I find this is the proverbial snake eating its tail. Cold approach is low hit rate, so I try to do the social event game. But everyone else has the same idea: it’s saturated with pushy, blabbering sausage. So I go back to apps. Then I realize they don’t deliver anything but scraps in ever sparser quantities. So then I think, nothing else is going to work, I have to cold approach…
The truth is society picks its winners and losers early. Some people, it just chooses to marginalize. With AI fundamentally devaluing intellect, extroversion and social mimicry will reign even more supreme. Meanwhile, the disintermediation tools the internet brought have greatly diminished — the social landscape is rapidly becoming closed again. The music has stopped.
Nah, I don't get with the crybaby stuff. You are a grown man and in control of much of this, don't act like "Woe is me, I have no control of anything".
Everyone has the same idea? Great. Most will be terrible at it because they are lazy and haven't bothered putting much work into improving and if you've worked hard enough to become good at that, you will stick out in a positive way. Sure you'll have some people who are naturally good. So what?
You don't have to be better than everyone, just better than the people who were at your level that you now are far above.
There is a reason why I haven't gone without sex for longer than 2 weeks in probably 5-6 years. It's because I understand it's a volume game, there is no crying or getting down when things don't work out with any one woman and I keep working on filling my pipeline.
It's not hard, you just have to work out a system that works for you, is easily repeatable over and over and one that gets enough results.
Most guys would rather spend their time crying, whining and complaining tho instead of working on getting results unphased by what is happening day by day.
