i have seen girls playfully hitting their bf in shoulder or shaking their shoulder so i wonder is it beta behavior to allow them do it? where is the limit of what you should allow a woman to do and what you should not allow her to do? how can you set boundaries and is there any specific example in your life where you did it with your partner?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
where is the limit of boundary with women? can someone elaborate?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Plinco
Master Don Juan
This shows a lack of emotional intelligence, and the only way to get better at this is experience. The key concept here is respect, and also your partner shouldn't consume too much of your focus either.
i am 19 so you can't expect all that experience from me. i am wanting to know how does it work
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Iron Rule of Tomassi #1
Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of who’s frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are.
You set whatever boundaries you want to set. That's controlling the frame.
Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of who’s frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are.
You set whatever boundaries you want to set. That's controlling the frame.
Plinco
Master Don Juan
If I were 19, first and foremost I'd be focused on myself, getting a career started, taking care of my health, etc. For women, do what makes you happy in the long term, fun should be a focus, and respect is the most important thing to get from women.
So like I said, it's all about respect. Is she doing it in a way that disrespects you? Otherwise it might just be cute and fun. Make yourself what you want, don't worry about being labeled a 'beta'
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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19 is an interesting age for a man.
A 19 year old man has access to a lot of women who are attractive and often undamaged/little damaged. This is true whether he attends college/university or is in the working world with only his high school diploma/GED.
A 19 year old man could choose to look to long term and lock down some attractive, undamaged woman. This might be a viable effort.
When I was 19, I was self-focused. I was a sophomore at a 4 year university and pursuing my bachelor's degree. I was thinking about getting my career started. I could make the argument that I was too focused on the future and not in the present moment enough with thinking about my long term career development. As a 19 year old, I was in my sophomore year of college and my viable dating pool were the freshman and sophomore girls on campus. I was competing with a lot of other students for the freshman and sophomore females. The toughest competition on campus were the juniors and seniors, the slightly older guys. Additionally, I was not a part of Greek Life and many attractive sorority females were passing me over for fraternity males.
There is a good thread on this forum about sex life on college campuses.
Observations about college sex life from someone that went to a party school.
I thought I'd share this as someone who went to a party school and was in a fraternity there as well. Not wanting to give too much about myself but I went to UGA and graduated a few years ago. While Athens has its hot girls, I do feel like the quality got worse every year due to the admission...
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