"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Spaz, I ain't gonna say the strategem is wrong. Just that it makes no sense to me. If it's good for this broad, why not all the rest and before you know it, you've got a trail of disrespectful broads you're probably sharing with other fvckers. Wouldn't full red pill compliance mean the last thing you want is a trail of disrespectful broads you're probably sharing with other fvckers?
Ohrein stratagem is abt pulling her back into a man's frame - reacquiring the balance of power.

He essentially expanded on my 1st post which I highlighted there's benefits to be had by dumping/dismissing her 1st but I did say it's fleeting at best and plays with a woman's emotions.

Fleeting because a man has to constantly use the push/pull strategy and it's tiring...

Best is always pulling a women into ur sphere of influence (frame), she understanding it and I cannot stress enough that a man must have admirable qualities which is never stagnant, always growing in strength as he ages.

To sustain a women's love, she must admire her man and from there gains her respect. That's what it takes to have a sustainable happy relationship.

I don't recommend Ohrien's stratagem to OP but to some highly dismissive men who wants to string women along, that's how it's done.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The list of threads he created show this has been going on a long time...I think its basically running its course at this point
 

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Sometime when your too close to the problem your are blind to it or dont want to see it

People are telling you what to do, i know its not what you want but on the long run you will be happier for it
 

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Ohrein stratagem is abt pulling her back into a man's frame - reacquiring the balance of power.

He essentially expanded on my 1st post which I highlighted there's benefits to be had by dumping/dismissing her 1st but I did say it's fleeting at best and plays with a woman's emotions.

Fleeting because a man has to constantly use the push/pull strategy and it's tiring...

Best is always pulling a women into ur sphere of influence (frame), she understanding it and I cannot stress enough that a man must have admirable qualities which is never stagnant, always growing in strength as he ages.

To sustain a women's love, she must admire her man and from there gains her respect. That's what it takes to have a sustainable happy relationship.

I don't recommend Ohrien's stratagem to OP but to some highly dismissive men who wants to string women along, that's how it's done.
Agree with all of that and yes, it's very tiring.
 

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It's SO easy to judge what you write and silently scream at my computer screen "RUN" and #nextset. But then I recall, I've been there. It's not so easy letting go.

From my perspective, she's not respecting or valuing you, and you should start to back off. At the very most, plate her. If you pull away and she confronts you about it, tell her everything you've told us n your original post. If she doesnt value the feedback and feel it worthy to work on treating you better (if she dismisses what you say) then it's time to realize she doesnt want to LOVE you, and go your separate ways
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Something to be said about the disrespect YOU allow in your life which trickles down much further than you can imagine, into your other relations, your self esteem, your core, and most importantly your mental paradigms.

Your mental paradigms are structured in a very specific way that guide you and open up the doors to infinite possibilities of growth. When someone disrespects you and you allow it, you are stultifying those paradigms and collapsing all the doors to the infinite.

The greatest damage one can do upon oneself is permitting disrespect into one’s sphere and becoming the victim.
 

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OP sounds like you lost frame. Sounds like she´s more invested in the ltr than you.

Next time she disrepects you, you end things on the spot.
 

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Bad advice when emotionally compromised, worse because it isn't legit interest just playing on fear of loss. She is doing harem maintenance and you think you've somehow rekindled interest.
I don't disagree, but it's the best course of action and more importantly it's better for him.
 
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