Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She's on the slide. That said, when I think of harridan, I think of this 48 year-old.Charissa Thompson turned 41 last week. @MatureDJ might now call her a harridan. She is still better looking than the typical late 30s/early 40s woman.
Charissa's BFF Erin Andrews turned 45 last week.

Charissa Thompson looks like nothing like this woman. Charissa Thompson has a younger, rich boyfriend, who is both younger and richer than her ex-husband. Her ex-husband was a fit, rich guy as an ex-college athlete turned sports agent with a law degree.She's on the slide. That said, when I think of harridan, I think of this 48 year-old.![]()
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My mortifying moment at the Christmas party and why it's hell to be 48, alone and desperate
The Christmas party was in full swing. Brandishing a branch of mistletoe, I danced across the room and locked eyes with the stranger in the corner...www.dailymail.co.uk
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
This will be her after a few more divorces. Beauty is a depreciating asset, especially for women. Sorry, can’t fight my own biology. Granny here with the saggy t!ts and wrinkled skin is cringe worthy.
See the linked video from 2013 in my quote. Both Erin and Charissa have gone downhill since then. They were 31 and 35 when that video was made. Now 41 and 45.This is how Charissa and BFF Erin Andrews looked in Summer 2013 when Charissa joined Fox Sports from ESPN. Both Erin and Charissa worked at ESPN prior to Fox Sports.
Yeah, they were two classic blond bombshells back then but that doesn’t last forever. Charissa is on the divorce cycle while Erin is trying to cheat fertility by unfreezing her eggs. Best of luck ladiesSee the linked video from 2013 in my quote. Both Erin and Charissa have gone downhill since then. They were 31 and 35 when that video was made. Now 41 and 45.
They both peaked somewhere on looks in the 2000s. Arguably, Charissa's peak was finished before she joined ESPN in 2010 before moving to Fox Sports in 2013. The Erin Andrew stalker peephole incident was in 2008 when she was 30 and that was the tail end of her prime, though the video did not make it on to the internet until 2009. They've both managed to live off their looks peak 10+ years beyond their looks peak. Both of their jobs are looks-oriented jobs.Yeah, they were two classic blond bombshells back then but that doesn’t last forever. Charissa is on the divorce cycle while Erin is trying to cheat fertility by unfreezing her eggs.
She's spent her late 30s and early 40s in relationships with top tier men. Her current boyfriend is extremely rich whereas her last husband who she started dating at 36/37 was 6'0"+ ex-college athlete and sports agent with a law degree.I have no clue why any guy in his right mind would pursue a relationship, let alone marriage with a woman like this.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Charissa Thompson's house got robbed.
There are some demand out there for Charissa's vag. She has a rich, younger boyfriend at 41.Who stalks a twice-divorced 41 year old woman? Dont tell me there is a lot of demand for them.
There is demand for 40 year old women out there.Seriously what Universe do you guys live in that you think an attractive 40 year old isn’t getting hit on nonstop?
Do you not get out much? Live at your computers in a weird echo chamber? Is it a way to assuage your ego?
Because they are getting hit on by guys younger and more attractive than you all incessantly.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Incorrect. Her primary employer is Fox Sports. She has been working at Fox Sports since 2013, though she did work at ESPN from 2010-2013.She works at ESPN, there is a line up of dudes out the door no doubt
Sports is sports, even ugly chicks on the side lines are gonna get some, just gotta wait down river, something gonna come her way.Incorrect. Her primary employer is Fox Sports. She has been working at Fox Sports since 2013, though she did work at ESPN from 2010-2013.
She was also working at the Big Ten Network and at Fox Sports prior to ESPN.
Men having been lining up for her since the 2000s.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.