To answer you question about 'giving' more directly, giving of yourself in an unconditional way. As guru has said before, egoless love. It's a state that requires work, maintenance, and vigilance. When you fuuck to simply bust a nut you're coming from ego and wasting your time. You may stumble on a girl that you get along with and feelings may develop. But your personal issues of self neglect will resurface when the infatuation wears off. That's why self improvement is so important, it's a life long practice and if you build it right they really do come. The way you irrevocably dismiss the idea says much more about you than me. Why you would tout a shiitty attitude and limiting beliefs about life, people, and growth as superior makes zero sense. You've obviously been burned and can't bring yourself to let go of your resentment. You're in too deep, willing to take your flawed stance to the grave because of your ego. I'm not saying my stance is better, but at least I'm open to changing it and admitting fault.
It's funny there's no real counter argument from you. You're quick to attack people's character rather than the logic of their argument. You focus so heavily on a person's character you don't even comprehend what they're trying to get across. You feel validated by anyone who's gullible enough to get baited into your diick swinging contest. It's like you don't care if it's good or bad attention, you just want attention. It feels like a facade, the very false confidence that I make sure not to fall into. I don't mind if you disagree, I think it's healthy, but you lose respect when you deviate in an attempt to undermine someone's character. I know it's probably useless to say any of this, because when you're stumped you fall silent, unwilling to change, unwilling to learn. A wet match in a dark cave. This is the one and only time I'm going to speak about your character, because it's not constructive, not my style, and not why I'm here. In the next thread if you can't maintain your civility I'll simply stop responding until you regain it.
When people call you out for this stuff and your response is to try and tear them down you're only proving their point.