Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
yh i know the sound is bad I tried to use a filter but it ddidnt do alot.Sounds like a squadron of Blackhawk helicopters outside your room. They coming to get you?
You strike me as somebody upset with my success because you think you deserve to be rewarded for being "nice" by advocating for being monogamous, so when you see me getting those results WITHOUT being monogamous, you're trying to impose your beliefs on me so you have some moral high ground.@kavi
For sure I am gonna be telling any women I marry I expect them to bring me other women to fck cos if I am a good husband who made them happy why shoudnt I be fcking more women than some players out there. They need to make sure I am fcking the most women If I am the best guy who made them happy. If I am the best guy and I am not fkcing the most women then sex can have no value then I will simply not indugle in sex or romance with my wive(s)
Obviously I expect that. Why would I allow my wifes friend group to be fcking wigh loser guys like you, oh yh also i didnt tell you I have a big D and very good in bed so there is no reason for females to be ffing other guysYou think that if you were to get married, your reward for being such a "good husband" is that your wife will bring you other women to f***, while she stays loyal. You think that by being this "amazing alpha male" of a man, you are entitled to have the security of a committed relationship, while ALSO having the freedom to sleep around and make up for all those opportunities you lost by being monogamous.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I dont wtf your talking about I get serious attention from females of all races esp white ones. Yh my speech is kinda messed up tbh I will admit that but again these things dont rally cause a problem, also im not in the habit of public speaking or video making so ofcrouse i caan improve that.OMG?? This is the fool that was spewing out all this nonsense?
I couldn't make out 90% of what he was saying, not from the poor sound quality but because he sounds like someone with a speech impediment sucking on throat lozenges.
Kavi, most people around here are looking to improve themselves and learn from experienced PUA's, but you come here trying to lay down the law with little to substantiate.
On top of that, you look like a nerdy middle aged curry shop owner that can't find a date. I seriously wonder the level of females you attract.
A little humility would go a long way for you..... a long way.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Stop NOW or we will drive you into the sea!!!I made it 11 minutes and 26 seconds in before I gave up due to poor sound quality and the fact that you end every other phrase with "yeah" or "innit yeah".
Anyway, I think I understand your frustration, and believe this quote is particularly telling:
You strike me as somebody upset with my success because you think you deserve to be rewarded for being "nice" by advocating for being monogamous, so when you see me getting those results WITHOUT being monogamous, you're trying to impose your beliefs on me so you have some moral high ground.
But as that quote shows, you don't even adhere to your beliefs. You think that if you were to get married, your reward for being such a "good husband" is that your wife will bring you other women to f***, while she stays loyal. You think that by being this "amazing alpha male" of a man, you are entitled to have the security of a committed relationship, while ALSO having the freedom to sleep around and make up for all those opportunities you lost by being monogamous.
You're trying to be a good person because you think it'll get you into "heaven", and not because you're actually a good person.
You also seem to hold a much higher opinion of yourself than what's being verified by reality. I did when I was younger. But the difference between you and me is that upon realizing that, I made conscious decisions to improve and bring my reality more in line with my perception. Meanwhile, you choose to disdain others and cry out against the system, rather than bringing yourself up to meet the world's standards.
Because, simply put, if you were as great as you claim to be, you would be getting laid more - and certainly wouldn't be complaining about somebody else who is.