"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Cleared it with the mods! A thread I’ve wanted to do for years. Post your real life picture let the community help fix your looks!(completely optiona)

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Very good size man.
What bf if you dont mind me asking.
Used to be very big but with higher bf, i did not like the look on me.
Tbh idk.. I will say i do not have visible abs but I don’t really have much of a gut either. If I had to guess 20% ? If you didn’t know I am a club bouncer part time so I guess I try to maintain my look? Just looking intimidating helps keep guys calm most times.
 

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the avatar for @BeExcellent is her, if im not mistaken
Hi Gang... yes my avatar is me as all my avatars have been. I’m careful about showing too much of my face etc. but I’ve always felt if I’m going to say I’m this or that then I need to represent accurately so that I have credibility. That photo was taken last August...

And IMO both @cola & @AttackFormation are both attractive men. Keep in mind that all of us have a certain appeal to a subset of the opposite sex...and we all maximize our appeal by staying fit and presenting ourselves well.

I’m considered “hot” by plenty of men, but I’m not everyone’s ideal. That’s fine. Choose from among people who find you objectively attractive. That alone will save any number of headaches....

Cheers
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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don't like my own face so doubt i'll post it, but tempted to post my slayer friend (who slays more than you'd believe!!) since people are curious. Hell, you might not even think he's good looking, but girls react to him like he's in a lynx advert!! haha (opening him and grabbing him and telling him how hot he is, outright asking him for sex within minutes etc etc)
 

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Hi Gang... yes my avatar is me as all my avatars have been. I’m careful about showing too much of my face etc. but I’ve always felt if I’m going to say I’m this or that then I need to represent accurately so that I have credibility. That photo was taken last August...
I don’t see a single wrinkle! You look great, very petite are you vegan?
 

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Tbh idk.. I will say i do not have visible abs but I don’t really have much of a gut either. If I had to guess 20% ? If you didn’t know I am a club bouncer part time so I guess I try to maintain my look? Just looking intimidating helps keep guys calm most times.
Id say lower than that about 15 but jatd to say with shirt on.

This is the only pic i have of myself shirtless it was about 7 year ago i think.
I got even bigger but imo this is not the best look

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Now im more slim actually help me greatly with the ladies
 

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Just a quick picture, I dropped 100 pounds real difference in face. Still considered Obese and need to drop another 50lbs but at least I got jawline now. Hitting the gym everyday and watching what I eat will do body shots in another 4 months.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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don't like my own face so doubt i'll post it, but tempted to post my slayer friend (who slays more than you'd believe!!) since people are curious. Hell, you might not even think he's good looking, but girls react to him like he's in a lynx advert!! haha
The idea is to offer some friendly criticism that could help you out, maybe a few tweaks could improve your facial aesthetics.
 

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Just a quick picture, I dropped 100 pounds real difference in face. Still considered Obese and need to drop another 50lbs but at least I got jawline now. Hitting the gym everyday and watching what I eat will do body shots in another 4 months.
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Wow man ....
Great improvment.
 

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The idea is to offer some friendly criticism that could help you out, maybe a few tweaks could improve your facial aesthetics.
oh no, I already know my issues and what surgeries to get (confirmed on reddit a while back)
 

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Most guys will underestimate their body fat %. You will weigh less when you are lean than you think you will, especially if you don't yet comprehend that fitness models and athletes are on juice and you think you're supposed to have a supernatural physique by natural means. Don't sweat how "big" you are if you're working out, just get lean. @Sponty you look much better now, it's paying off.

don't like my own face so doubt i'll post it, but tempted to post my slayer friend (who slays more than you'd believe!!) since people are curious. Hell, you might not even think he's good looking, but girls react to him like he's in a lynx advert!! haha (opening him and grabbing him and telling him how hot he is, outright asking him for sex within minutes etc etc)
If it's the same guy I think you showed me, if you're the same guy, then I think your friend has a hard-nosed look. He fits into the "bad boy" spectrum.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Just a quick picture, I dropped 100 pounds real difference in face. Still considered Obese and need to drop another 50lbs but at least I got jawline now. Hitting the gym everyday and watching what I eat will do body shots in another 4 months.
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Well done, you have a great face and really nice teeth. You even look happier and more fun to be around in the second picture

@MrWood so are you an actor? Because that’s really cool man.
 

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@MrWood so are you an actor? Because that’s really cool man.
one shot, just for fun.
I have been in a few documentaries, but im no actor... thanks
 

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Id say lower than that about 15 but jatd to say with shirt on.

This is the only pic i have of myself shirtless it was about 7 year ago i think.
I got even bigger but imo this is not the best look

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Now im more slim actually help me greatly with the ladies
We have a similar body structure, I’m a tad more lean. I wouldn’t think you’d have a problem with the ladies in this picture, you look very strong. How tall are you?
 

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Hey @MrWood i know you said you think I’d look better with a shorter trimmed beard but would you ever consider making yours a tad longer? Something like this 44C9959B-0E0A-4F20-8394-46B0B1568E5E.jpeg
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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