Text after sex?

[djthiago1]

Banged this girl yesterday on our second 'date', should i send some general text today? Or just wait till next week when i'm planning on asking her out again?

 

[backseatjuan]

Wait till next week man, no texts/phone calls whatsoever.

 

[djthiago1]

Wait till next week man, no texts/phone calls whatsoever.

That's what i was thinking, especially since after the first date i sent the first text. I just ended my 4 month dry spell with her, so i might be a bit over infatuated.

 

[jaymbrs]

Has she not texted you at all since then?

 

[djthiago1]

Has she not texted you at all since then?

Nope, not after the first date, nor after sex. First time i've had this happen. She did mention the future a few times tho, so that was a good sign, reanalyzing the time we've had i'd say she's into me, but still women can be great actresses so..

 

[jaymbrs]

Nope, not after the first date, nor after sex. First time i've had this happen. She did mention the future a few times tho, so that was a good sign, but women are actresses so..

If she hasn't texted you, I'd leave it alone for a good while. That's a sign of low IL.

 

[djthiago1]

If she hasn't texted you, I'd leave it alone for a good while. That's a sign of low IL.

Strong possibility, that's i was planning to do.

 

[backseatjuan]

It's not low IL, I have my doubts about it. She hasn't texted after first date, but went on 2nd and fcked. It's the way she does it, she does not text men. She's following some type of rules or has a game plan of her own. Maybe mama's advice.

Brazilian chick got ass? Did you dance lambada?

 

[djthiago1]

It's not low IL, I have my doubts about it. She hasn't texted after first date, but went on 2nd and fcked. It's the way she does it, she does not text men. She's following some type of rules or has a game plan of her own. Maybe mama's advice.

Brazilian chick got ass? Did you dance lambada?

Funny thing is, she seems to use her phone very little, and i've had one of those in the past, so i'm hoping it has something to do with that, or like you said, some rule or game, guess i'll see next week when i ask her out again, or if by some chance she texts me before. She even asked me to let her take some of this cake that was in my fridge in one little plastic container that i had so she could have "excuse to come over again" were her words.

Brazillian chick has a very nice body believe me, reminded me of this hourglass figure ex i had.

 

[Glassguy]

If she hasn't texted you, I'd leave it alone for a good while. That's a sign of low IL.

Disagree. She just fvcked him.

I disagree with a lot of these comments. Your all too gamey.

I'd shoot her a quick text: "hey you".

Move forward based on her response to that but dont go overboard.

If you do nothing she will think you only wanted to fvck her once and she will be guarded. Just be cool, reach out, keep it simple and short. Then set up the next "date".

 

[djthiago1]

Disagree. She just fvcked him.

I disagree with a lot of these comments. Your all too gamey.

I'd shoot her a quick text: "hey you".

Move forward based on her response to that but dont go overboard.

If you do nothing she will think you only wanted to fvck her once and she will be guarded. Just be cool, reach out, keep it simple and short. Then set up the next "date".

Problem is, i'm not planning on asking her out today, i just saw her yesterday, so if i send a text, it'll have to end for some time again before i ask her out after sunday.
Still think i should send one?

 

[jaymbrs]

Disagree. She just fvcked him.

I disagree with a lot of these comments. Your all too gamey.

I'd shoot her a quick text: "hey you".

Move forward based on her response to that but dont go overboard.

If you do nothing she will think you only wanted to fvck her once and she will be guarded. Just be cool, reach out, keep it simple and short. Then set up the next "date".

Low IL post sleeping with him. If a girl doesnt text me after sleeping with me, somethings wrong.

 

[djthiago1]

Disagree. She just fvcked him.

I disagree with a lot of these comments. Your all too gamey.

I'd shoot her a quick text: "hey you".

Move forward based on her response to that but dont go overboard.

If you do nothing she will think you only wanted to fvck her once and she will be guarded. Just be cool, reach out, keep it simple and short. Then set up the next "date".

Just caved in and sent her a text, she replied back in 0.5 milliseconds. Good sign at least.

 

[Glassguy]

Man leads. Interested woman follows.

Women know the dating rules too guys. Sometimes just doing what you want regardless of the rules is a breath of fresh air for all involved.

 

[samspade]

Disagree. She just fvcked him.

I disagree with a lot of these comments. Your all too gamey.

I'd shoot her a quick text: "hey you".

Move forward based on her response to that but dont go overboard.

If you do nothing she will think you only wanted to fvck her once and she will be guarded. Just be cool, reach out, keep it simple and short. Then set up the next "date".

I mentioned this in another thread, but I encourage sending a post-sex text to protect against any false #metoo nonsense. It's unlikely but you never know, and a quick text takes little effort.

That's in addition to agreeing with your sense of frame.

 

[flowtheory]

Some women don’t message a whole lot; after dates or after sex. If you’re planning dates, and she’s always accepting and never making things too difficult in that realm, she has high interest. Sometimes women test to see how high the man’s interest is before opening up and becoming vulnerable.

Just because she’s not texting after dates or sex doesn’t mean she didn’t have a great time. Judge the connection when you’re face-to-face rather holding her to what people should or shouldn’t do. I’ve been with plenty high interest women who don’t play by the rules. And the texting after date or whatever are part of modern day rules. Each person is their own special case.

If you had a good time and want to see her again, cultivate that opportunity. Just know your value and don’t do it in a needy way. A woman who feels good towards you will accept dates and make it easy. One with low interest will flake and be difficult.

We over complicate things soemtimes

As per the question; always ext after sex in my mind. What’s she going to think if you text? “What a loser. He’s needy”? Highly doubt that.
After a woman sleeps with a guy she wants to be respected because she just shared her body with you. A warm text will do more good than harm.
Why do you want a woman tripping out after she has sex with you? Why withhold? To what purpose? If one has to play games to drive up interest.. one isn’t worth chasing.

 

[Trump]

Disagree. She just fvcked him.

I disagree with a lot of these comments. Your all too gamey.

I'd shoot her a quick text: "hey you".

If you do nothing she will think you only wanted to fvck her once and she will be guarded.

And if he does text her she will think “this guy has no life.”

How can she be guarded after sex? In the world of feminism, hypergamy, divorces, pornography, nudity, sex means nothing to women. It’s a way to get what they want. Sex does NOT mean high IL. She has to INITIATE, it means more than the actual sex itself.

OP, if she’s not initiating after sex, she doesn’t care you are sleeping with another girl. Low IL.

 

[flowtheory]

But if he does text her she will think “this guy has no life.”

How can she be guarded after sex? In the world of feminism, hypergamy, divorces, pornography, nudity, sex means nothing to women. It’s a way to get what they want. Sex does mean high IL. She has to INITIATE, it means more than the actual sex itself.

OP, if she’s not initiating after sex, she doesn’t care you are sleeping with another girl. Low IL.

This seems very incorrect. And also jaded, coming from a place of fear.
I HIGHLY doubt a woman is thinking “he has no life”
Most women do not want to initiate anything. They appreciate and desire having a man take the lead.
And clearly OP wants to reach out, if he’s so inclined to make a thread. So really he’s denying his own masculine energy and opting for new world games. Playing in to a beta mindset.

If you want to do something. Do it. Just don’t be needy about it.

Just because there is porn, feminism, divorces, and nudity in the world doesn’t mean sex means nothing.

 

[marmel75]

Disagree. She just fvcked him.

I disagree with a lot of these comments. Your all too gamey.

I'd shoot her a quick text: "hey you".

Move forward based on her response to that but dont go overboard.

If you do nothing she will think you only wanted to fvck her once and she will be guarded. Just be cool, reach out, keep it simple and short. Then set up the next "date".

Amazing how guys will end up fvcking themselves over trying to "play it cool"...

 

[marmel75]

This seems very incorrect. And also jaded, coming from a place of fear.
I HIGHLY doubt a woman is thinking “he has no life”
Most women do not want to initiate anything. They appreciate and desire having a man take the lead.
And clearly OP wants to reach out, if he’s so inclined to make a thread. So really he’s denying his own masculine energy and opting for new world games. Playing in to a beta mindset.

If you want to do something. Do it. Just don’t be needy about it.

Just because there is porn, feminism, divorces, and nudity in the world doesn’t mean sex means nothing.

Sometimes its easy to see who actually gets laid regularly and who reads and watches video about "how to do it"