Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That's what tends to happen to men in blue states. I always like to say that the surest way to tell I'm in a blue state is when I walk down the street and most of the men look like I could beat the crap out of them in five seconds. The same is true for FranceHave you see a lot of Bay Area men? They are dweebish, outnumber women drastically, and are thirsty for any sort of vagina.
I'm not a Christian, but these people need Jesus. And God. And Krishna. And Wotan. And BuddhaSupposedly she is in a "non-monogaous relationship". Perhaps her husband is one of those guys that enjoy seeing his wife getting f**ked by another guy(s). This wouldn't have happened on a widespread scale 10 or 20 years ago. Indeed, the Western World is getting more and more degenerate and men more and more cucked. These two factors go hand in hand.
Physically attractive older woman but likely a royal pain in romantic interactions started on tech-based platforms. I can imagine there'd be a ton of drama in any interaction with her.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
More like they are sick in the head. Some guys get off from it.Ethical non-monogamy = my boyfriend lets me fvck other dudes because he's desperate
Have you see a lot of Bay Area men? They are dweebish, outnumber women drastically, and are thirsty for any sort of vagina.
This is everywhere, not just in the Bay Area.
People love to rip on NorCal, it's ok, I do too.
And the thirst is real EVERYWHERE.
The San Francisco Bay Area is one of the worst mating environments for men in North America.That's what tends to happen to men in blue states. I always like to say that the surest way to tell I'm in a blue state is when I walk down the street and most of the men look like I could beat the crap out of them in five seconds. The same is true for France
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Lots of steer in both Midland and SF.The San Francisco Bay Area is one of the worst mating environments for men in North America.
The biggest problem with the Bay Area is the overabundance of sausage, but it's not the only problem.
The people in general are weird there. On the male side, there are too many autistic/aspie male tech workers. Also, there is an overabundance of East and South Asian men, many of whom of tech workers and have poor social skills too. East and South Asian men have a difficult time dating outside their race/ethnicity. On the female side, there are a lot of feminists/careerists/SJWs. When the male side and the female side are considered, it's no wonder that there are not a lot of good matches.
In the Bay Area, an oddball feminist/SJW woman who is a 5 at best can get sex from multiple men in a poly relationship.
The careerist White women often are childless late into life. Below is a thread about a career-first Bay Area woman.
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Welcome to Northern California. Now to see all the replies about "she's an old hag that's seen more cawk than a urinal at Grand Central Station"... But seriously, she's 50 and wants a baby?!www.sosuave.net
There are plenty of thirsty men in red states too. Midland-Odessa, TX is an example of a bad mating environment in a red state. There is an overabundance of sausage in Midland-Odessa because there's a lot of oil and gas exploration near Midland and Odessa.
There are more feminized guys in bluer states. Blue collar guys in Midland and Odessa won't look like soft Washington DC, Seattle, or San Francisco, but they are likely to be thirsty and simp due to the overabundance of sausage.
ThSan Francisco Bay Area is one of the worst mating environments for men in North America.
The biggest problem with the Bay Area is the overabundance of sausage, but it's not the only problem.
The people in general are weird there. On the male side, there are too many autistic/aspie male tech workers. Also, there is an overabundance of East and South Asian men, many of whom of tech workers and have poor social skills too. East and South Asian men have a difficult time dating outside their race/ethnicity. On the female side, there are a lot of feminists/careerists/SJWs. When the male side and the female side are considered, it's no wonder that there are not a lot of good matches.
In the Bay Area, an oddball feminist/SJW woman who is a 5 at best can get sex from multiple men in a poly relationship.
The careerist White women often are childless late into life. Below is a thread about a career-first Bay Area woman.
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Oh you guys are gunna love this...
Welcome to Northern California. Now to see all the replies about "she's an old hag that's seen more cawk than a urinal at Grand Central Station"... But seriously, she's 50 and wants a baby?!www.sosuave.net
There are plenty of thirsty men in red states too. Midland-Odessa, TX is an example of a bad mating environment in a red state. There is an overabundance of sausage in Midland-Odessa because there's a lot of oil and gas exploration near Midland and Odessa.
There are more feminized guys in bluer states. Blue collar guys in Midland and Odessa won't look like soft Washington DC, Seattle, or San Francisco, but they are likely to be thirsty and simp due to the overabundance of sausage.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Can I ask how you have developed such a detailed opinion of what the dating scene is here?
Reading stuff online. There's plenty of content online about the dating scene of most major cities.Can I ask how you have developed such a detailed opinion of what the dating scene is here?
Not gonna lie for 46, she isn't bad, most 46 year old women are build like Michelin manThe number of plain or outright ugly women in NorCal claiming to be “ethically non-monogamous” is growing.
I love how this chick says she’s “loving and loyal”. LOYAL?!?!?! What the actual Fock.
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another one with the thousand c0ck stare..no wonder..another open marriage/open relationship wh0re.
There is a deep rabbit hole on this one....bottom line is that she's exactly what you'd expect.Physically attractive older woman but likely a royal pain in romantic interactions started on tech-based platforms. I can imagine there'd be a ton of drama in any interaction with her.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Take a look at the double chin..so sexyTinder, the gift that keeps on giving. She’s got a rocking body, but her husband needs to be shot for letting her get railed by other men.
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You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.