The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Ignore what she said and ask her out on a date. Its not your concern what she is doing with someone else. "Talking to" is a pretty unserious relationship statusGirl I asked out said she was talking to someone but it's complicated, and says to send her a message. How to approach this?
I did ask her out though. You're saying to do it again?Ignore what she said and ask her out on a date. Its not your concern what she is doing with someone else. "Talking to" is a pretty unserious relationship status
I wouldn't.I did ask her out though. You're saying to do it again?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Lmao I'm just trying to get in her pants. Wanted to know if I had the green light to pursueI wouldn't.
She's either only with me or without me.
She deserves nothing from you. Don't reward her bad attitude with your attention.
Commence opperation "Ditch the b1tch"!
"Difficult" must mean its a greater reward, lol.Complicated people only want to bring complication to your life.
Do you know what that means?
It means she's a drama queen.
Move on!
You'll drive yourself crazy trying to solve a complicated puzzle.
Overthinking. Just ask her out. Ignore the other bullshvt she feeds you.Girl I asked out said she was talking to someone but it's complicated, and says to send her a message. How to approach this?
If "talking" to several at a time is their norm do you think this changes and magically they prefer strict one on one connection?It’s not your job to be her moral compass.
Treat all women as if they are single and DTF. Let them make their own decisions and reap the consequences of them.
All you need to know here is that she is not LTR material if she is considering fooling around with several men or behind another man’s back. She’s purely a play thing and not worth a considerable amount of effort.
Indifference.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
+1Treat all women as if they are single and DTF. Let them make their own decisions
Well spokenYes, and it might very well be a sincere “change” of intention to them, but in all of my experience it is seldom a permanent change. They often revert back to old ways in due time when the honeymoon stage wears off and things get real and imperfect.
I don’t roll the dice and take my chances with such women. They are sexual fodder and not much more.
A woman with a proper moral compass will possess it from the very beginning.
LMAO!"Difficult" must mean its a greater reward, lol.
Exactly. Difficult to me equals pass.LMAO!
That's blue pill mentality.
That's pretty obvious.Lmao I'm just trying to get in her pants. Wanted to know if I had the green light to pursue
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
LolSaying its complicated means she wants to cheat with you.. She has a bf.
^this lolExactly. Difficult to me equals pass.
On the flip side women love a challenge so if you are difficult and never open up but they are attracted you will be good for a long time.
Never pursue. Ignore anything a woman says about any dude... just ignore it. Until she uses it as an excuse not to meet up... then all you need to do is say "Too bad, here's my number, give me a call when you can meet up." Then forget about her. If she ever reaches out again for any reason, then assume she want to see you... then make a date... if she tosses BF back in your face, be polite but get off the phone as soon as you can.Lmao I'm just trying to get in her pants. Wanted to know if I had the green light to pursue
^this the best advice^Ignore anything a woman says about any dude... just ignore it.