"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Well, this thread turned Indonesian...
I thought I was going crazy for a moment there and that I had somehow forgotten how words work, lol.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Well, this thread turned Indonesian...
I thought I was going crazy for a moment there and that I had somehow forgotten how words work, lol.
I speak a few languages due to exposure, it's easier for him to understand my meaning if I revert to Indonesian.
 

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Tempat tinggalku jauh dari Jakarta. Mungkin lain waktu saat bisnisku sudah OK, kita bisa bertemu di Jakarta. Jika kamu ke Yogyakarta/ Jogja (it's the same city), kita mungkin bisa bertemu. Yogyakarta is full with beautiful places to visit.
Bisa kita temui jika aku kesana.
 

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Let's wait for everything then. I'm on a week's leave to recharge and will post when I have access to my laptop.
:)
 

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Good thread
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I didn't read the entire thread.

Did you not just take Myers/Briggs and make it your own?
 

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I didn't read the entire thread.

Did you not just take Myers/Briggs and make it your own?
Find it and compare.

I used 6-sigma coupled with my own experiences infield and also years of various trainings I underwent to understand human buying behavioural patterns, among others.

It is not the same, it's not even close to mine.
 
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Though, it takes talent to take ideas and condense them into your own. I've never sold you short on that.
 
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Find it and compare.

I used 6-sigma coupled with my own experiences infield and also years of various trainings I underwent to understand human buying behavioural patterns, among others.

It is not the same, it's not even close to mine.
Sorry I made you mad lol
 

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It is an accumulation of what I know which is then used as the basis for this to work;

Results = core values (personality traits + childhood) + how you think + how you do things = frame.

That's why I can profile men here, know their past and also able to know their future should they not change trajectory.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I was trying to find where your philosophy came from. You talk about dominants and passives a lot, which sounds a lot like alphas and betas. Now I see similarities between expressives and introverts lol
 
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It is an accumulation of what I know which is then used as the basis for this to work;

Results = core values (personality traits + childhood) + how you think + how you do things = frame.

That's why I can profile men here, know their past and also able to know their future should they not change trajectory.
I'm what you would consider a passive, but I can morph into a dominant if the situation dictates. I do it more days than not.

I let my intellectual side slip on sosuave on the weekends.
 

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I'm what you would consider a passive, but I can morph into a dominant if the situation dictates. I do it more days than not.

I let my intellectual side slip on sosuave on the weekends.
U r an intellectual.

I will make the intellectual thread when I take my vacation.

Just so you know, the ones that's always talking abt Alpha's are passive men's, dead give away huh?

No such thing as alpha or beta.

Anyhow masculinity is universal, a code of conduct for men.
 

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Precious few personality assessments are known to be reliable, and researchers say their use outside academia is debatable.. Scientific American 2018


but they are fun to play around with as long as you don't treat them any different from horoscope
 
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U r an intellectual.

I will make the intellectual thread when I take my vacation.

Just so you know, the ones that's always talking abt Alpha's are passive men's, dead give away huh?

No such thing as alpha or beta.

Anyhow masculinity is universal, a code of conduct for men.
Don't bore me. Your vacation starts now.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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