flowtheory
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Do women often touch you guys on first dates? I’ve found I can touch, and they do not recoil, however seldomly do they touch or reach out to me.
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Touching on first date.
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
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EyeBRollin
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It depends on the woman. I always advise against touching on the first date unless she initiates first.
flowtheory
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How come?
EyeBRollin
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First dates are with total strangers. It's inappropriate to touch people you don't know. If you let her come to you the timing is always correct.
old_skoolr
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I usually start kino with a high 5 or a fist bump.
It's usually when she's said something or done something I approve of.
It's usually when she's said something or done something I approve of.
Doctor Europeo
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We all know some girls will actually have sex on first date even if you just met.
But for the rest of them, I´ll grab her hand or arm when we are both laughing very hard. If she agrees to second date, I´ll put my arm around her waist.
But for the rest of them, I´ll grab her hand or arm when we are both laughing very hard. If she agrees to second date, I´ll put my arm around her waist.
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Touching has nothing to do with taking the lead.
devilkingx2
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Depends entirely on the context.
If you are actually strangers who just met and barely know each other (OLD and you exchanged numbers and set a date in under an hour then went ghost til the day of), then probably hold off on touching until you receive a green light and things seem to be going very well (or she touches you first)
But in the far more likely scenario that you guys have talked and known each other for days/weeks beforehand (classmates, co-workers/social circle/etc. And anyone you interacted with a lot, like cashiers at your local supermarket) then of course you should start kinoing ASAP and work your way up slowly.
If she thinks of you as a total stranger and you didn't just meet, that's a horrible sign
If you are actually strangers who just met and barely know each other (OLD and you exchanged numbers and set a date in under an hour then went ghost til the day of), then probably hold off on touching until you receive a green light and things seem to be going very well (or she touches you first)
But in the far more likely scenario that you guys have talked and known each other for days/weeks beforehand (classmates, co-workers/social circle/etc. And anyone you interacted with a lot, like cashiers at your local supermarket) then of course you should start kinoing ASAP and work your way up slowly.
If she thinks of you as a total stranger and you didn't just meet, that's a horrible sign