i have seen girls playfully hitting their bf in shoulder or shaking their shoulder so i wonder is it beta behavior to allow them do it? where is the limit of what you should allow a woman to do and what you should not allow her to do? how can you set boundaries and is there any specific example in your life where you did it with your partner?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
where is the limit of boundary with women? can someone elaborate?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Plinco
Master Don Juan
This shows a lack of emotional intelligence, and the only way to get better at this is experience. The key concept here is respect, and also your partner shouldn't consume too much of your focus either.
i am 19 so you can't expect all that experience from me. i am wanting to know how does it work
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Iron Rule of Tomassi #1
Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of who’s frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are.
You set whatever boundaries you want to set. That's controlling the frame.
Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of who’s frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are.
You set whatever boundaries you want to set. That's controlling the frame.
Plinco
Master Don Juan
If I were 19, first and foremost I'd be focused on myself, getting a career started, taking care of my health, etc. For women, do what makes you happy in the long term, fun should be a focus, and respect is the most important thing to get from women.
So like I said, it's all about respect. Is she doing it in a way that disrespects you? Otherwise it might just be cute and fun. Make yourself what you want, don't worry about being labeled a 'beta'
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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19 is an interesting age for a man.
A 19 year old man has access to a lot of women who are attractive and often undamaged/little damaged. This is true whether he attends college/university or is in the working world with only his high school diploma/GED.
A 19 year old man could choose to look to long term and lock down some attractive, undamaged woman. This might be a viable effort.
When I was 19, I was self-focused. I was a sophomore at a 4 year university and pursuing my bachelor's degree. I was thinking about getting my career started. I could make the argument that I was too focused on the future and not in the present moment enough with thinking about my long term career development. As a 19 year old, I was in my sophomore year of college and my viable dating pool were the freshman and sophomore girls on campus. I was competing with a lot of other students for the freshman and sophomore females. The toughest competition on campus were the juniors and seniors, the slightly older guys. Additionally, I was not a part of Greek Life and many attractive sorority females were passing me over for fraternity males.
There is a good thread on this forum about sex life on college campuses.
Observations about college sex life from someone that went to a party school.
I thought I'd share this as someone who went to a party school and was in a fraternity there as well. Not wanting to give too much about myself but I went to UGA and graduated a few years ago. While Athens has its hot girls, I do feel like the quality got worse every year due to the admission...
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