When a girl says she think an "acquaintance is hot"

[pipeman84]

Basically I wanna know what Anti Dump's Machine would do here!?

Since you're only dating for 1 month, it's too early to draw conclusions. Also, this is just one data point you fed the machine with.

LoL. Even when she looks in my eyes during secs and says loves me?

If you're not her first guy, then the 'I love you' is very cheap to worthless.

 

[LTG71]

Open comments like that are disrespectful if she is dating you. Shows she is thinking about this guy enough to creep on his socials. At 23, she is spoiled for choice and has nothing to lose. Fvck these shyt tests. Men tolerate way too much disrespect and nonsense from women. If it was a celebrity then it would be nothing since the person is a social figure. But being a mutual acquaintance that you see on the regular is not cool.

How about fvcking with her head and tell her that you think another chic that she sees as competition is hot? Return the favor, lol. Comment on someone that has something she doesn’t. ”Man, that Sarah has a peach of an a$$. I’d like to take a bite and see how juicy it is…”.

 

[Barrister]

When you say "dating" do you mean you have gone out on 1 or 2 dates or do you mean you are in a committed STR/LTR? If it is the latter, this is a disrespectful form of behavior. How would she react if you told her you thought a mutual female acquintance was hot? I am guessing not well - because there are very few women in the world who react positively to this and many who will flip their sh1t. Don't allow hypocritical behavior.

I would establish a very firm boundary about this. Maybe that comes off as an overreaction on the surface, but make no mistake it is important to nip this kind of thing in the bud.

 

[KingTurbo]

When a girl you're dating says that she thinks a mutual acquaintance (eg goes to the same college as you two) is hot, what does it mean?

1) Doesn't mean anything.
2) It's a shyt test.
3) It's a sign of low IL.
4) Something else (please elaborate).

I'm keen to know you opinion in different scenarios. For example 2 weeks into dating, 2 months into dating, and more.

I think it’s a mix.

She is testing you, it doesn’t really mean anything. Maybe she just wants to get you jealous. Watch her actions not her words. If she starts making moves then your in trouble.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

depends on the relationship. My current & previous GFs & I would say that on occasion. We noted the other person being attractive. nothing beyond that.

 

[logicallefty]

I think it's usually a shyt test. What you can TRY TO DO is deflect just a little bit away from the guy being "hot" and over to her to talk about him in a good way other than being "hot". Most anything positive about the guy other than being good looking/hot. THEN, you can say "Sounds like a decent guy. Maybe I should invite him out to be my wingman sometime?" This shows her your confident and haven't taken her bait. It also indirectly tells her you are implying that someday you may be going out sarging again, thus implying that you may not always be with JUST her. Every single time I have done this tactic, the chick never talks about other dudes being "hot" or whatever else positive ever again. DENIED!! Her thinking about you and this guy out sarging, even if just hypothetical, will give her major anxiety!!

 

[2Rocky]

I would counter with how your good looking guy friend and her good looking female friend would make beautiful babies...

Understand this, whether or not a woman says someone is attractive, they sure as heck notice. The less it affects you and you can be logical and measured about it, even joke about it, the more confident you appear and feel. The other night, my gf commented about some actress on tv and asked if I thought she was attractive. I said "sure she is, that's her job." then I said something to the effect of Charlize Theron really was one actress I found particularly attractive and she was near our age. She agreed and said , "I don't like women but I might go gay for her" We ended the convo agreeing that he would be our one exception to the no threeway rule we had.

 

[MtmVaott]

Indeed, I should have included these. Everyone in the equation is heterosecsual, and the acquaintance is male. Also, let's say she has said it in an excited tone and more than once.

This is awful. End things. Why should you put up with this? She did it more than once! She's not that dumb to know it will upset you. So she wants you to get a message, or has no empathy.
AD would have told you to protect your heart and move on. If you really want a LTR, don't waste time with women only good for sex.

 

[CyrusTheGreat]

This is awful. End things. Why should you put up with this? She did it more than once! She's not that dumb to know it will upset you. So she wants you to get a message, or has no empathy.
AD would have told you to protect your heart and move on. If you really want a LTR, don't waste time with women only good for sex.

Thanks for the recommendation. I've already learnt my lesson from this one and ended the things.

 

[MtmVaott]

Thanks for the recommendation. I've already learnt my lesson from this one and ended the things.

How did she take it?

 

[Divorced w 3]

Thanks for the recommendation. I've already learnt my lesson from this one and ended the things.

Dude what? That’s a bit neurotic and overreactive don’t you think? If you wanted to preserve your respect but kept having sex with her, what about just observing more, continue your sex and explore what she would let you, and if you got the vibe that Chad was on the other side of the equation you could simply tell her you want to keep it casual and offer her the chance to be open. I’ve made this mistake - I regretted it - college is easier than just about anywhere to bounce back sure, but you just lost a lot of social proof too, you could have been smashing that girl out and everyone would have been talking about it.

 

[CyrusTheGreat]

How did she take it?

To be more accurate, she ended it after I started ignoring her. So I guess she was bothered about being ignored and didn't really care about me, lol.

 

[HaleyBaron]

When a girl you're dating says that she thinks a mutual acquaintance (eg goes to the same college as you two) is hot, what does it mean?

It means nothing. I tell her to go talk to him if she wants. They never do. It's a sh*t test.

 

[CyrusTheGreat]

Dude what? That’s a bit neurotic and overreactive don’t you think? If you wanted to preserve your respect but kept having sex with her, what about just observing more, continue your sex and explore what she would let you, and if you got the vibe that Chad was on the other side of the equation you could simply tell her you want to keep it casual and offer her the chance to be open. I’ve made this mistake - I regretted it - college is easier than just about anywhere to bounce back sure, but you just lost a lot of social proof too, you could have been smashing that girl out and everyone would have been talking about it.

There were other things that I didn't like too.

Please check my last response as well

 

[BackInTheGame78]

To be more accurate, she ended it after I started ignoring her. So I guess she was bothered about being ignored and didn't really care about me, lol.

Which likely means she already fvcked him prior to ending things. Women always have their next target lined up prior to leaving.

 

[CyrusTheGreat]

It means nothing. I tell her to go talk to him if she wants. They never do. It's a sh*t test.

In this case, there were more disrespectful things as well.

 

[CyrusTheGreat]

Which likely means she already fvcked him prior to ending things. Women always have their next target lined up prior to leaving.

I know for sure she didn't fuk the guy. I am actually fairly close to the guy (a lot closer than the chick knows)

But she had other back up plans, which I didn't care to follow how it went.

 

[HaleyBaron]

In this case, there were more disrespectful things as well.

Western women at least are going to be disrespectful atm cause their ego is turned up to 11 thanks to social media and OnlyFans. It's a ****ty time and I wish women weren't so unattractive with their attitudes.

 

[Divorced w 3]

There were other things that I didn't like too.

Please check my last response as well

Sorry to hear that. When you get a chance, reflect on it as objectively as you can and see if you can find any parts of the situation that are attributable to you and whether you could have spun that plate longer if you had wanted to do so. Go fvck the next slut down the hall in the meantime.

 

[derby1]

I'm leaning more towards a shyt test as well, but one that is disrespectful, shows low IL, and puts the longevity of the relationship at risk.

Bro it doesnt mean low interest or high interest anymore, women think men are CLOWNS.

she already presumes your a clown thanks to all the simp manginas who she walks all over.

tell her the word "No" she will start rolling round on the floor.

Ive dated many modern women off the bat with rock solid frame, and they still play up even though they have H.I.

youll be constantly correcting their behaviour