Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I know many of you don’t think it’s a good idea to date coworkers but you don’t count in this one.
I work in a warehouse house and am well liked by everyone. Most people know my name even though I don’t know everyone’s name.
This girl who has been working here for about a year. The first thing I noticed is she has the best bvtt in the world but gradually I came to realize she is just all around adore. She is kind of shy. Last week I was moved to her department so I have been able to converse with her more. It was eating me that I needed to ask her out because rejection is better than regret.
Once I was able to get her alone I asked if I could take her to lunch one of these weekends. I couldnt think of anything better ideas. I brace myself for the rejection I experienced many times but she said yes. It won’t be this weekend because I already volunteered to work overtime and she has her kids to take care of. I have a place in mind but not a day.
I will keep you updated but I welcome advice.
Not Amazon though I used to work at one.God forbid you ever find yourself working at an Amazon warehouse, but plate spinning there would be very easy. Worked at one for over 3 years.
One I worked at had hundreds of women to choose from. Constant turnover rate too.Not Amazon though I used to work at one.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Well I have not been pestering her. I only brought it up 3 times is 7 weeks. My way of playing it safe. But yes, I am starting to get the feeling that it may not work.I wouldn't sh*t where you eat, been there done that, things can turn ugly in a heart beat, you keep pestering her she could turn things against you saying you're harassing her. Women always win in HRs eyes, you will be out of a job and with a bad record.
In before dude becomes the Harvey Weinstein of the workplace.I know many of you don’t think it’s a good idea to date coworkers but you don’t count in this one.
I work in a warehouse house and am well liked by everyone. Most people know my name even though I don’t know everyone’s name.
This girl who has been working here for about a year. The first thing I noticed is she has the best bvtt in the world but gradually I came to realize she is just all around adore. She is kind of shy. Last week I was moved to her department so I have been able to converse with her more. It was eating me that I needed to ask her out because rejection is better than regret.
Once I was able to get her alone I asked if I could take her to lunch one of these weekends. I couldnt think of anything better ideas. I brace myself for the rejection I experienced many times but she said yes. It won’t be this weekend because I already volunteered to work overtime and she has her kids to take care of. I have a place in mind but not a day.
I will keep you updated but I welcome advice.
Warehouses are a diff story though. I worked at various ones over the years, before I landed an actual money-making career. In short, everyone screws everyone, and all the in the know guys know who the easy prey are. Hell, some of the women there would screw the supervisors. Warehouses are a diff environment man, esp the graveyard shift. Proceed OP.In before dude becomes the Harvey Weinstein of the workplace.
She is really loving all your attention while she puts you in orbit.Ok well I was able to talk to her today, not as easy as I got promoted and am in a new department. Anyway as we left I told her to have a nice weekend and she asked how I liked my new job. Then I asked her when she thought we could go out. She said she didn’t know as this weekend she is taking her girls school shopping as school is starting and she usually spends weekends with them. Could be blowing me off but I believe her.
So I am not giving up on her but I will put it off a while and try other girls in the meantime.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.