"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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POF - perpetually “unread” messages

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Hey, peeps...

So I am getting tons of messages on POF that remain in “unread” status, even after the ladies have logged in and must have seen them. I get “deleted unread” and “read deleted” all the time.

Very disheartening. Please provide clarity.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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TheCheez18 said:
Hey, peeps...

So I am getting tons of messages on POF that remain in “unread” status, even after the ladies have logged in and must have seen them. I get “deleted unread” and “read deleted” all the time.

Very disheartening. Please provide clarity.
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They have 100 new messages a day. Each come with a small thumbnail profile photo. They only respond to the photos they like.
 
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Bro they have this they have that. Your profile has bad pix, in tips section read my thread Why old doesn’t work for you.
 
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I'm not familiar with POF, but a lot of girls will do this on apps in general where "read" or "seen" receipts are sent.

My hunch is that they know if they open a message that a receipt will be sent, at which point they'll feel obligated to respond to it. If they have low or zero interest, they'll go out of there way to avoid opening it right away, if at all. The longer they delay opening a message the less obligation they feel to respond.

In most cases if a girl hasn't "read" or "seen" your message but has logged on to that app a few times since you sent it, I'd assume she's not interested.

Despite the advice girls are sometimes given to "play hard to get" or to "not respond right away", most girls who are truly interested are unable to stick to this advice when push comes to shove.
 
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TheCheez18 said:
Hey, peeps...

So I am getting tons of messages on POF that remain in “unread” status, even after the ladies have logged in and must have seen them. I get “deleted unread” and “read deleted” all the time.

Very disheartening. Please provide clarity.
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Show me an example of the messages you are sending.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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EyeBRollin said:
They have 100 new messages a day. Each come with a small thumbnail profile photo. They only respond to the photos they like.
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Yup...and 85 of them are from weird dudes sending d1ck pics or saying "Hi" or saying "You are sexy...do you want to fvck?" or some other lame af opening message.

If you simply act normal, interesting and fun your actual competition is very little.
 
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POF is a dumpster fire and has the worst gals out of all the apps.
 
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BackInTheGame78 said:
Yup...and 85 of them are from weird dudes sending d1ck pics or saying "Hi" or saying "You are sexy...do you want to fvck?" or some other lame af opening message.

If you simply act normal, interesting and fun your actual competition is very little.
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I have disproven this. Vast majority of messages are ok openers. The competition is heavy. One must have other things going to stand out
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DrakeRamoray said:
POF is full of “chicks” that end up asking you to message them on Kik. I know it’s free, but don’t waste your time.
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This has been my experience with pof. An utter waste of time.
 
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My experience has been the messages they show you are much lower number than the polite messages they receive.
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Shrug. I do exceptionally well online so I really don't worry about other guys and what they are sending. They choose me quite a bit over them.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Plus there are very few women that are actually on there to bang in the first place. Most are just there for attention.
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A lot of guys find this hard to really swallow.

Its as shocking for girls as realising that most guys are just on there looking for sex as fast as possible, not there to date or 'get to know you' or 'develop a relationship'. There is no such thing anymore. The AW's have made it only so that guys MUST escalate sex quickly or be used for attention only. Dating and developing relationships does not exist at all from the beginnings of OLD.
If the beginning meeting was an approach or from social circle IN PERSON, there might be a chance to date and get to know a guy for boyfriend potential, but not on OLD.

Its a bitter red pill for both genders.
 
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TheCheez18 said:
Hey, peeps...

So I am getting tons of messages on POF that remain in “unread” status, even after the ladies have logged in and must have seen them. I get “deleted unread” and “read deleted” all the time.

Very disheartening. Please provide clarity.
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Why are you dumpster diving? What would you rate your looks and worth on a 1 - 110 scale?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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