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You could also tell her it will never go back to the way it was.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ThisIsSparta
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1.) Dont tell her she can hurt you. This gives her way to much power over you.
2.) Dont talk to her about your feelings at all. Ignore her when she talks about anything but the kid.
3.) Distance your mind and heart from that beach. You are still to much in this.
4.) Focus on your duties as a father, you will need all your energy as things will go ugly once she realizes you are not her cuck anymore and she will try to use the kid to pressure you into things.
Romanemp22
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No dude what is wrong with you? Please have some self respect and take care of your needs and stop thinking about her and whos shes ****ing. It would be natural if you just broke up but you broke up a year and a half ago. Start talking to other women and stop thinking about her, its not healthy for you.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ThisIsSparta
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As long as you can take care of your kid, who gives a **** if she replys or not? Enjoy the time with your kid, even if he is sick.
In what country do you live? What custody arrangements do you have with her? Could you get full custody?
Things can never be the same. Dude ignore everything about her. Everything except your kid.
Why are you entertaining her? If the subject isn't your child you :
Walk away
Delete
Ignore
Block
Give zero answer
Give zero F^cks
Give zero reaction
Date other women.
If you are ever confused again, just refer to that list.
Romanemp22
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Can you provide a little bit more to the story?How did you suspect the kid was not yours?
Excellent point. Chicks lie. Especially when they want a guy-- any guy on the hook for their bills.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
ThisIsSparta
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True, the man could be the cuck since much longer then he thinks......
djreez88
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The woman that brought me here cucked me withe a 1 yo at the time that i didn't immediately get a test on before getting back involved with her. I had known her for 3 years. She was in and out of my life. She had came back the last time with a kid she said was mine.
We got back together and about 6 months later my mother finally convinced me to get a dna. Wasn't mine. It broke me. She took the child and i haven't seen them since. I dodged a bullet in reality though. I could've ended up like my cousin that didn't find out about his "son" till he was 18. 18 years of child support smh.
Romanemp22
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Damn, thats harsh. Im glad your doing fine and that you really dodged that bullet man
Went to social services to have som advice about my son and how he lives now. They said my ex did several things wrong with hon and they are going to raport her but before that they wanted me to tell ger about the problems. I did but again no reply. This is important stuff but she ignores...
She is shooting herself in the foto.
She is shooting herself in the foto.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
mrgoodstuff
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Time and time again
DEEZEDBRAH
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Yes she is very Mad. She did nothing wrong ****ing another man,she is single and do whatever she wants she said. She is "surprised" of me blockning her and no contact but she dnt understand WHY i did that.
Of Course she understand but she is the victim here....
Of Course she understand but she is the victim here....