"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Where to go in AZ or FL?

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Anyway so it sounds like Arizona would be the better choice.

That said, any recommendations on where I should look to stay? I imagine being close to Old Town Scottsdale would be ideal for the bar scene, but I don't know if there are any areas that I should avoid.
When I think about Arizona women I think of this:

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Let us know how accurate that is.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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@BPH -- Did you end up going to Arizona or Florida for your birthday?
 

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Neither yet, I figure I'll go with my brother in the summer when it's a bit nicer. The downside would be that any college students would likely be home for the summer so I don't know if this was a bad decision.
Summer. Hot!!!!!
 

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Neither yet, I figure I'll go with my brother in the summer when it's a bit nicer. The downside would be that any college students would likely be home for the summer so I don't know if this was a bad decision.
I would not go to Arizona in the summer. It's a desert.

Florida is a maybe because it'll be 95 degrees everyday but there's pools and beaches everywhere.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I would not go to Arizona in the summer. It's a desert.

Florida is a maybe because it'll be 95 degrees everyday but there's pools and beaches everywhere.
I went to Florida one year for my actual birthday and there was just nothing going on in late April, I figured summer would be a better time to check out both places.
 

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Both states suck imho but I’d pick Florida because I can’t handle the desert heat and prefer to be near water.
 

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I would not go to Arizona in the summer. It's a desert.
The major advantage of going to the Phoenix area in the summer is that the tourists aren't there. Arizona State University is in session but there are far fewer students doing Summer semester.

Northern Arizona is pleasant in the summer months due to higher elevations, but more crowded. A lot of Phoenix area residents have cabins up near Flagstaff for getting away for part of the summer and most weekends. Flagstaff is only 2 hours north of Phoenix yet its elevation is 6,000 feet higher and about 25-30 degrees less warm. Additionally, a lot of hotel rooms in Flagstaff are occupied by Grand Canyon tourists as it is 80 miles south of the South Rim of the Grand Canyon. The South Rim is the more visited part of the Grand Canyon. Visiting the Grand Canyon in summer is peak season, so there are tons of tourists.

Since this is a seduction trip and not a sightseeing trip, Phoenix is where @BPH would go. There are plenty of pools in Phoenix, like Florida.

Florida is a maybe because it'll be 95 degrees everyday but there's pools and beaches everywhere.
Miami-Fort Lauderdale and the Tampa area have beaches and pools. I think in the summer months, Miami-Fort Lauderdale and the Tampa area are better choices than Phoenix or Tucson.
 

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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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if obese or skin damaged trailer women are hot to you lol. I thought this forum loved Eastern European chicks that gain from winterfell lol.
So what part of the country are you in? I'm in Arizona
 

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Both states suck imho but I’d pick Florida because I can’t handle the desert heat and prefer to be near water.
Why would you "pick" Florida when you're already there? If you're advising OP, why are you using your irrelevant personal preferences for a hypothetical that is real? :rolleyes: A lot of people can't stand high humidity either.

Most chicks on Tinder are more upfront that this, but whatev...
 

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Why would you "pick" Florida when you're already there? If you're advising OP, why are you using your irrelevant personal preferences for a hypothetical that is real? :rolleyes: A lot of people can't stand high humidity either.

Most chicks on Tinder are more upfront that this, but whatev...
I’d rather deal with humidity than living in an oven. Plus, I think Arizona is a cope state for ex Californians imho.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Arizona is wonderful. I have a friend out there in Phoenix that I visit from time to time. I really liked Scottsdale the couple of times I was there (lots of attractive women if that is one of your main criteria in the decision making process).

A place that is underrated, well underrated probably isn't the correct word, is Charleston South Carolina. Not sure how many you have visited there - it's a college town, historic and full of gorgeous southern belles.
 

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I think Arizona is a cope state for ex Californians imho.
Ex-Californians have ruined Arizona. Both Phoenix and Tucson are overrun with them. The ex-Californians are even affecting the smaller towns in Arizona too.

There are few states that have declined as much in quality since 1990 as Arizona. Arizona was not meant to be a populous state. The two biggest metros (Phoenix and Tucson) are located in the hot part of the state. There's been limited development in higher elevation, more temperate Northern Arizona.

The whole state is in a fragile natural ecosystem. It has been overdeveloped since at least 1990. There are significant water issues surrounding the Colorado River.

While both Phoenix and Tucson have grown a lot since the 1980s, the infrastructure hasn't kept pace. There are few corporate headquarters in both Phoenix and Tucson. I think that is more problematic for Phoenix since it is so much larger than Tucson. Older, more established companies were not established in Phoenix because Phoenix was basically nothing 65-75 years ago right when Baby Boomers were first being born. Also, as Phoenix as grown, newer tech companies didn't establish themselves there in bigger numbers. In Metro Phoenix, a lot of the general business jobs are lackluster. If your job is in the medical industry, Phoenix has a decent employment base. The medical industry has always done quite well in Phoenix due to the fact that the area is a hub for retirees needing medical services.



The two links discuss University of Arizona and Arizona State grads leaving the state. Phoenix and Tucson corporate employment isn't good enough to retain college grads in a lot of cases.

Arizona is wonderful. I have a friend out there in Phoenix that I visit from time to time. I really liked Scottsdale the couple of times I was there (lots of attractive women if that is one of your main criteria in the decision making process).
Arizona is the classic 'Nice place to visit for a week, but not a great place to live' place.
 

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Ex-Californians have ruined Arizona. Both Phoenix and Tucson are overrun with them. The ex-Californians are even affecting the smaller towns in Arizona too.

There are few states that have declined as much in quality since 1990 as Arizona. Arizona was not meant to be a populous state. The two biggest metros (Phoenix and Tucson) are located in the hot part of the state. There's been limited development in higher elevation, more temperate Northern Arizona.

The whole state is in a fragile natural ecosystem. It has been overdeveloped since at least 1990. There are significant water issues surrounding the Colorado River.

While both Phoenix and Tucson have grown a lot since the 1980s, the infrastructure hasn't kept pace. There are few corporate headquarters in both Phoenix and Tucson. I think that is more problematic for Phoenix since it is so much larger than Tucson. Older, more established companies were not established in Phoenix because Phoenix was basically nothing 65-75 years ago right when Baby Boomers were first being born. Also, as Phoenix as grown, newer tech companies didn't establish themselves there in bigger numbers. In Metro Phoenix, a lot of the general business jobs are lackluster. If your job is in the medical industry, Phoenix has a decent employment base. The medical industry has always done quite well in Phoenix due to the fact that the area is a hub for retirees needing medical services.



The two links discuss University of Arizona and Arizona State grads leaving the state. Phoenix and Tucson corporate employment isn't good enough to retain college grads in a lot of cases.



Arizona is the classic 'Nice place to visit for a week, but not a great place to live' place.
The brain drain is reversing with how bad CA now is imo.
 
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