She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I reckon it depends on how bad you want to get laid.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
To be clear, I don’t have social media. But I definitely would if I chose to, and not because some men in some region say it’s insecure (without rationale) to have a social media presence.
That's exactly how I feel. I hate being around most people. I'm in leadership at my job, and with any woman I meet, so I try to avoid people the rest of the time. Work takes it out of me, women make me go crazy.
You think those men get those women wet as very good looking one would?
I never said that I don't try to punch above my weight class, for all the readers, just that I'm not an unrealistic blowhard. By all means, get out there and try.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I’d say depends on the woman. Some women are purely physical for sexual desire. Others get wet on power. Others on social status. Many models actually need more than just looks to get it on as looks is already too commonplace in their circles. Whereas a 6 or 7 women might seek looks primarily as its not as commonplace for her.
They do come if you build it correctly. The counterpoint is a guy like Bigdave who thinks he built it and yet they do not come, while completely oblivious to his social “retardation” which he did not build.
And @Tenacity rip.
I agree on this
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I was just showing you how long I've been around. Don't get your panties in a twist
Plenty of men with money who can’t find women. Some of them are in this forum.
Not to mention, Mani/pedis, exfoliating cream etc. Life is rough.
Did I hit home? Sorry to have done that to you but you were a needed example to be used toward the assistance of others.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Well, I respect guru, as he used to give concrete advice, and still does sometimes.
To answer you question about 'giving' more directly, giving of yourself in an unconditional way. As guru has said before, egoless love. It's a state that requires work, maintenance, and vigilance. When you fuuck to simply bust a nut you're coming from ego and wasting your time. You may stumble on a girl that you get along with and feelings may develop. But your personal issues of self neglect will resurface when the infatuation wears off. That's why self improvement is so important, it's a life long practice and if you build it right they really do come. The way you irrevocably dismiss the idea says much more about you than me. Why you would tout a shiitty attitude and limiting beliefs about life, people, and growth as superior makes zero sense. You've obviously been burned and can't bring yourself to let go of your resentment. You're in too deep, willing to take your flawed stance to the grave because of your ego. I'm not saying my stance is better, but at least I'm open to changing it and admitting fault.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.