MatureDJ
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I had been seeing links about this, wondering why this was getting international coverage, so I finally decided to read about it:
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I never heard of this or her whom I also do not know, who she is.. But apparently they have already found her body:I had been seeing links about this, wondering why this was getting international coverage, so I finally decided to read about it:
en.wikipedia.org
Considering the horribly bad results / news the US government has generated lately, my guess is the MSM is probably pushing her story to the max as a distraction.I had been seeing links about this, wondering why this was getting international coverage
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
but it is just another missing case, only diference is someone who is like her get interested and then they had to go the extra mile to blame everyone for itI haven’t read the article but here’s my take on it. I was just telling my wife this last night.
1) White female
2) Young, bubbly (iow “cute”)
3) Pretty
4) YouTuber
If she wasn’t all those things, she’d be just another missing persons or murder case.
I haven't watched the news for over 8 years. I try really hard to stay away from the news and media, for a reason. There is absolutely nothing for me to gain or learn, but quite the opposite.I had been seeing links about this, wondering why this was getting international coverage, so I finally decided to read about it:
That is undoubtedly true. But it was the YouTuber aspect that got my attention with this, because I've watched a number of videos from other "van people" on YouTube, and you do feel like you kind of get to know them after awhile. In this case, I think they said they only had one video up though.If she wasn’t all those things, she’d be just another missing persons or murder case.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I also think that sometimes these young couples isolate themselves so much that their relationship becomes their own little world that morphs into a bunch of toxic dynamics. It happens unnoticed and undefined, so that they find themselves in this sick little world of two people. It’s similar to an abscess in the body. It isolates and grows by its own rules. In my view, this is often at the root of suicide pacts and such.That is undoubtedly true. But it was the YouTuber aspect that got my attention with this, because I've watched a number of videos from other "van people" on YouTube, and you do feel like you kind of get to know them after awhile. In this case, I think they said they only had one video up though.
The fact that she was 22 doesn't only mean she was pretty, it also makes the whole thing that much more tragic.
Sounds like to me they fought a lot, like many young couples, and the guy didn't have the self control he should have, and ended up killing her, maybe even accidentally. From the time they were stopped by the police, it sounded like she was acting up in that situation. A lot of guys here have said they think it's okay to hit a girl if she hits him first. But men are much bigger and stronger than women, and I could see a situation where a guy might not know his own strength. You had better know what you're doing and what you're getting into if you take that philosophy.
white fertile middle class, cute girl = a victimI don’t know why the media wastes time on things like this. They are supposed to be in the news business.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
It's got nothing to do with deserving.this is a sad story but not really deserving of national attention compared to all others
That may be a family inherited trait. It looks to me like Brian’s family might well have opened themselves up to accessory after the fact legal charges with their reluctant and very possibly misleading communication with law enforcement during this process.I think she’s a typical woman that wasted her youth chasing bums and got herself killed by one.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.