"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Well, this thread turned Indonesian...
I thought I was going crazy for a moment there and that I had somehow forgotten how words work, lol.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well, this thread turned Indonesian...
I thought I was going crazy for a moment there and that I had somehow forgotten how words work, lol.
I speak a few languages due to exposure, it's easier for him to understand my meaning if I revert to Indonesian.
 

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Tempat tinggalku jauh dari Jakarta. Mungkin lain waktu saat bisnisku sudah OK, kita bisa bertemu di Jakarta. Jika kamu ke Yogyakarta/ Jogja (it's the same city), kita mungkin bisa bertemu. Yogyakarta is full with beautiful places to visit.
Bisa kita temui jika aku kesana.
 

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Let's wait for everything then. I'm on a week's leave to recharge and will post when I have access to my laptop.
:)
 

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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Good thread
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I didn't read the entire thread.

Did you not just take Myers/Briggs and make it your own?
 

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I didn't read the entire thread.

Did you not just take Myers/Briggs and make it your own?
Find it and compare.

I used 6-sigma coupled with my own experiences infield and also years of various trainings I underwent to understand human buying behavioural patterns, among others.

It is not the same, it's not even close to mine.
 
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Though, it takes talent to take ideas and condense them into your own. I've never sold you short on that.
 
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Find it and compare.

I used 6-sigma coupled with my own experiences infield and also years of various trainings I underwent to understand human buying behavioural patterns, among others.

It is not the same, it's not even close to mine.
Sorry I made you mad lol
 

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It is an accumulation of what I know which is then used as the basis for this to work;

Results = core values (personality traits + childhood) + how you think + how you do things = frame.

That's why I can profile men here, know their past and also able to know their future should they not change trajectory.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I was trying to find where your philosophy came from. You talk about dominants and passives a lot, which sounds a lot like alphas and betas. Now I see similarities between expressives and introverts lol
 
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It is an accumulation of what I know which is then used as the basis for this to work;

Results = core values (personality traits + childhood) + how you think + how you do things = frame.

That's why I can profile men here, know their past and also able to know their future should they not change trajectory.
I'm what you would consider a passive, but I can morph into a dominant if the situation dictates. I do it more days than not.

I let my intellectual side slip on sosuave on the weekends.
 

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I'm what you would consider a passive, but I can morph into a dominant if the situation dictates. I do it more days than not.

I let my intellectual side slip on sosuave on the weekends.
U r an intellectual.

I will make the intellectual thread when I take my vacation.

Just so you know, the ones that's always talking abt Alpha's are passive men's, dead give away huh?

No such thing as alpha or beta.

Anyhow masculinity is universal, a code of conduct for men.
 

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Precious few personality assessments are known to be reliable, and researchers say their use outside academia is debatable.. Scientific American 2018


but they are fun to play around with as long as you don't treat them any different from horoscope
 
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U r an intellectual.

I will make the intellectual thread when I take my vacation.

Just so you know, the ones that's always talking abt Alpha's are passive men's, dead give away huh?

No such thing as alpha or beta.

Anyhow masculinity is universal, a code of conduct for men.
Don't bore me. Your vacation starts now.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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