The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[Murk]

The break up that lead me here in 2017 I am now fully over - although find myself thinking about my ex from tie to time - but not in an "I want her back" way more "I wonder how she's doing" kind of way.

No contact is the only way to do this - to move on. Forget trying to win them back.

 

[Lynx nkaf]

So.
Quite a few months have passed since I've seen him in person...next Wednesday will be 8 months.
I stopped "x" ing out the days on my erasable 365 day wall calendar mid July.....tonight I'll take a photo then erase it all. I need the blank spaces to plan and write out my new identity/system for goal completion.

Hey. Thank you 'no contact' thread for helping me stay committed to no contact and thank you to sosuave generally for helping me recalibrate.

 

[Murk]

Breaking up is a mess and your mind is not in the best place to make decisions.

Time is the only healer. Live your life, realise the billions of possibilities out there.

You never heed this advice, I never did, it takes time and experience.

my only advice is don't do anything detrimental to your health or wellbeing - everything else will fall into place over time.

Keep your heads up.

 

[HyenaPrince]

Breaking up is a mess and your mind is not in the best place to make decisions.

Time is the only healer. Live your life, realise the billions of possibilities out there.

You never heed this advice, I never did, it takes time and experience.

my only advice is don't do anything detrimental to your health or wellbeing - everything else will fall into place over time.

Keep your heads up.

Sound advice.

 

[dude99]

I don't call this butt -hurt.

I call it WINNING

Agreed. She said hello sarcastically, trying to draw him in. Why even entertain her with a respond. No reply no response nothing, just keep walking was the perfect response

 

[Mike41090]

Agreed. She said hello sarcastically, trying to draw him in. Why even entertain her with a respond. No reply no response nothing, just keep walking was the perfect response

I’ve actually been at the same party almost every weekend as her (we share mutual friends and there are over a hundred people at these parties) I constantly see her checking me out, shooting glances my way. I’m in phenomenal shape btw. I just go about my day like she doesn’t exist and enjoy myself. I don’t even chat up her friends. I’ve literally cut off all faucets of her even being brought up.

 

[dude99]

Living

I’ve actually been at the same party almost every weekend as her (we share mutual friends and there are over a hundred people at these parties) I constantly see her checking me out, shooting glances my way. I’m in phenomenal shape btw. I just go about my day like she doesn’t exist and enjoy myself. I don’t even chat up her friends. I’ve literally cut off all faucets of her even being brought up.

Living well is the best revenge

 

[Nordic_identity]

Been no contact with her for little over a week. She texts me this last night, I don't reply, and then she follows up with "Hello?". After an hour she tries to call me and I don't pick up.

She gave me with account information originally and I feel there's almost a 0% chance she has forgotten it or could at least facilitate a password recovery for her account so I think this is just an attempt for her to reach out to me.

Should I reply with the account info or just continue no contact?

 

[dude99]

Been no contact with her for little over a week. She texts me this last night, I don't reply, and then she follows up with "Hello?". After an hour she tries to call me and I don't pick up.

She gave me with account information originally and I feel there's almost a 0% chance she has forgotten it or could at least facilitate a password recovery for her account so I think this is just an attempt for her to reach out to me.

Should I reply with the account info or just continue no contact? View attachment 5135

You know what to do.

Ignore. Delete.

No contact is NO contact.

 

[Nordic_identity]

You know what to do.

Ignore. Delete.

I figured, I was really close to just texting her the account info but then I said, you know just ask SS before you make a move.

She has to know the info, no other reason to contact me beyond trying to initiate confrontation.

 

[dude99]

I figured, I was really close to just texting her the account info but then I said, you know just ask SS before you make a move.

She has to know the info, no other reason to contact me beyond trying to initiate confrontation.

She knows the information. She is putting her toe in the water to see if she can still get you to react. She wants to see if you will still do her bidding, still go through hoops for her.

When you are in no contact, best reaction is no reaction.

Not sure what to do? Do nothing. Not sure how to respond? Don't respond. Not sure what to say? Say nothing.

You owe her nothing.

 

[Nordic_identity]

She knows the information. She is putting her toe in the water to see if she can still get you to react. She wants to see if you will still do her bidding, still go through hoops for her.

When you are in no contact, best reaction is no reaction.

Not sure what to do? Do nothing. Not sure how to respond? Don't respond. Not sure what to say? Say nothing.

You owe her nothing.

Saw she logged out of the account so to just troll her I sent her the email address and only that she said "i figured it out thank you".

Ah well, shouldn't have broke no contact. Kick myself.

 

[Nordic_identity]

To give a better understanding of why I broke no contact to send the email address:

I don't love this girl. I miss the fun and kinky sex but I don't love her. I think I got worried if I said nothing then she'd think I never wanted her to contact me and I am trying to play my cards right for the booty call down the road...but I messed up. I sent her the email after doing so well sustaining the no contact even after she tried to call.

Idk.

 

[Nordic_identity]

It's not about the "account info", it's about getting you to respond.

If you respond then she knows you still care = her anxiety is relieved and she "wins" in her tiny female mind. It's a Game and the only way to win is to always care less than she does.

I feel like I might've still potrayed that a bit with only responding with the email address and nothing else after hours of not and her even trying to contact me but I guess that might just be a cope.

I'll keep y'all updated on if she contacts me and back and if I feel the urge to contact her. Honestly I don't atm feel like contacting her. As previously stated I only would like to have sex with her and I am not hung up on the relationship or any feelings of love or regret.

 

[Nordic_identity]

I feel like I might've still potrayed that a bit with only responding with the email address and nothing else after hours of not and her even trying to contact me but I guess that might just be a cope.

I'll keep y'all updated on if she contacts me and back and if I feel the urge to contact her. Honestly I don't atm feel like contacting her. As previously stated I only would like to have sex with her and I am not hung up on the relationship or any feelings of love or regret.

Update:

She contacted me again. This time to tell me that her card was charged so I could continue to use the service till the end of the month.

I have held out. Really don't even have the urge to make any contact or break no contact again like I did by sending the email address after I already knew she closed the account.

I really continue to just see this as an attempt by her to get me to say something back but I am gonna hold out brothers.

 

[dude99]

Saw she logged out of the account so to just troll her I sent her the email address and only that she said "i figured it out thank you".

Ah well, shouldn't have broke no contact. Kick myself.

She managed to draw you in. Sorry dude, you should kick yourself. ( i mean that tongue and cheek )

She already knew the account information, that was just her seeing if you will jump when she said jump.

Please from now on block/ignore/delete/nope/next/never-again/shei-snot-a-priority/i-owe-her-nothing
This chick from here on out.

 

[Nordic_identity]

Update:

She contacted me again. This time to tell me that her card was charged so I could continue to use the service till the end of the month.

I have held out. Really don't even have the urge to make any contact or break no contact again like I did by sending the email address after I already knew she closed the account.

I really continue to just see this as an attempt by her to get me to say something back but I am gonna hold out brothers.

Yet another update:

So after the text about the account still being up and me being able to use it, 4 hours go by and she sends me the new password. Then 30 minutes go by and she says something to the affect of "I doubt you'll respond or use it but it's there if you want to".

How do I set this up for the FWB status later down the road. My plan currently is to continue to go no contact.

Be aware, this girl is currently in a rebound relationship with a guy she claimed was a gay friend when we were dating. She broke up with me and that's when I found out she was lying about the gay friend. For more details and specifics check out the thread "Why do girls continue to lie" that I posted in this same forum.

 

[dude99]

I feel like I might've still potrayed that a bit with only responding with the email address and nothing else after hours of not and her even trying to contact me but I guess that might just be a cope.

I'll keep y'all updated on if she contacts me and back and if I feel the urge to contact her. Honestly I don't atm feel like contacting her. As previously stated I only would like to have sex with her and I am not hung up on the relationship or any feelings of love or regret.

If it is sex you are interested with her then find another chick to have sex with. Holes are holes. Other chicks have them too.

This hoping for a booty call is and will delay your healing.

 

[dude99]

Yet another update:

So after the text about the account still being up and me being able to use it, 4 hours go by and she sends me the new password. Then 30 minutes go by and she says something to the affect of "I doubt you'll respond or use it but it's there if you want to".

How do I set this up for the FWB status later down the road. My plan currently is to continue to go no contact.

Be aware, this girl is currently in a rebound relationship with a guy she claimed was a gay friend when we were dating. She broke up with me and that's when I found out she was lying about the gay friend. For more details and specifics check out the thread "Why do girls continue to lie" that I posted in this same forum.

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"Not sure what to do? Do nothing. Not sure how to respond? Don't respond. Not sure what to say? Say nothing."

This what you do.

 

[Baibars]

Yet another update:

So after the text about the account still being up and me being able to use it, 4 hours go by and she sends me the new password. Then 30 minutes go by and she says something to the affect of "I doubt you'll respond or use it but it's there if you want to".

How do I set this up for the FWB status later down the road. My plan currently is to continue to go no contact.

Be aware, this girl is currently in a rebound relationship with a guy she claimed was a gay friend when we were dating. She broke up with me and that's when I found out she was lying about the gay friend. For more details and specifics check out the thread "Why do girls continue to lie" that I posted in this same forum.

You should ignore her and she shouldn't really matter to you. All she wants it attention ,if not, she would come to your place and do whatever you want. You know how high interest girls act. She wants to make you believe that she will open her legs for you and if you buy that and play her game you lose.
Nothing you text her will somehow manipulate her into wanting to fvck you. Ignore, look for better opportunities, Focus on yourself and if she ever Hits you up again ( and i dont mean sending you one text or breadcrumbing you ) you could bang her nothing more because she already proved that she is not worth anything more.