"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I went to an outdoor rave last Sunday, stood too close to the front/speakers and my ears were ringing ever since.

The left ear is back to normal, but it's Saturday now and the right ear is still ringing. I mainly hear it at night when I'm trying to sleep, during the day it's manageable/I forget about it.

I've been going to places like this for years and many times I've had the ringing for a couple of days but this one is nearly a week later.

I'm praying it goes away, I've read it could last another week, I think it's slowly subsiding. I've been reading up on it and some people have been suffering years, decades later.

Does anyone have any experience with this?
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I haven't had this in years. I just stopped being around anything too loud :confused:
Yeah I'm avoiding any load noise, in the first few days I struggled to get to sleep, I've either gotten better or I'm coping better.
 

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Yeah I'm avoiding any load noise, in the first few days I struggled to get to sleep, I've either gotten better or I'm coping better.
I would say at least listening to ambient music would give you temporary relief.
 

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I have not but I was always a little concerned with it as a DJ since I had monitors blaring in my ear and my headphones turned up loudly for hours at a time...

Nothing happened luckily other than my hearing is a little worse than it would otherwise be.

I hope it resolves for you, I know people that have had it that said it was terrible...I mean Van Gogh cut his ear off to try and get it to stop...

Also know a humber of people who got this after they had COVID as part of "long COVID" symptoms...a few resolved after a couple months, a few others after a year and a few still have it 3 years later and it's gotten worse...
 

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No ringing for me. Mine happens to be the kind that hearing cuts out in one ear, temporarily. It has been going on for many years.
 

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I have not but I was always a little concerned with it as a DJ since I had monitors blaring in my ear and my headphones turned up loudly for hours at a time...

Nothing happened luckily other than my hearing is a little worse than it would otherwise be.

I hope it resolves for you, I know people that have had it that said it was terrible...I mean Van Gogh cut his ear off to try and get it to stop...

Also know a humber of people who got this after they had COVID as part of "long COVID" symptoms...a few resolved after a couple months, a few others after a year and a few still have it 3 years later and it's gotten worse...
Long covid my ass lol. Why in the linked headlines in post #6 do the words "shots" and "vaccine" appear, and not the word "long"? We're talking Forbes and NBC news here...
 

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Long covid my ass lol. Why in the linked headlines in post #6 do the words "shots" and "vaccine" appear, and not the word "long"? We're talking Forbes and NBC news here...
Umm...OK. Not sure what you are trying to argue as this was a well known issue before vaccines even came out. In fact all of these people had it when they got COVID in the first wave and a year before getting a vaccine, if they even got it.

Get off the soapboax dude...nobody wants to hear about that dumb sh!t anymore and your pseudoscience references.

Imagine if people acted like this with the prescription drugs that kill millions every year but nobody bothers to say a word about them. Literally every commercial for these drugs now has them playing happy music and scenes of people playing in a park with kids while reading off about the serious side effects including death.
 

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How many of them were/are fat?
Maybe half? One guy was in really good shape. He lifted regularly and did triathlons but ended up stopping due to issues he was having...basically he would try to start working out and he would get out of breath and his heart would be racing like he just ran on a treadmill for 45 minutes straight.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I've had moderate tinnitus for almost ten years, mostly from going to loud clubs in Vegas in 2014 (the worst offender being Haakisan) and blaring Royal Blood in my car for hours a day as a delivery driver. At least that's what I assume it's from, probably a genetic thing too.

I don't know if there's a cure really. I use earplugs + a loud ass fan to help me sleep at night. If i'm in total silence it's sometimes unbearable.

I've heard melatonin can help, not really sure if it made a difference.
 

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Back in my youthful days before my retail career, I worked in more than one metal shop surrounded by very loud sounds. Some years after that life experience I noticed the tinnitus.
Had it ever since. Like 30 years. Life gives us bumps and bruises along the way and my tinnitus I consider a minor one …
 

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I would say at least listening to ambient music would give you temporary relief.
I was listening to white noise and podcasts to sleep early in the week, up until 1-2am (I usually sleep my 11pm) but it’s much more manageable now, thanks though.


I assume you're unvaxxed Murk?


Yeah I’m unvaxxed

I have not but I was always a little concerned with it as a DJ since I had monitors blaring in my ear and my headphones turned up loudly for hours at a time...

Nothing happened luckily other than my hearing is a little worse than it would otherwise be.

I hope it resolves for you, I know people that have had it that said it was terrible...I mean Van Gogh cut his ear off to try and get it to stop...
It’s was legit driving me mad, anxiety, palpitations, I’ve kind of relaxed into it now, whether it stays or goes I’ve accepted my fate.
 

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No ringing for me. Mine happens to be the kind that hearing cuts out in one ear, temporarily. It has been going on for many years.
How/why did it start?


Life gives us bumps and bruises along the way and my tinnitus I consider a minor one …
This is my gut feeling, lesson learned, I can deal with it.

Secretly hoping it goes (it’s faded a lot this past week).

Really makes you realise how much we overlook good health, even ears, eyes, smell.

I’ve looked into exercises like massaging and tapping the temples/back of head. Apparently it’s an electrical signal thing in the ear that’s been disrupted. I’m sure the elite have a remedy for this. I will find it!
 
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Literally every commercial for these drugs now has them playing happy music and scenes of people playing in a park with kids while reading off about the serious side effects including death.
I stream a lot of sports from American tv and this is so true, family having a picnic while the voiceover speeds through 60 seconds of side effects including death, very surreal, I think to myself if you guys realise how twilight zone those commercials are? When I used to watch tv in the US it’s all insurance, medication, lawyer ads, kinda made me sick.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

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How/why did it start?
A combination of events in a short period: car accident, PTSD, lots of pistol gunfire and not always having my hearing protection on. I just thought I was losing my hearing, but I passed multiple hearing exams in the U.K. and back here in the states. Honestly, I always thought tinnitus was just ringing inside the ears...but there's another form of it.
 

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A combination of events in a short period: car accident, PTSD, lots of pistol gunfire and not always having my hearing protection on. I just thought I was losing my hearing, but I passed multiple hearing exams in the U.K. and back here in the states. Honestly, I always thought tinnitus was just ringing inside the ears...but there's another form of it.
Have you found anything to reduce it? Has it gotten better over time?
 

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Have you found anything to reduce it? Has it gotten better over time?
Taking Vitamin A and NAC has reduced my PTSD and anxiety quite a bit. Israelis came out with their findings in rats that SAMe and Vitamin A reversed the epigenetics of those with the traits. SAMe hurt my stomach whenever I took the stuff, so I take NAC instead (even without the vit A bc that builds up QUICKLY). Now, I have tinnitus symptoms kind of frequent, but the other stuff has mostly disappeared.
 

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Hi Murk,
Running a part time Building business,I often used Powder Actuated Fasteners...Always in too much of a hurry to wear Ear Muffs,in early days they were considered Sissy...What with that and using Shotguns for Pig Hunting,I am now deaf...And yes it starts with Tinnitus....So yes wear Muffs and Safety Glasses!
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MaKe sure you’re staying hydrated. Are you having any balance issues?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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