"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How many of you actually believe in the alpha bete sigma etc theory.

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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yes the theory is valid. but the cause of the difference is a mystery for many as is the scope and reach. a man across the world that is alpha doesn't stop you from being alpha in your pond. ask ten men what makes an alpha and will get 10 different answers.
 

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yes the theory is valid. but the cause of the difference is a mystery for many as is the scope and reach. a man across the world that is alpha doesn't stop you from being alpha in your pond. ask ten men what makes an alpha and will get 10 different answers.
Great point.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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There's truth to it but we shouldn't really be too concerned about this stuff........

Instead of worrying about beta or alpha just try to be the best person you can be. Set personal goals and reach for them....this is a better thing to do than worrying about where you fit on "pecking order".
 

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There's some truth to it but it's not as black and white as the RP community tries to make it seem
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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"Alpha"-like "Red Pill-was fine, when it/they were just a little harmless slang. Today though, we're essentially having religious battles over the "true" definitions of these terms, the likes of which are almost as absurd as the clash between Sunni and Shia, Catholic and Protestant

Hell, the fracturing of The Manosphere actually mirrors what took place within Feminism, around the same time:
5:00-6:14 In a similar fashion, the definition of "Alpha" today no longer means: "Being self-assured, unabashed about your heterosexuality, and wielding an immense amount of influence".

Whereas Feminists have to regularly swear their fealty to Intersectionality/denounce The White CIS Racist Homophobic Capitalistic Patriarchal Power structure that's allegedly oppressed them since birth, today's self-described Alpha Males are required to publicly announce their Red Pill status every 5 minutes/mindlessly spout off buzzwords like Gynocentrism, Feminine Primary Social Order, Hypergamy, WITHOUT ever asking: "What the hell does any of that claptrap even mean?"
 

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There is also something else like the theory of control or the power theory.


For example: Why do girls suddenly show a disinterest in you when you message them too much? Why does a girl cheat on you and when you leave her cry about it and want you back? Why does a girl **** test you? Why does sex die after marriage

They want to see if you are in control or if they can control you.
As long as you are a high SMV male all your relationships will be successful if you are incontrol.
But remember, once you lose control the relationship is over.


It's just finding ways to be connected, intimate with her, have a good life, but not giving the power/control to her. (This is what people say when you don't give her room for "disrespecting" you.)
 

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Why do girls suddenly show a disinterest in you when you message them too much?
-Such behavior is more annoying than being forced, at gunpoint, to listen to Bridget Jones's Diary on audiobook, read by Michele Wolf

-It's indicative of someone who has too much time on their hands, and has nothing of substance in their lives

Most PEOPLE find such traits unappealing
 

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I believe it's absolutely true.

I only have trouble with the sigma handle. Other than that, most men are beta because beta is what keeps the world go round and round. Too many alpha are literally like an army of soldiers/ one man armies that will fight for the throne.

This generation is beta'fied so much that they/we won't be willing to give our life for the greater cause. We all want to maintain our cushion job and lifestyle even knowing that on the opposite side of the world, or even the city people are starving.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I believe it's absolutely true.

I only have trouble with the sigma handle. Other than that, most men are beta because beta is what keeps the world go round and round. Too many alpha are literally like an army of soldiers/ one man armies that will fight for the throne.

This generation is beta'fied so much that they/we won't be willing to give our life for the greater cause. We all want to maintain our cushion job and lifestyle even knowing that on the opposite side of the world, or even the city people are starving.
I kinda went off topic there. However..any man can (and will) transition between being alha and beta . We are animals at heart, and thus we are 1000000 % aware of our position in the social hierarchy. Being beta is "fine " for now but will change in a heartbeat if let's say war or any kind of natural disaster takes over. To give credit to the betas: if tune get tough you'll probably see a lot of man change in real fast like domestic pigs can go to feral hogs in a few weeks.

Being beta is the safe route, but simultaneously it's the death of any civilization because eventually some kind of Alpha will emerge and take over by force
 
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