Suave88
Master Don Juan
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No, I have been huged before. The female ended up having a romance with me.Probably friendzoned
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
No, I have been huged before. The female ended up having a romance with me.Probably friendzoned
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You did well. You are only friendzone if you hear that she is calling you friend or introducing you to her friends as a friend or refering to you as a friend in any way.I figured that too. Not that it is because the date is bad or anything, and she has always made cute comments about my hair, how I look young etc, so obviously some attraction there or else she wouldn't go on a date. BUt she did describe guys on POF and facebook dating app being pervy and creepy. One of them a real estate agent was upfront and honest he wanted sex so she didn't go on a date with him and said she isn't into going into stuff quickly and wants to be friends first.
Again, the way she stood there while I hugged her she was warm to me and the way her cheek was I think she was expecting I give her a peck, but based on the taking it slow comment I figured just too much at first.
I texted her and said I got home fine and really enjoyed myself. She replied back thanks and she said next time maybe we meet up where I live. So how long would you wait before texting her back again now about a second date? She is going out of town for a few days next Monday so I won't be able to meet before then likely because she works.
How often would you keep contact?
You did what was right. However if the female companion wants to pay her half, do not refuse. Let her paying.No, I paid the whole bill. She tried the usual stunt of picking up half the tab but I took it away from her before she could. With tip was 60 bucks total for our meals.
Each time I do they sound interested after and then ghost me or say they're not interested and I'm out of money. I can't keep doing that constantly. Cost a lot of money going on dates and spending $50 or $60 and ends up being a dead end.You did what was right.
Yes. I was a sever once. I almost **** a dishwasher. Young girl with 2 kids.It sounds like I need a job in the restuarant industry. She waits tables at a resort, motel restaurant that takes a 5 minute boat ride but its pretty busy. Alot of the workers since they all live on the island all sleep with each other she said but most of them are pot heads and have drinking problems she said so not high end material chicks.
But working in any restuarant in general especially ones with mostly young workers will it get you pu$$y a lot?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Take the bytch to the casino. They got free drinks when you sit at the slot machines.Why are people so against dinner dates on here as a first date?
Don't fvcking buy a $300.00 steak to no bytch even if they tell you it comes from E.T. meat . you can fvck someone for $300.00. you just need to make a phone call.Because you were too cheap. You only paid $ 60.00. You need to impress these women and take them out to a fancy restaurant and spend at least $ 300 on a rare steak. When you are too cheap you lose out. The other guy that spends $ 300 or more on her on a dinner date gets a proper kiss -- you know like that other example where he sent her roses at her job like you told us. Your are holding back too much, that's the problem.
I worked as a server long time ago. I worked in a casino. I saw couple and triples come and go. Bytches only eat half the steak, throw away the rest of the meat you could feed the hunger with.Her mouth might get wet for the steak though.
Forget about him.... He has 5 girlfriends. You know.... 5 fingers. That is a lot of company.Why do you not like old?
I believe she texted you little because you didn't reply right away.After the date Tue night I texted her saying I got home safe (25 mile drive, rural road) and said I enjoyed my time with her and she said she had a great time with me too and said maybe next time she will drive up to see me. I replied back saying I'd love to hangout again sometime and glad to meet you and she said "me too and have a great night." She goes to bed early. Since I didn't text her yesterday and she didn't text me at all so today is when I decided to text her back about meeting again for a drink. This time she kept the texts short again and didn't get as chatty as before the date. Why after teh date they don't go on and on in text messages? Is it because they already met me? She was more to the point in the text message I posted.
So do you think she's serious or just trying to brush me off thinking I'll just eventually lose interest? Before the date when we were texting about meeting she said she wanted to meet that way to see if there is chemistry to get that out of the way to see if basically it's wasting time or not talking. Since she was straight forward with that I figure she would have been direct and said she wasn't interested.
I also don't want to call her out if she doesn't reply by Sun. Maybe Sat just ask her how things are going at work and that and such? That way I'm not asking about the second date again, BUT I'm still keeping me on her mind and she obviously sees I'm showing interest in her.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I asked her how her day off was going and that. No reply.So have you texted her today? When she texted you back and what she asked you?
When did you text her? And when did she text you? Don't text her again. Just wait.I asked her how her day off was going and that. No reply.
Yesterday she last texted me. I texted her at 5 todayWhen did you text her? And when did she text you? Don't text her again. Just wait.
Don't texted her again until she texts back. She may be tired and not really up to going out. It is too late to go out tonight. She may think you want to ask her out now and does not want to reject you. Chill out.Yesterday she last texted me. I texted her at 5 today
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
40 in dec.How old is she? 39 or 40?
Correct.1979. And you 1983????
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.