and productivity. They're expensive and drain away all of your time and energy. Birth rates are down because having a child in a modern economy is basically volunteering to cut off your hands.
A child of the corn huh
 

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I think this is part of it. Demographic decline (less fertile women over time) and institutional access to resources that bypass your average man are also contributing factors.
 

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this economic theory that children are expensive and stuff like that, mainly is something that is parroted by people whom do not have premium income but want to live the premium life. Basically punching way above their income lifestyle wise
Can a minimum salary afford 2k a month on daycare alone? What about this excellent health insurance provided by the meth capital McDonalds in rural America unless you have 15k plus in cash laying around. In addition, the health systems in these low cost areas are generally dog shvt too because of logistics and any doctor worth a shvt would rather live somewhere else so good luck Chuck.
 
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As a guy who just had a kid, this is completely wrong. Do you have any fvcking children, OP? Unless you need your kids working your subsistence farm, children are a net negative for economics and productivity. They're expensive and drain away all of your time and energy. Birth rates are down because having a child in a modern economy is basically volunteering to cut off your hands.
i get that sentiment. I have one child and she is probably the only thing keeping me here in the United States for now
 

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Birth rates plunged in the 60s when the contraceptive pill was introduced alongside rising levels of both male and female education. As countries became wealthier and these become more widely available, birth rates decreased. Immigration has been one of the main things offsetting this and allowing populations to continue growing.

Fertility declined the second it became a choice, long before online simping was even a thing.

Total fertility rate - Wikipedia
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Healthcare is decent in low cost areas, you can not do complicated stuff there, but for day to day stuff is ok

complicated stuff occur rarely, so for most of what you need you should be ok

quite sure that daycare is way cheaper in those areas as well
Can you specify a low cost area then? What is a good example?
 

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The only verifiable things that could explain this are:

1) Less sex is being had
2) The fertility rate is declining, so it takes more sex to produce the same outcomes

We know both of these to be true, and 2 actually amplifies the effects of 1, since now we already aren't having enough sex to maintain the birth rate, but on top of that, the sex being had is more inneficient in producing children.
 

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Increasing birth rates(assuming, for the sake this convo, that in and of itself is desirable)isn't complicated... More folks will have to spend more time mating, and less hate watching Hasan Piker's latest yammering over on YT yet again

Liklihood of many actually doing so is currently more bleak than chances of being able to stroll through downtown Shreveport, WITHOUT the soles of both feet getting filled with used syringes
 

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My hypothesis which will be difficult to prove is that women desire attention more than sex and as a consequence the over saturated market of simps is providing that attention for women without the corresponding increase in sexual frequency that would have occurred in the days before online simping was available to provide said attention.

Now follow me on this concept. Generally women now are inundated with attention online and this has caused a dysfunctional dating scene that results in less committed relationships which directly impacts pregnancy relates

of course this is a multifactorial issue but simps are partially to blame and honestly in my opinion they are creating a bit of a traffic jam in the social landscape in general

thoughts?
I think it’s more complicated than simply saying women want attention more than sex, although attention is definitely part of the equation.

Women’s standards have risen, especially over the last decade, and some of that is probably generational. A lot of Millennial and Gen Z women watched what their mothers and grandmothers went through and decided they don’t want the same relationship dynamics.

A lot of women still want marriage and children. They just don’t necessarily want them with men who subscribe heavily to incel, blackpill, or even certain red-pill ideas about relationships for starters.

You also hear some men romanticize the 1950s, when one income could supposedly support a house, a car, children, and a stay-at-home wife. Economically, that model is much harder for the average person to reproduce today.

At the same time, having a job, transportation, and your own stable living situation is increasingly viewed as the baseline rather than something that automatically makes a man desirable. And among younger men, you have a meaningful number who are underemployed, unemployed, financially struggling, or still living with family.

Then you add attraction, personality, confidence, social skills, humor, emotional stability, and compatibility.

That creates a much larger filtering process.

So yes, online simping and unlimited attention probably contribute to the problem by creating a kind of traffic jam in the dating market. But I don’t think simps alone explain declining relationships or sexual frequency. They’re one piece of a much bigger economic, cultural, and technological shift.
 

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My hypothesis which will be difficult to prove is that women desire attention more than sex and as a consequence the over saturated market of simps is providing that attention for women without the corresponding increase in sexual frequency that would have occurred in the days before online simping was available to provide said attention.

Now follow me on this concept. Generally women now are inundated with attention online and this has caused a dysfunctional dating scene that results in less committed relationships which directly impacts pregnancy relates

of course this is a multifactorial issue but simps are partially to blame and honestly in my opinion they are creating a bit of a traffic jam in the social landscape in general

thoughts?
I've said the same things for years. The currency that is being traded between man and woman in the singles scene is sex for attention and men don't help their cause when they provide attention for free on social media. Studies have shown women spend more time online and are more active than men. Its no surprise why. Why go out and deal with guys she doesn't want when she can get her needs met online and control who interacts with her. Who posts more pictures of themselves and changes their profile picture more often? It's all for attention.

The dopamine hit that a woman gets from attention isn't as strong and instantaneous as what a male gets from sex, but its provides a level buzz that can last for hours.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Frustrated Men don’t realize that the state and a woman’s employer has taken over 90% of what a woman needs. You will never be able to out protect the state. You will never be able to out alpha or out provide her employer. Successful men are successful because they provide the 10% the government and employee cannot give to a woman. Frustrated men just sit there and cry about how things were better in the days of legal guardianship/promote fvcking third world peasant women.
 

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This is what happens when you give women all the power. Society stops working.
 

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Women don't want simps just for attention. Women eventually want to find a quality person. They just think getting a large amount of attention means greater chance she'll find someone.

By the way, she doesn't get flattered getting attention from unattractive simps. Put it this way. Let's say you have 100 women simping for you but all of them are incredibly obese and a 1 (out of 10). You wouldn't feel flattered either. That's how women see their simps. She won't care you're simping her if she thinks you're lowly and disgusting.
 

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This is what happens when you give women all the power
We've given all the wrong PEOPLE(Specifically: The Straight A kids in K-12, who excel at repeating everything they read in a textbook, never digging beneath the surface of anything)power they're unfit for. Seriously: Post-Eisenhower, note how many non-Ivy Leaguers have occupied The Oval Office
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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