HB 7 date lasted 2 hours, went well tonight. Was I friend zoned?

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I'm only half joking. Seriously, I'm about the same age as Brad Pitt and Tom Cruise. The difference is, depending who you ask(most people), they're better looking....and they have more zeros in the bank.

There really isn't anything new about online dating, though; it's just a high tech version of the personal ads lonely people used to place in newspapers, when I was a kid, repackaged for the instant gratification generation.

If I were to do online dating, this is what I would do, though, if I didn't feel like I could get away with the advice I already gave you:

I would put some of my hobbies into my profile, and tell any girl interested in meeting me, that our first date was going to involve one of my hobbies, period, non-negotiable. Don't care if she's never done it before. I'll teach her, but if she isn't at least adventurous enough to try it once, she isn't my kind of girl anyway.

That way, you're doing something you already enjoy, and that you'd be doing whether she were there or not, instead of spending money in a restaurant you would never go to, wearing shoes that make you uncomfortable, talking about bullsh1t that bores the crap out of you, and trying impress a girl you don't even know if you like, yet.

This way you're treating the woman like the optional accessory she really is, instead of giving her the false impression you're going to make her the new center of your universe. She either jumps in your sidecar or waves goodbye to you from the street corner, as you leave a dust cloud.

Doesn't matter what your hobby is. If you like skydiving, take her skydiving. If you like scuba, do that. If you won a couple buckles, back in the day, take her riding. Just make sure it's something YOU like to do, so you aren't wasting your time and money doing something you hate, to impress someone you don't know. Probably best if it isn't camping or hunting....although a date at the firing range could be really cool, especially if you're a retired 18-B, and she's Jane Fonda. LOL
There was a thread on here before about hobbies to meet women. But as people stated hobbies us guys are into really dont attract women.
 
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There was a thread on here before about hobbies to meet women. But as people stated hobbies us guys are into really dont attract women.
Well, that's all I've got for ya, buddy. Combine the 2 approaches, if you like. Tell her that if she wants to do something different, you'll do it, but she's paying.
 

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Well, that's all I've got for ya, buddy. Combine the 2 approaches, if you like. Tell her that if she wants to do something different, you'll do it, but she's paying.
How many days would you wait before asking her on a second date?
 

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How many days would you wait before asking her on a second date?
I'm the wrong guy to ask. I used to collect ph# I never used, and forget which number belonged to which girl. Then I'd call the ones who were so damn eager, but the funny thing is that, if you wait 6 mos to call, they aren't quite as eager anymore. Finally got to where i would just give them my phone number, and wouldn't take theirs unless they called first(makes life simpler).

I'd say, somewhere between hurt that you didn't call sooner, and gonna run you over if she ever sees you again, is just about right. Normal rule is 3 days, I think. If you have a good speaking voice, use it. Texting is for pussies. Just make it quick, and to the point. 2 minutes is too long. If she's in the middle of something, or you get voicemail, the ball is in her court. You don't call or text, ever again, unless you hear back from her. Don't be a clock watcher, but if she takes 48hrs to call you back, don't call her back quicker than the next day. If she calls you anytime after Friday afternoon, she doesn't get a call back before Monday.
 
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Anyway, I went out with that HB 7 tonight at a small seafood place by the water. The lady is a solid HB7. Not no super hottie but very cute, and she's 4 years older than me.

Very nice woman and we had dinner and talked for about 2 hours despite getting but up by bugs. She seemed pretty mature for her age too. Anyway just general chit chat and a bit of flirting I did with her.

She commented when we met tonight how young I look though just like she did on the app and texting. Thought I looked more like mid 20s. I mean that's a good thing, BUT I think with these 40 year old women they prefer someone their age or a couple years older.

I did take a note a couple times like she said "next time I'll take you out to visit so so" Island she works on at the restaurant and show me around. And I joked with her a bit about that too. Anyway, she commented about not meeting a lot of decent guys down here and lack of younger people and overall running into nerds, pervs etc. trying to use POF and facebook dating and joked how I've been the better date so far. She said she's looking for friends first before getting into a relationship and see where it leads from there. I see that as sounding legit but it worried me based on how she described other guys and that. So I tamed my game down a bit and backed off on the flirting a tad.

I only drank 2 beers since I had to drive 25 miles. She made the comment if I could drive home okay. She's a former state trooper btw. She lived just 10 minutes away. Maybe I should have drank more LOL and said I needed some time to recover. Maybe she would have taken me to her place!

Anyway, 2 hours date. I hugged her afterwards. The way she stood there and hugged me the way she had her cheek turned she wanted me to give her a peck on the side, BUT then I remember she said she likes to take things slow and just be friends and maybe that would been too much and an instant turn off.

Overall okay date I think since it lasted two hours. The only thing I wonder about is if I look too young and boyish for her and if she was friend zoning me because she said she has very few friends around here.
The only word I dont like from your the description of your date is the word "friend."
You must have been born in 1983.
 

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True, but not her pvssy.



Why are you dating four+ years older than you?
Because around here that is really that is on old that are decent looking. Very few women under 35 on there unless they have baggage or ugly and I dont see very many young people around her. If I could find a decent 29 year old I would be touching women older than me. But hey if they're 4 years older but decent looking I gotta take what I can get. I notice from old though all these older women have red flags I notice. Why is that?
 
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Maybe contact her tomorrow night then?
If it was me no. It makes me look needy. But I go for the kiss on the second date. I try to fvck them before the month. I dont know your experience with this lady. Let the rest of us have a say about it. Forget about being old or young. Just fvck the trooper. You seem to like her since you want to ask her out again.....
 

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If it was me no. It makes me look needy. But I go for the kiss on the second date. I try to fvck them before the month. I dont know your experience with this lady. Let the rest of us have a say about it. Forget about being old or young. Just fvck the trooper. You seem to like her since you want to ask her out again.....
Maybe fri contact her then? Shes off work this friday I know. Next week shes flying up north for a few days so that won't work.

I agree about a kiss. Second date if shes not receptive of it and not comfortable then I know this isnt going anywhere anyway and I can stop wasting time and cash on her.

Why does OLD rarely work out? At least from what I read on this forum everyone says to not use it and delete your accounts.

Every old date I go on thr girl is older and they raise red flags. Oh and this date said she was trying to buy another car. She said the loan didnt go thru because of wells Fargo said it was a former police car. She also said she finally saved up 6 grand. Shes older than me btw and my bank account is 5 times that. Why would she tell me what she has in the bank? Looking for money??
 

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Maybe fri contact her then? Shes off work this friday I know. Next week shes flying up north for a few days so that won't work.

I agree about a kiss. Second date if shes not receptive of it and not comfortable then I know this isnt going anywhere anyway and I can stop wasting time and cash on her.

Why does OLD rarely work out? At least from what I read on this forum everyone says to not use it and delete your accounts.

Every old date I go on thr girl is older and they raise red flags. Oh and this date said she was trying to buy another car. She said the loan didnt go thru because of wells Fargo said it was a former police car. She also said she finally saved up 6 grand. Shes older than me btw and my bank account is 5 times that. Why would she tell me what she has in the bank? Looking for money??
don't talk about finances with bytches. Don't give her a loan....or free money. Don't even care about it, you ain't the salvation army. If she asks, tell her you owe twice. Never tell her how much you got. You ain't applying for sugar daddy job.
If she is about to go away, then ask her out again. Women in military and police force are typically fast, but not hookers.

A tip I give you. If you were born in 1983 and your old lady in 1980, she likes you a lot. Dont ask me why....
 
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don't talk about finances with bytches. If she is about to go away, then ask her out again. Women in military and police force are typically fast, but not hookers. A tip I give you. If you were born in 1983 and your old lady in 1980, she likes you a lot. Dont ask me why....
You doing Chinese horoscopes?
 
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If you cant afford to walk then you are too desperate for any advice to work because you do not have walk away power and just wait for the girl to flake or ghost you. You cant afford to lose anyone. Probably will be thinking of only her until Friday and have all sorts of mental soap opera fantasy. Better you just call her now and save a few extra days of mental torment. Either you have her or you dont so why worry.
 

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If you cant afford to walk then you are too desperate for any advice to work because you do not have walk away power and just wait for the girl to flake or ghost you. You cant afford to lose anyone. Probably will be thinking of only her until Friday and have all sorts of mental soap opera fantasy. Better you just call her now and save a few extra days of mental torment. Either you have her or you dont so why worry.
Do you think OLD dates are worth worrying over and putting tons of stock into it?
 

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Do you think OLD dates are worth worrying over and putting tons of stock into it?
A pvssy is a pvssy. I was not present in your date. I didn't feel her. I believe Friday is too soon. When will she be gone and return next week?.. For how long???? Think about this....you are her toy boy..........
 

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A pvssy is a pvssy. I was not present in your date. I didn't feel her. I believe Friday is too soon. When will she be gone and return next week?.. For how long???? Think about this....you are her toy boy..........
She's leaving on the 18th for 4 days I think. I know it's the 18th but don't remember how long. I know a day or two before she will be busy probably and who knows might even work since she will be gone so she has extra money for her trip.
 

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don't talk about finances with bytches. Don't give her a loan....or free money. Don't even care about it, you ain't the salvation army. If she asks, tell her you owe twice. Never tell her how much you got. You ain't applying for sugar daddy job.
If she is about to go away, then ask her out again. Women in military and police force are typically fast, but not hookers.

A tip I give you. If you were born in 1983 and your old lady in 1980, she likes you a lot. Dont ask me why....
Why do these women from OLD talk about and try to pry financial information so much for on a first date? I had one very high end HB from OLD that had a very good teaching job, like at least 100k a year. Complained about money and housing cost and was prying me about my job and financial status and then made fun of my small business. She was divorced btw. Gee, I wonder why?

Why are these high end HB women from OLD money obsessed?
 
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