MatureDJ
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I had been seeing links about this, wondering why this was getting international coverage, so I finally decided to read about it:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I never heard of this or her whom I also do not know, who she is.. But apparently they have already found her body:I had been seeing links about this, wondering why this was getting international coverage, so I finally decided to read about it:
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Considering the horribly bad results / news the US government has generated lately, my guess is the MSM is probably pushing her story to the max as a distraction.I had been seeing links about this, wondering why this was getting international coverage
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
but it is just another missing case, only diference is someone who is like her get interested and then they had to go the extra mile to blame everyone for itI haven’t read the article but here’s my take on it. I was just telling my wife this last night.
1) White female
2) Young, bubbly (iow “cute”)
3) Pretty
4) YouTuber
If she wasn’t all those things, she’d be just another missing persons or murder case.
I haven't watched the news for over 8 years. I try really hard to stay away from the news and media, for a reason. There is absolutely nothing for me to gain or learn, but quite the opposite.I had been seeing links about this, wondering why this was getting international coverage, so I finally decided to read about it:
That is undoubtedly true. But it was the YouTuber aspect that got my attention with this, because I've watched a number of videos from other "van people" on YouTube, and you do feel like you kind of get to know them after awhile. In this case, I think they said they only had one video up though.If she wasn’t all those things, she’d be just another missing persons or murder case.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I also think that sometimes these young couples isolate themselves so much that their relationship becomes their own little world that morphs into a bunch of toxic dynamics. It happens unnoticed and undefined, so that they find themselves in this sick little world of two people. It’s similar to an abscess in the body. It isolates and grows by its own rules. In my view, this is often at the root of suicide pacts and such.That is undoubtedly true. But it was the YouTuber aspect that got my attention with this, because I've watched a number of videos from other "van people" on YouTube, and you do feel like you kind of get to know them after awhile. In this case, I think they said they only had one video up though.
The fact that she was 22 doesn't only mean she was pretty, it also makes the whole thing that much more tragic.
Sounds like to me they fought a lot, like many young couples, and the guy didn't have the self control he should have, and ended up killing her, maybe even accidentally. From the time they were stopped by the police, it sounded like she was acting up in that situation. A lot of guys here have said they think it's okay to hit a girl if she hits him first. But men are much bigger and stronger than women, and I could see a situation where a guy might not know his own strength. You had better know what you're doing and what you're getting into if you take that philosophy.
white fertile middle class, cute girl = a victimI don’t know why the media wastes time on things like this. They are supposed to be in the news business.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
It's got nothing to do with deserving.this is a sad story but not really deserving of national attention compared to all others
That may be a family inherited trait. It looks to me like Brian’s family might well have opened themselves up to accessory after the fact legal charges with their reluctant and very possibly misleading communication with law enforcement during this process.I think she’s a typical woman that wasted her youth chasing bums and got herself killed by one.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.