"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How you deal with anger really
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
and in so you have 2 ways to deal with it supress, and in doing so not changing anything.
or use it as fuel to force you to change.
what is the reason for you being angry? a situation you let it happen? so you know very well you can and should not let this happen again so you use it for the change.
most consider anger as a bad feeling, there is not bad feeling really, just the way you deal with it, using anger was fuel to change what you can is alwyas a good thing
You are a speck of dust on a pebble floating through a endless sea of nothingness. None of this sh*t down here is really worth getting that angry about. Relax and enjoy the ride.
FJA
Don Juan
I'm emotionally blocked. Hard to get to the roots of whys because there is alot of bull**** to go through first and it feels like I'm losing significant time
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
I then use the anger to fuel me to get stronger. To give me DRIVE. This drive is the essence of masculinity.
In life channel it into physical activity eg the heavy bag and just burn it off as fuel.
Or learn meditation and how to calm your reactive mind.
I do both but I'm still on the journey to the next level which is not to react in the first place i.e. be able to intervene in your own thoughts at the moment they form.
EyeOnThePrize
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Anger is worse than fire in that it's utterly useless. There is no situation where it would benefit you. When you conclude that anger is irrational and useless it becomes much easier to dismiss.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
As I get older I'm trying to practice a little bit more self compassion too.
I sent spent this morning hanging out on so suave and smelling the coffee. I should be doing my chores and jumping into my tech projects for work.
But I'm a bit more realistic these days. I'm not going to get down on myself because there was an exec reshuffle at work so it was a **** of a week pot was boiling and I had an epic tennis match on Thursday night which I am still very sore from. And some adverse medical news this week.
So the frame needs a little bit of recovery time.
Only real advantage of old age is experience you know this too shall pass.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Peace & love
FJA
Don Juan
Dumps you/cheats:
Move on and don´t stay in the bad atmosphere, it´s toxic, unfortunately it´s a part of the behaviour of many women, we can change our own behaviour/emotions, not that from women (maybe we can if we put much much energy in it, but better use your energy for nice things, which lead tot success)
Flakes:
> Option 1) Don´t contact her for some weeks, than simply try to reschedule for an appointment (have a drink, inviting to your place etc), no answer or a no I don´t want-answer, let her wait like 1 month and try it again, in the meanwhile, do nice things ;-) with other girls
> Option 2) Text her: if you like to meet later, let me know, if I´m still interested, we can hang out (no other words, no emotions, so don´t be angry, that´s needy!!!), especially that ¨if I´m still interested¨ is very important, than she knows she can lose something and you don´t give a **** about her being flaky, women don´t like to lose. And it gives you more value, since you show that you don´t care, she can smell it and feel that it seems that you have other options......and not only her
Ghosts after a date:
Be the leader, tell her (text, phone): ready to meet again, (date/time) + (location)? No answer, contact her again with the same message again in some weeks, as if you never asked her before (so don´t speak about previous contactmoments). If her answer is no, the famous message: if you like to meet later, let me know, if I´m still interested, we can hang out. Other option is, just don´t do anything anymore and meet other women.
Most important is, don´t show emotions, that´s not attractive for a woman, only predators like that, but we are not looking for a predator.....as far as I know ;-)
Greetings from Holland!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
RangerMIke
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FJA
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The solution could be by making sure that there will be no trigger for any anger anymore, by sitting at home, doing nothing and especially no risk taking. Boring. But as I always say, no risk = no fun. So accept that things go wrong, because of taking risks. But also notice, that because of takings risks, many good things happened or will happen. When it´s about women, you can not control them and you don´t want that, it sucks out all your energy. So stop analysing why this and that, just move on, enough new good things will come.
This is so ****ing true and yet hard to swallow
Ohso-Phresh
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Easiest fastest way is to incorporate a mediation practice. Nothing complex just focus on your breathing and the space in between your thoughts. 15m/daily is a good start.
To break it down anger is feeling victimized by an unrealized expectation and is a product of your interpretation of events.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.