If you are worrying over it means the girl has a LOW-Interest level. If you dealt with a girl that had a HIGH-interest level where you could do no wrong then you would not be worrying. Most issues is how to change a LOW-interest girl to a HIGH-interest girl and you have Pook Anti-Dump concepts that say if you just deal with a HIGH-interest girl in the first place then there is no worry, no flaking or ghosting.Do you think OLD dates are worth worrying over and putting tons of stock into it?
You are following all of the textbook AFC blue-pill ways dealing with your girls, supplicating to them, being beta with them, etc.... and getting friendzoned in the process and nobody seems to be getting through to you that your whole approach is wrong.
Dinner dates is a simple AFC blue-pill move. That means you are supplicating by paying out money in exchange for her attention and time. She's not simply attracted to your alpha-ness and you are not appealing to her as a high-status man would. You have to focus more on game/red-pill rather than just being like any other boring AFC and shelling out money and have strong boundaries rather than be too desperate.