Text after sex?

[Ranger]

I do text after sex. A woman regardless of her bull$hit wants to be appreciated and desired.

You just can’t be a noodle when doing it. There’s a fine line here. If you are inexperienced and don’t want to come across wrong, don’t text.

If you’re the kind that doesn’t like or require a connection then don’t text.
I do want a good connection but will never fall in “love”. There’s no such thing as love before your eighth to tenth anniversary.

I am not obtainable for a standard LTR. I like women and love a good connection. But it will end sooner than later if you see them more than maybe once a week. Plain and simple.

 

[Glassguy]

And if he does text her she will think “this guy has no life.”

How can she be guarded after sex? In the world of feminism, hypergamy, divorces, pornography, nudity, sex means nothing to women. It’s a way to get what they want. Sex does NOT mean high IL. She has to INITIATE, it means more than the actual sex itself.

OP, if she’s not initiating after sex, she doesn’t care you are sleeping with another girl. Low IL.

Who cares what she thinks?

She is either going to keep fvcking him or she isnt. She decided that last night after he banged her. The text is meaningless but just shows that he wants to see her again.

 

[Glassguy]

I mentioned this in another thread, but I encourage sending a post-sex text to protect against any false #metoo nonsense. It's unlikely but you never know, and a quick text takes little effort.

That's in addition to agreeing with your sense of frame.

You're a smart guy. You get it.

 

[marmel75]

The guy you think "gets laid" is getting cucked...I'd say there's an analytical ability gap here more than sexual experience gap.

How can anyone interpret sex in 2019 as meaningful, lmao.

Who is interpreting it as meaningful? I was talking more about the people freaking out about texting her.

 

[SoSuave666]

Almost all women I **** for the first time...I'd say 90% have always texted either that night or the next day saying how much of a good time they have had.

For the other 10% I will text...but not the next day. Maybe a day or so later just something simple. If she responds positively you are in the clear to move forward. Anything where your gut says "negative" just back off.

Women are so insecure you guys wouldn't believe. No one wants to be treated like a prostitute, even the whor3s.

 

[Trump]

And also jaded, coming from a place of fear.

Better safe than sorry. This isn’t 1950s or the Middle East. You have no idea what women are capable of in 2019.

I HIGHLY doubt a woman is thinking “he has no life”

Trust me, she is

Most women do not want to initiate anything. They appreciate and desire having a man take the lead.

These are the same women who will use absolutely destroy you in front of a courts and public opinion if they are so inclined to.

Women want all the benefits of the law, initiate more than half of divorces, want 50/50 in divorces spousal support for life, model for playboy, do pornography, and get rich and famous for taking off their clothes in movies.

But when it comes to dating and sex, THEN they act like we are in the 1950s?

Give me a break.

So really he’s denying his own masculine energy and opting for new world games. Playing in to a beta mindset.

It’s not new world games. It’s low IL on HER part.

Just because there is porn, feminism, divorces, and nudity in the world doesn’t mean sex means nothing.

True. I guess a woman giving up her body is easy for her, but when it comes to initiating, that’s where she draws the line.

It seems like no one here has been screwed over by woman. These girls have so confidence and power with the system behind them it’s ridiculous.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Banged this girl yesterday on our second 'date', should i send some general text today? Or just wait till next week when i'm planning on asking her out again?

It was fun. We should hangout again soon. /text

Screenshot response + archive it. #metoo means false accusations. Nit getting the ring isn't rape. These days, yiu can't be safw enough. I archive nudes, sexting, texts, and vid all sex. Think Dexter and keeping momentos for kills.

Its also due to women coming back 40yrs later with false accusations.

 

[flowtheory]

Better safe than sorry. This isn’t 1950s or the Middle East. You have no idea what women are capable of in 2019.



Trust me, she is



These are the same women who will use absolutely destroy you in front of a courts and public opinion if they are so inclined to.

Women want all the benefits of the law, initiate more than half of divorces, want 50/50 in divorces spousal support for life, model for playboy, do pornography, and get rich and famous for taking off their clothes in movies.

But when it comes to dating and sex, THEN they act like we are in the 1950s?

Give me a break.



It’s not new world games. It’s low IL on HER part.



True. I guess a woman giving up her body is easy for her, but when it comes to initiating, that’s where she draws the line.

It seems like no one here has been screwed over by woman. These girls have so confidence and power with the system behind them it’s ridiculous.

Why do we want the woman to reach out first? For ego mainly. To soothe the idea that ‘you’re the man. The alpha leader’
Whether you want to call it safe or not is besides the point. A woman can have HIGH HIGH interest for 10 years and on the eleventh dunp you and want a divorce or to leave. There’s no perfect model for navigating this. The whole dating game is ridiculous and a lot of this back and forth is pointless.
Most dating issues are issues of the self.

At the end of the day we just have to do what we want. Women play games and so do men. A lot of it is insecurity or to see how the person reacts, to once again give a false sense of security. I know what that’s like because my girlfriend has tried it. It’s just simple fear. You’re jumping to HUGE lengths about courts and the systems backing when the question is “should I text her after sex?”
OP is insecure about his value and other aspects of self. Not a big deal. At all. It’s just recognizing that and letting his own nature take its course to evolve.

Power is an illusion in interpersonal relationships. Women want to have an enriching relationship just like men. Looking at women as adversaries is a sure fire way to carve a treacherous life out for yourself.
So instead of entering game mode, just be cool, know your value and cultivate something meaningful while including the woman of interest. Learn their language, and then Bobs your uncle. Dating is over complicated to the extreme. Read some philosophy and less JadedMale.com

 

[backseatjuan]

Bottom lines is this, texting right after sex or date lets her know you are interested in her, removes all mystery, and prevents her from feeling emotional and insecure about you, which is what you want, you want her emotional and insecure. Once she is over being emotional and insecure, for her phase 2 kicks in, manipulation, withholding sex, moving towards long term. General rule of thumb is couple of days minimum before text or a call.

I'm not sure what is that new #metoo crap.

 

[djthiago1]

Bottom lines is this, texting right after sex or date lets her know you are interested in her, removes all mystery, and prevents her from feeling emotional and insecure about you, which is what you want, you want her emotional and insecure. Once she is over being emotional and insecure, for her phase 2 kicks in, manipulation, withholding sex, moving towards long term. General rule of thumb is couple of days minimum before text or a call.

I'm not sure what is that new #metoo crap.

Too late now, we exchanged about 2 or 3 texts, i let it purposelly die off so i can wait till sunday when i ask her out again for thursday, thursday will be 9 days since we last saw each other, i'm planning on taking it very nice and easy especially since she just recently broke up with her ex.

 

[Trump]

If you do nothing she will think you only wanted to fvck her once and she will be guarded.

Who cares what she thinks?

Am I missing something?

She is either going to keep fvcking him or she isnt. The text is meaningless but just shows that he wants to see her again.

Every act of sex eventually comes with some sort of transaction fee. You have to careful what you put in writing or it will come back to bite you.

Women will screw you over any chance they get. You guys are crazy to trust these women.

 

[djthiago1]

Why are you texting this woman? Texting should only be to set up the next date.



You had sex with her on Tuesday. Don’t see her Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday. Ask her out Sunday for a date 4 days in advance. Don’t see her Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, see her Thursday.

You think she is going to be all hot and bothered by then? She will be pregnant with twins by then. This is 2019.



Totally understand. Usually when I sleep with a woman on date 2, I like to Slow Things Down too.

Because she recently broke up with her ex, you are going to take it nice and easy? You are already playing into her frame.

Are you sure you slept with this girl bro?

Hardly playing on her frame, she will expect another come over and **** date, im definetely not doing that, and i always go slow, shes just getting it slower, and my second reason for going extra slow is to avoid being the rebound.

 

[Glassguy]

Am I missing something?

Yes you are

You guys are crazy to trust these women.

I dont trust them. I only use them for purposes that benefit me. Sure they get rewarded from it but at the end of the day it is about me pleasing me.....they come a distant 2nd.

 

[samspade]

Bottom lines is this, texting right after sex or date lets her know you are interested in her, removes all mystery, and prevents her from feeling emotional and insecure about you, which is what you want, you want her emotional and insecure. Once she is over being emotional and insecure, for her phase 2 kicks in, manipulation, withholding sex, moving towards long term. General rule of thumb is couple of days minimum before text or a call.

I'm not sure what is that new #metoo crap.

I get where you're coming from, but I respectfully disagree. We're in 2019 and not 2010, so yeah it's new, and the old "wait 2-3 days" rule means nothing. If you're unaware, the #metoo crap includes women sometimes capriciously/falsley accusing men of assault and other misdeeds.

You don't have to "let her know you are interested in her" or remove any mystery, first of all. As @DEEZEDBRAH said, something trite like "had fun, let's hang again" isn't going to sink anything. If you've just banged for the first time and you don't know her that well, it's a prudent thing to do, for the man's sake. Besides, a man with strong frame texts when he feels like it. If she wants to next me...let her.

 

[Glassguy]

I get where you're coming from, but I respectfully disagree. We're in 2019 and not 2010, so yeah it's new, and the old "wait 2-3 days" rule means nothing. If you're unaware, the #metoo crap includes women sometimes capriciously/falsley accusing men of assault and other misdeeds.

You don't have to "let her know you are interested in her" or remove any mystery, first of all. As @DEEZEDBRAH said, something trite like "had fun, let's hang again" isn't going to sink anything. If you've just banged for the first time and you don't know her that well, it's a prudent thing to do, for the man's sake. Besides, a man with strong frame texts when he feels like it. If she wants to next me...let her.

Totally agree.

Sending this is what you SHOULD do the next day if you havent already heard from her.
Guy: Hey whats up
Her: Hey there! How is your day going?
Guy: Much better after last night. I definitely enjoyed your company. Lets get together again soon.
Her: Sounds good. When are you free again?

This is NOT how it should go:
Guy: Hey beautiful . How are you doing? I had a great time last night and I really cant wait to see you again. I am free tonight, tomorrow night and all weekend. Think we can get together soon? Lets go grab dinner and a movie. What do you think?
Guy 5 minutes later: Hey! are you there?

Now obviously I made the 2nd scenario totally beta cuck convo but I wanted to get my point across.

The first text is cool, laid back, still mysterious and interesting.

The second should never be sent. That one will never get responded to and I will be the guys on her that bytch that women dont respond back to them send shyte like that all the time.

 

[djthiago1]

Totally agree.

Sending this is what you SHOULD do the next day if you havent already heard from her.
Guy: Hey whats up
Her: Hey there! How is your day going?
Guy: Much better after last night. I definitely enjoyed your company. Lets get together again soon.
Her: Sounds good. When are you free again?

This is NOT how it should go:
Guy: Hey beautiful . How are you doing? I had a great time last night and I really cant wait to see you again. I am free tonight, tomorrow night and all weekend. Think we can get together soon? Lets go grab dinner and a movie. What do you think?
Guy 5 minutes later: Hey! are you there?

Now obviously I made the 2nd scenario totally beta cuck convo but I wanted to get my point across.

The first text is cool, laid back, still mysterious and interesting.

The second should never be sent. That one will never get responded to and I will be the guys on her that bytch that women dont respond back to them send shyte like that all the time.

Mine was pretty general, i just asked her if she ate all the cake i gave her or if she shared with any of her brothers and sisters, after 2 or 3 more texts i let it die off for me to wait peacefully till sunday to ask her out again.

 

[Glassguy]

Mine was pretty general, i just asked her if she ate all the cake i gave her or if she shared with any of her brothers and sisters, after 2 or 3 more texts i let it die off for me to wait peacefully till sunday to ask her out again.

Whatever works bro.

The idea is to let her know that you didnt lose respect for her for being a woman and making you feel good as a man (Sex) but also letting her know that you're interested in round 2 in a very non thirsty way.

Fun, laid back, outgoing........I am never in a rush because I have other shyte going on, including other women. Thats what you want to get across covertly. However it matches up with you and your personality is what is going to work best for you.

 

[djthiago1]

Whatever works bro.

The idea is to let her know that you didnt lose respect for her for being a woman and making you feel good as a man (Sex) but also letting her know that you're interested in round 2 in a very non thirsty way.

Fun, laid back, outgoing........I am never in a rush because I have other shyte going on, including other women. Thats what you want to get across covertly. However it matches up with you and your personality is what is going to work best for you.

I have a tendency to say things that can be misinterpreted to text, safer for me this way, just texting for dates and logistics. Plus it looks less thirsty, i already made the mistake of seeing her twice in a very short time, she even met my mom, way too much happened way too soon.

I also just realized something, she works at night, so i'll be asking her out this sunday for the next sunday, she's gonna get it really slow now. Would a date 7 days in advance be too long?

 

[Dash Riprock]

Low IL post sleeping with him. If a girl doesnt text me after sleeping with me, somethings wrong.

This is one of the biggest misconceptions on SS.

Women want to be led by a strong, assertive MAN. MEN don't wait around for women to "text them back" hoping for her approval and adoration and falling into her frame. You want it? Take it. MEN pursue, but not chase. Understand the difference.

There are big differences between boys and girls and one of the biggest in the world of sexual attraction is this: Men are like blowtorches ("Look at her! Wholly s*hit I want to F*UCK her!) and women are like ovens (<Seeing you across the room> "Hey, he's kind of cool and cute. I wonder who he is?"). Women have more to consider before they just strip down and jump in the sack with someone. It's in their DNA.

If I liked the girl, I would probably message her in a day or two to check in and say "hey." Based on her response, I may ask out again. And remember, and I know this goes against many of some younger SS poster's "strategy and philosophy," but I'm of the school of thought that whomever does the asking out, also does the buying, be it drinks, mini golf, whatever. If she offers to split, consider it, but it's not mandatory. I usually take care of the first 2-3 dates because I'm the pursuer asking them out. You're not a blue pill beta if you ask a woman out and pick up the tab. The key is you asked her out. Be a man. Asking her to split if you asked her out is tacitly sending the message that you two are 50/50 equals and you need her support. Re-read my first sentence in the second paragraph. MEN are leaders and pursuers and make the plan, at least early on.

Another thing I've noticed recently: Some of the younger guys on SS (and a couple older members too) are way too far down the rabbit hole on Red Pill | Rollo Tomassi | "Alpha" techniques and strategies. Some are so far down they will never see the light of day and miss out on solid opportunities. Certainly we all use Red Pill and Rollo philosophy as a guide. I'm not promoting being a weak beta, I'm promoting being a DJ. A true DJ is not 100% and 100 feet down the Red Pill rabbit hole, and who is subconsciously always looking for ways to disqualify a typical and/or maybe even decent woman.

To steal a line out of the Doc Love playbook, remembering these three concepts will get you further than anything else: Confidence, (Self) Control, Challenge.

Good luck.

~Dash~

 

[Glassguy]

Thats the thing on here- a large % of the men couldnt get laid in a wh0re house with a fist full of money but they all of a sudden are supercharged after reading some posts and think they are qualified to give good dating advice.

One day they are asking how to handle a specific chick and her actions, the next day giving advice. Then they are confused again by a different girl and asking for advice.

Granted women throw us curveballs that we dont see coming and that can lead to questions and getting opinions. I have no problem with that.

We are all here to learn new things, express new ideas and philosophies on getting a chick's panties off (I hope). I understand that the average guy today struggles with women but he does so because they dont understand women's behavior. Welcome all and get ready to learn. Forget what your brain has been programmed to think (I was sort of once there) and be ready to step your game up.

I feel as if I am one of about 15-20 posters who really "gets it" and is good with women. There are similarities between what I would consider us on here that do well. We have a standard operating matrix but we dont live by dating rules. We kinda do what what we want and we always do what is best for us first and foremost, just for starters. We date chicks and spin plates for our benefit, not theirs.

Its hard enough for some of you guys to get numbers and ask a chick out. Dont lose what you worked hard to get from terrible advice. Dont throw away a good piece of consistent/steady @ss because you implemented terrible advice and blew it. None of us are batting 1.000% but the guys who are good with rotations do damn well.

Posters need to be careful when seeking advice and who they seek it from. I dont invest money with the homeless guy on the street corner and use a financial planner for a reason.