behimo
Don Juan
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they are dating apps;What do those stand for?
seeking arrangement
sugar daddy meet
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
they are dating apps;What do those stand for?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You're got to realise by now that I don't care.Well, I respect guru, as he used to give concrete advice, and still does sometimes.
But you? Lol
You obviously post a lot, that's been beaten to death, but nobody ever talks about your lack of substance. How can you post 1000 words a day and not really say anything?
Spaz: you should be more masculine. You should become a successful man that women gravitate towards. You should develop your social sphere. Pua are feminine seducers.
These are your mainstays, and they're unoriginal and unhelpful. You make me laugh, boy.
Hold on. You know what's better? That I've seen you get beaten down in debates, only to mold that poster's ideas into your own. Suddenly, it's spaz the king, spouting guru's ideas. Or mine.
You're an overbearing fraud.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What logic? You came into the thread and attacked the OP for considering lowering his standards. You said it was worse than jacking off. Hell, even guru says that he lowers his standards from time to time.To answer you question about 'giving' more directly, giving of yourself in an unconditional way. As guru has said before, egoless love. It's a state that requires work, maintenance, and vigilance. When you fuuck to simply bust a nut you're coming from ego and wasting your time. You may stumble on a girl that you get along with and feelings may develop. But your personal issues of self neglect will resurface when the infatuation wears off. That's why self improvement is so important, it's a life long practice and if you build it right they really do come. The way you irrevocably dismiss the idea says much more about you than me. Why you would tout a shiitty attitude and limiting beliefs about life, people, and growth as superior makes zero sense. You've obviously been burned and can't bring yourself to let go of your resentment. You're in too deep, willing to take your flawed stance to the grave because of your ego. I'm not saying my stance is better, but at least I'm open to changing it and admitting fault.
It's funny there's no real counter argument from you. You're quick to attack people's character rather than the logic of their argument. You focus so heavily on a person's character you don't even comprehend what they're trying to get across. You feel validated by anyone who's gullible enough to get baited into your diick swinging contest. It's like you don't care if it's good or bad attention, you just want attention. It feels like a facade, the very false confidence that I make sure not to fall into. I don't mind if you disagree, I think it's healthy, but you lose respect when you deviate in an attempt to undermine someone's character. I know it's probably useless to say any of this, because when you're stumped you fall silent, unwilling to change, unwilling to learn. A wet match in a dark cave. This is the one and only time I'm going to speak about your character, because it's not constructive, not my style, and not why I'm here. In the next thread if you can't maintain your civility I'll simply stop responding until you regain it.
When people call you out for this stuff and your response is to try and tear them down you're only proving their point.
I'm not sure why you're speaking on behalf of OP but please quote what you feel I said in my post is attacking him. I've said lowering standards is a move of desperation because it is. It means you're guided by your diick to the point that you'll do less than what you feel you deserve. Like guru says when reality sets in you'll realize it was stupid, or like I said you'll call it your new norm.What logic? You came into the thread and attacked the OP for considering lowering his standards. You said it was worse than jacking off. Hell, even guru says that he lowers his standards from time to time.
I haven't attacked you. Your ideas about sex are a bit weird to me, and you can be smug about it. That's all.
I'm well aware that the majority of posters on sosuave only bang 9s and 10s. Bunch of regular Leo DiCaprios running aroundI'm not sure why you're speaking on behalf of OP but please quote what you feel I said in my post is attacking him. I've said lowering standards is a move of desperation because it is. It means you're guided by your diick to the point that you'll do less than what you feel you deserve. Like guru says when reality sets in you'll realize it was stupid, or like I said you'll call it your new norm.
I read what guru said and I disagree. I would rather always shoot for 9s and 10s or women that are striving to be so. Not just in looks, all around, because that's what I strive to be. That's what I feel I deserve. Why would I supplicate to anything less? Because I'm horny? Gtfo here lol. Your counter to this is that some men simply won't be able to get 10s. Guru, myself, and some others disagree with you, and that's where we get into your character because the problem is there, not with the world. Your attempts to lash out only prove our point.
I would rather go my whole life striving for what I want and failing than settling for less. To me fuucking a 6 or 7 even one time is settling. Sometimes I'm mistaken and find out later that a 9 is actually a wicked biitch with the moral compass of a nazi, putting her overall score down at a 4. but hey I'm shooting high and making moves accordingly, not picking out trolls because I think I can't do better.
Let me give you a personal example of what I meant by changing your reality to meet your expectations because you misunderstood. When you're trading stocks all you have to do is push the right keys at the right time. You can't force the market to go in your direction and that's where most traders fail. What you can do is learn the patterns of the market until you have an edge. The computer and the market didn't change but your account grows because you took the necessary steps to learn when to press which keys. Reality has changed to meet your expectations. The same applies to everything. The more time and attention you invest in improving yourself the lower your chances of failure.
It depends.Am I the only one that can't lower my standard?
I just can't make a effort at all if the women is below my standard.
I become lazy af
Completly agree.It depends.
From the postings here, I'm inclined to believe that most if not all are purely based on the looks of women.
But those are plentiful, everywhere you look there are beautiful women walking around, but which one is special?
If she's fvckable and look wise just a 6 or 7 but has a great attitude, she's worth a fvcking 10.9
You take that 6 or 7, get a professional to doll her up, I guarantee you she'll be a 10.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Good for you, now you're already better then 99% of the men in the world.Completly agree.
That hb rating is seriously getting ridiculous imoGood for you, now you're already better then 99% of the men in the world.
when you say 'look wise' i think entire body. i'm not sure what a professional would do about bad proportions or tons of fat.It depends.
From the postings here, I'm inclined to believe that most if not all are purely based on the looks of women.
But those are plentiful, everywhere you look there are beautiful women walking around, but which one is special?
If she's fvckable and look wise just a 6 or 7 but has a great attitude, she's worth a fvcking 10.9
You take that 6 or 7, get a professional to doll her up, I guarantee you she'll be a 10.
Only have the one plate.i thought spinning plates meant seeing and sleeping with multiple women. can’t you just sleep with another of your plates?
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
I go for what i want. The dating world is a cruel world.That's arguable worse than fapping since you'll be screwing some chick up for the next guy, and diminishing yourself by only taking rather than giving. Tough it out and find someone up to your standards. If a release is all you're interested in then what's the point of a woman? Satisfying sex with a hottie whose company you enjoy and enjoy giving attention to is worth the wait.
I did say fvckable and that means a sexy body. A woman either has it or not.when you say 'look wise' i think entire body. i'm not sure what a professional would do about bad proportions or tons of fat.
Only as cruel as you want it to be. I guess then two consenting adults can do whatever. Whether she's damaged or not is on her.I go for what i want. The dating world is a cruel world.
Ah I see. But if you can't inspire her to see herself as a 10 then she'll continue to wear the 6 or 7 look, unless you hire a pro full time hehI did say fvckable and that means a sexy body. A woman either has it or not.
Go back and read it.
Cinderella wasn't all into being the ugly step sisters who were vain and only knew how to look into their mirrors whole day long.Ah I see. But if you can't inspire her to see herself as a 10 the she'll continue to wear the 6 or 7 look, unless you hire a pro full time heh
Maybe you misunderstood. A girl that is a 10 only when she washes her face and takes care of herself is not something you can control. She may see and treat herself as a 6 and there may be nothing you can do about it despite seeing her potential. It makes sense to simply focus on 10s because it shows they at least probably take care of themselves already. Vanity is more in the attitude department and would obviously be a deduction.Cinderella wasn't all into being the ugly step sisters who were vain and only knew how to look into their mirrors whole day long.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.