"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just asked coworker to lunch.

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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God forbid you ever find yourself working at an Amazon warehouse, but plate spinning there would be very easy. Worked at one for over 3 years.
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I know many of you don’t think it’s a good idea to date coworkers but you don’t count in this one.

I work in a warehouse house and am well liked by everyone. Most people know my name even though I don’t know everyone’s name.

This girl who has been working here for about a year. The first thing I noticed is she has the best bvtt in the world but gradually I came to realize she is just all around adore. She is kind of shy. Last week I was moved to her department so I have been able to converse with her more. It was eating me that I needed to ask her out because rejection is better than regret.

Once I was able to get her alone I asked if I could take her to lunch one of these weekends. I couldnt think of anything better ideas. I brace myself for the rejection I experienced many times but she said yes. It won’t be this weekend because I already volunteered to work overtime and she has her kids to take care of. I have a place in mind but not a day.

I will keep you updated but I welcome advice.
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I wouldn't sh*t where you eat, been there done that, things can turn ugly in a heart beat, you keep pestering her she could turn things against you saying you're harassing her. Women always win in HRs eyes, you will be out of a job and with a bad record.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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051AV said:
I wouldn't sh*t where you eat, been there done that, things can turn ugly in a heart beat, you keep pestering her she could turn things against you saying you're harassing her. Women always win in HRs eyes, you will be out of a job and with a bad record.
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Well I have not been pestering her. I only brought it up 3 times is 7 weeks. My way of playing it safe. But yes, I am starting to get the feeling that it may not work.
 
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Aspire said:
I know many of you don’t think it’s a good idea to date coworkers but you don’t count in this one.

I work in a warehouse house and am well liked by everyone. Most people know my name even though I don’t know everyone’s name.

This girl who has been working here for about a year. The first thing I noticed is she has the best bvtt in the world but gradually I came to realize she is just all around adore. She is kind of shy. Last week I was moved to her department so I have been able to converse with her more. It was eating me that I needed to ask her out because rejection is better than regret.

Once I was able to get her alone I asked if I could take her to lunch one of these weekends. I couldnt think of anything better ideas. I brace myself for the rejection I experienced many times but she said yes. It won’t be this weekend because I already volunteered to work overtime and she has her kids to take care of. I have a place in mind but not a day.

I will keep you updated but I welcome advice.
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In before dude becomes the Harvey Weinstein of the workplace.
 
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DEEZEDBRAH said:
In before dude becomes the Harvey Weinstein of the workplace.
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Warehouses are a diff story though. I worked at various ones over the years, before I landed an actual money-making career. In short, everyone screws everyone, and all the in the know guys know who the easy prey are. Hell, some of the women there would screw the supervisors. Warehouses are a diff environment man, esp the graveyard shift. Proceed OP.
 
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Ok well I was able to talk to her today, not as easy as I got promoted and am in a new department. Anyway as we left I told her to have a nice weekend and she asked how I liked my new job. Then I asked her when she thought we could go out. She said she didn’t know as this weekend she is taking her girls school shopping as school is starting and she usually spends weekends with them. Could be blowing me off but I believe her.

So I am not giving up on her but I will put it off a while and try other girls in the meantime.
 
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Aspire said:
Ok well I was able to talk to her today, not as easy as I got promoted and am in a new department. Anyway as we left I told her to have a nice weekend and she asked how I liked my new job. Then I asked her when she thought we could go out. She said she didn’t know as this weekend she is taking her girls school shopping as school is starting and she usually spends weekends with them. Could be blowing me off but I believe her.

So I am not giving up on her but I will put it off a while and try other girls in the meantime.
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She is really loving all your attention while she puts you in orbit.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This situation won't end well...
 
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