"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I currently weigh 165, with 10-15 percent body fat. I'm 5'10''
Very good.

For 2024:

I made $57,105.75
That's on the low side for a bigger quality but could be passable in a smaller town.

bought a 2004 Chevy Avalanche. The truck is old but in great condition.
It is good that the truck is in great condition but a 2004 truck is unlikely to impress women. It's a small improvement over the previous truck.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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That's on the low side for a bigger quality but could be passable in a smaller town.
I live on the edge of a small city. Originally, it was mostly rural, but there's been a lot of urban sprawl in the last five years. The median household income ranges from 43K to 65K, depending on the town within a 25 mile radius, excluding the beaches.

I bought my house in 2019 for 150K, and now it's appraised at 280K-300K.
 

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I bought my house in 2019 for 150K, and now it's appraised at 280K-300K.
In 2019, finding a house in Dallas, TX would have been nearly impossible that price.

Your price appreciation has been good but it's difficult to sell houses in this market and take profit.

I live on the edge of a small city.
Areas under 200,000 in population can be tough for dating for 25+ adults who are no longer in school.
 

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Did a cold approach today and got the cold shoulder.

I'm going to experiment with Bumble and Tinder, but I only have two halfway decent pictures to post and I don't think that's going to fly.

Edit:

Update. I had to go to settings in Tinder and change the age range to 18-25. I'm still swiping left on most of these girls. The good thing about getting older is that you know what works for you and what doesn't.
 
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I went through Bumble and reached a limit, swiped left on most of those.

On Tinder, out of the 100-ish, I swiped left on all except around 10 or so. Then there weren't any more ladies 18-25 in my area. I'll give it a week and see what happens.
 

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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Stats for the month of March:

9 cold approaches
1 match on Tinder (conversation attached below)
0 dates

Weigh 165. I did not calculate body fat percentage.
1 social event

60 videos posted to social media

0 martial arts classes attended to
2 times that I practiced martial arts at home

3 leg workouts
4 upper body workouts

$4011 income for the month


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I'll go ahead and add my thoughts for my experience.

I like public speaking and fighting. I have a power luster personality. I think the woman whom I matched with is what I'm attracting; a woman who was looking for a man with status/income.

Also, my photos, and my body, are not at the level that I would have to attract the type of women that I am after.

I think online dating is a waste of time for me, at least for now. At minimum I should get better photos. Photos of me fighting, speaking, or something that would indicate that I like to have fun in a teenage/college way.

I also think my results would be much better in a college bar, or something else along those lines.
 

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Very good.



That's on the low side for a bigger quality but could be passable in a smaller town.



It is good that the truck is in great condition but a 2004 truck is unlikely to impress women. It's a small improvement over the previous truck.
If you need a car to impress women, you are doing it all wrong.
 

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If you need a car to impress women, you are doing it all wrong.
Plenty of men use money/possessions to impress women. It can work. Attraction and seduction is a combination of looks, money, status, and personality.
 

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Plenty of men use money/possessions to impress women. It can work. Attraction and seduction is a combination of looks, money, status, and personality.
Whether it works or not isn't the issue.

People who lead with money do so because they feel they have little else to offer.

By this logic it should be fine to beg a woman to take you back and cry when she dumps you because that also "can work".
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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People who lead with money do so because they feel they have little else to offer.
What if they actually don't have much else to offer? Their feelings would be accurate then.

In considering @Plinco 's earnings, he isn't leading with money.

It is more difficult to lead with money now. In the USA, the market has shifted since more and more women are able to buy themselves at least a decent lifestyles with their own bachelor's degree + and their white collar work.

Some guy making $130,000/year (a solid salary) isn't likely to impress some woman who is making $80,000 a year. That's not enough money to move the needle and affect her lifestyle. She's doing well enough on her own at $80,000.
 

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What if they actually don't have much else to offer? Their feelings would be accurate then.

In considering @Plinco 's earnings, he isn't leading with money.

It is more difficult to lead with money now. In the USA, the market has shifted since more and more women are able to buy themselves at least a decent lifestyles with their own bachelor's degree + and their white collar work.

Some guy making $130,000/year (a solid salary) isn't likely to impress some woman who is making $80,000 a year. That's not enough money to move the needle and affect her lifestyle. She's doing well enough on her own at $80,000.
Then they need to work to fix the actual problem instead of trying to cover it up.

You can try to put lipstick on a pig but at the end of the day it's still a pig.

I do pretty well for myself and I've never once tried to impress a woman with money or a car. I don't need to. And if that's what they are really after, I don't want them anywhere near me.

At the end of the day it goes back to the same issue. It's always easier to try and avoid having to take a hard look in the mirror and be honest with yourself than to put in the hard work and effort to become better.
 

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If you need a car to impress women, you are doing it all wrong.
That was not the point. The point was an overall self-improvement. The truck I have now functions better than the last one.
 

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Stats for the month of March:

9 cold approaches
1 match on Tinder (conversation attached below)
0 dates

Weigh 165. I did not calculate body fat percentage.
1 social event

60 videos posted to social media

0 martial arts classes attended to
2 times that I practiced martial arts at home

3 leg workouts
4 upper body workouts

$4011 income for the month


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For the record, these other stats are there to give the reader a better context into what kind of person I am. I use these bits of information because they are measurable.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I went to my old University Campus today. This is what I noticed:

A lot of Generation Z looks like a meme. I mean walking, dress styles, hair, etc. It was funny and bizarre.

A lot more older looking folks taking classes. Either it's true that Generation Z tends to be aging faster than Generation Y, or there's more older people in University than I remember.

Still, I was visibly older than anyone else besides the professors and maybe their assistants. When I compared myself to the faces there, I realized how old I look by the wrinkles around my eyes. That's actually pretty scary because with that thought, I'm not so confident that I can attract young ladies. I'm more afraid of long term failure than death, so the thought of losing no matter what because of my age is something that scares the heck out of me.

Less white people and more hispanic. I'm in Florida, so naturally there's a lot of hispanic people around. However there's definitely less white chicks per capita than I remember.

University campus is really not the place to do cold approaching. Yes, it could be done, but I think it is unwise given the risks. I'm going to take another trip over there, hopefully Saturday night, and see what I can find for around that area, off campus.
 

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I made two cold approaches today while grocery shopping. That makes a total of five for the month of April so far.

The first one today was two girls making some kind of cake. I approached them and asked them what they were making. They said something about a banana nut bread. I told them that should find some old bananas, they smiled and said "yeah we know" and kept walking.

The second was a cold shoulder.

Mind you, these are girls who are rejecting me are at least 7/10's.

At this point I've gotten much more comfortable approaching.
 

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Stats for the month of April:

7 cold approaches
1 match on Tinder (to a woman whom lied about her age; wrote that she was 21 but she is 38 and using old photos)
0 dates

Weigh 165. I did not calculate body fat percentage.
0 social event

40 videos posted to social media

0 martial arts classes attended to
10 times that I practiced martial arts at home

3 leg workouts
4 upper body workouts

$4216 income for the month

I made one half-butted approach today but that won't be counted. For now on I'm only counting cold approaches that have a decent effort put into a conversation.
 

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I did about four approaches today, but only one is count-worthy.

At the mall:
One was basically a warm approach, a girl working at a kiosk. Not interested.

A young lady walking with her mom. Made a comment about her weird looking flip flops; a very short exchange of chit chatter but she was not interested but they were both polite to me.

Grocery store:

The young woman was shopping at the produce section. "Always the same fruits huh?" I said. She replied "yes" and turned away.

The fourth one had a little bit of a conversation, but it doesn't count because there was a little bit of simping on my part. Made a short conversation while bringing her a sanitizing wipe. That will not count because simping is not attractive.
 

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I had a good conversation with this young lady on 05/07/2025

I was looking at work boots and I noticed a young lady taking a picture of TV stands next to me. There was an older gentleman behind her sitting in a scooter.

Me: Looks like your getting away with something there.

Her: No just trying to find the right TV stand for my mom

Me: Well I guess that makes sense. Discussing is with your mom huh?:)

Her: Yeah I did it fast because I did not want to get in anybody's way

Me: Well that's nice of you. I do things fast too but not because I'm nice like you.... Well not everything fast

Her: Well that's good to be like that too.

Me: Sometimes. There's an old saying "haste makes waste"

Her: (looks confused) Never heard of that before

Me: It's a really old saying.

Her: Actually I like that. I'll have to remember that.

Me: Add that to your repertoire :)

(Old man in the scooter chuckles. This is hilarious for him)

At this point, that throws me off a little and I feel like I'm running out of things to say, so I walked off. The store doesn't have the boots I'm looking for so then I go off and get some bananas. I'm kicking myself for not talking to this young lady more. I felt like I had a little bit of chemistry with her. I'm walking down another isle and I see her again, this time with a TV stand box.

Me: So you found the right one huh?

Her: Yes

Me: That's nice of you to set that up for your mom

Her: I like to make people comfortable and happy

Me: :) well that's cool. What's your name?

Her: Alex

Me: That's an unusual name for a girl

Her: Well actually it's Alexandria.

Me: Oh you mean like Alexandria Egypt. Like Cleopatra of Egypt.

Her: (laughs)

Me: My name is Plinco :)

Her: Nice to meet you Plinco :)

Her: Wellllll..... I have to get going.....

Me: Give me your number

Her: I can't :( I have a boyfriend.

Me: Well, okay. Good for the two of you. Enjoy the rest of your day:)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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