Pierce Manhammer
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OP, can I ask your age and hers?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Update on girl that told me its better to stop 1.5 months ago
- Thread starter TheGambino
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
TheGambino
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Sure im 33 she’s 27 @Pierce Manhammer
BaronOfHair
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Yet, you followed the example of The Intersectionalist-leaning freshgirl... Cautioned by several sane, intelligent people not to get blackout drunk at frat parties, she went ahead and did so anyway
And now continues to feign perplexion over her fate. Even though the answer to the initial question ("What do I do now?")hasn't changed... Get on with life, and stop ruminating on something that's already gone to s-it
holidayad_
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Maybe she thought you were going to chase after her. And she was surprised when she saw that you weren't.
And that made her more attracted.
Well done.
And that made her more attracted.
Well done.
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@Gambino -
I wouldn't be so hard headed over the contacting her concern. If she is truly interested then it won't matter. The girls you have to play games with to attract/re-attract aren't worth it anyways.
I'd take my time and be patient. Make sure this is what you want. A LTR will likely be the only card on the table in this situation. If you start seeing her again, I would be skeptical and just take it day by day.
I've had these deals go 2 ways.
A. Start seeing each other again and its only about sex & friendship. Eventually she says no more and/or you find some other girl.
B. You make an effort to resolve the problems that created the divide, yet things never get back to how they were before and the relationship comes to an end again.
Sometimes a guy has to ask himself..........If I was banging some other girl that was hot, sweet, submissive, fuhked, like a p0rnstar, etc would I be interested in seeing my exgf still? If you haven't banged anything else since her and you still miss her somewhat, is this just horniness and old emotions talking or is this something pure and deep?
I wish it wasn't true, but its almost always best to move on and find somebody new. But I wouldn't know this if I'd of never went back to several exes and figured this out. ;-) So there is value to be had from such things. Never hurts to try something again so you know for sure.
All we can do is better realize what you want and need, and learn from our past.
I wouldn't be so hard headed over the contacting her concern. If she is truly interested then it won't matter. The girls you have to play games with to attract/re-attract aren't worth it anyways.
I'd take my time and be patient. Make sure this is what you want. A LTR will likely be the only card on the table in this situation. If you start seeing her again, I would be skeptical and just take it day by day.
I've had these deals go 2 ways.
A. Start seeing each other again and its only about sex & friendship. Eventually she says no more and/or you find some other girl.
B. You make an effort to resolve the problems that created the divide, yet things never get back to how they were before and the relationship comes to an end again.
Sometimes a guy has to ask himself..........If I was banging some other girl that was hot, sweet, submissive, fuhked, like a p0rnstar, etc would I be interested in seeing my exgf still? If you haven't banged anything else since her and you still miss her somewhat, is this just horniness and old emotions talking or is this something pure and deep?
I wish it wasn't true, but its almost always best to move on and find somebody new. But I wouldn't know this if I'd of never went back to several exes and figured this out. ;-) So there is value to be had from such things. Never hurts to try something again so you know for sure.
All we can do is better realize what you want and need, and learn from our past.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
TheGambino
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Thanks I’m going to think about it
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
Have to agree, again. @Glassguy it’s just the truth an high interested woman will chase