lost_blackbird
Master Don Juan
She kinda reminds me of my STBX wife's younger half-sister.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Gotta call you out, Hank.@lost_blackbird
This girl you call an HB9 has a job bringing pallets to a conveyor belt?
What's your scale like brah?
TO be fair.......@lost_blackbird
This girl you call an HB9 has a job bringing pallets to a conveyor belt?
What's your scale like brah?
I have a friend who is a Pilates teacher, and rock climber. Great body but a face like about a 6. She was approached by an older man while at a stoplight and reacted in absolute DISGUST! So you do have women out there who age is a serious no go issue, regardless of how many other things you have going for you.You don't need any signs. You see a hot girl of legal age and you approach her and talk to her and ask her out. It's simple and it completely eliminates any wondering or guess-work. You waste zero brain cycles trying to calculate whether or not she is interested. You simply ask her and find out. It's really as simple as that.
Yeah, it can happen, but the mindset is that she has the problem, not the guy, so her disgust (which is really just the manifestation of her entitlement, narcissism, and arrogance) is 100% on her and has nothing to do with him. When a fat ugly older woman approaches me and flirts with me, I'm always polite. No reason not to be! So if I were ever to get a reaction out of a younger woman like that during my approach, that's how I would process it mentally, and the fear of it happening doesn't stop me from approaching women of any legal age. Otherwise I wouldn't be banging so many 23-24yo hot women. I'll admit I look late 20's to early 30's which helps me a lot, but I don't think a guy who looks his age, but dresses dapper and is really fit would have too much of a harder time than me.I have a friend who is a Pilates teacher, and rock climber. Great body but a face like about a 6. She was approached by an older man while at a stoplight and reacted in absolute DISGUST! So you do have women out there who age is a serious no go issue, regardless of how many other things you have going for you.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
At the end it still depends........ does the guy look like an "old(er) man"?I have a friend who is a Pilates teacher, and rock climber. Great body but a face like about a 6. She was approached by an older man while at a stoplight and reacted in absolute DISGUST! So you do have women out there who age is a serious no go issue, regardless of how many other things you have going for you.
No its not and what is a "true 9" for whom?I was just saying that I didn't think a true 9 would be working in a warehouse at a conveyor belt.
It's a fair assumption.
This is absolutely bang on here.Some of the hottest women iv ever seen have being doing what we might consider boring,menial,rubbish jobs. The hotties,they cant all (or dont want to) be pole dancers,strippers or whatever it is hot ladies "should" doBut I can tell you that here, you meet absolute stunners doing crap jobs that they hate all the time. Beauty just doesn't seem to cut much ice when it comes to employment like i'm guessing it does in the US? (or maybe it's something else)
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Tesco was always an eye-opening shopping experience talking to the women that worked there. It's true.This is absolutely bang on here.Some of the hottest women iv ever seen have being doing what we might consider boring,menial,rubbish jobs. The hotties,they cant all (or dont want to) be pole dancers,strippers or whatever it is hot ladies "should" do
Well my mate married a HB9 he met in Tesco....You could say he got a bag for life I suppose!Tesco was always an eye-opening shopping experience talking to the women that worked there. It's true.
one of the girls I like near me is working as like a cleaner/marshal at a paintpall place lolThis is absolutely bang on here.Some of the hottest women iv ever seen have being doing what we might consider boring,menial,rubbish jobs. The hotties,they cant all (or dont want to) be pole dancers,strippers or whatever it is hot ladies "should" do

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.