"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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GeezerBub

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I can't get it out of my god damn head that if I make ANY eye contact it'll go straight to "Omg... he must be a psycho killer!" Like, call me crazy, but it feels like women constantly hoping for the opportunity to claim sexual harassment or scream RAPE!! like it was a ****ing button they keep their middle finger on just WAITING to press it like it's what they straight up want.
And people tell me I'm in the wrong for not wanting to approach when THAT's the impression I'm always getting from them.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Man you have some serious problems if thats what you think. Go see a shrink. Your problems are beyond what can be helped by this board.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Desdinova

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I can't get it out of my god damn head that if I make ANY eye contact it'll go straight to "Omg... he must be a psycho killer!" Like, call me crazy, but it feels like women constantly hoping for the opportunity to claim sexual harassment or scream RAPE!!
Women are too worried about what other people think of them to bother thinking about what your problems are. They worry about their hair, nails, clothing, makeup, if they look fat, etc. If they catch you looking at them, they are going to be self-conscious. They will start to worry about their hair, clothing, if they have food on their face, etc.

Women will only make accusations against you if they don't respect you.
 

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Women are too worried about what other people think of them to bother thinking about what your problems are. They worry about their hair, nails, clothing, makeup, if they look fat, etc. If they catch you looking at them, they are going to be self-conscious. They will start to worry about their hair, clothing, if they have food on their face, etc.

Women will only make accusations against you if they don't respect you.

PUA wise, you can eliminate a lot of stress and failures if you smile to women first and walk only to these that smile back to you. or dont even smile and let them smile first.

if women smile to strangers on the street or in hipermarket then its likely they think you look hot and they are open for talk
 

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PUA wise, you can eliminate a lot of stress and failures if you smile to women first and walk only to these that smile back to you. or dont even smile and let them smile first.

if women smile to strangers on the street or in hipermarket then its likely they think you look hot and they are open for talk
I always do this..
 

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There’s a difference between making solid, confident eye contact and creepily staring. In bars where it’s hard to talk I sometimes give women a c0cky “knowing” look (head slightly tilted to the side, subtle smirk, eyebrow raised) and hold it till they acknowledge me. Then I approach. Way different than staring at a chick with a serious expression and your eyes half closed.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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There’s a difference between making solid, confident eye contact and creepily staring. In bars where it’s hard to talk I sometimes give women a c0cky “knowing” look (head slightly tilted to the side, subtle smirk, eyebrow raised) and hold it till they acknowledge me. Then I approach. Way different than staring at a chick with a serious expression and your eyes half closed.
It IS the eye contact that bothers me most...It can be skipped right? Or is the ol "hello'' out of nowhere always too alarming to them?
 

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Someone's paranoid. Try a psychiatrist.
Man you have some serious problems if thats what you think. Go see a shrink. Your problems are beyond what can be helped by this board.
Buddy...You'd hate it up here in Canada. You see, healthcare is free up here and that is a bad thing. Shrinks in a country where healthcare is free have NO inclination to help a patient. Sadly they only have one job. Prescribing pills. You walk in, they go "ok what kind of pills do you want?" and you walk out...Not even sure if paid psychiatry is legal up here now that I think about it.
 

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There’s a difference between making solid, confident eye contact and creepily staring. In bars where it’s hard to talk I sometimes give women a c0cky “knowing” look (head slightly tilted to the side, subtle smirk, eyebrow raised) and hold it till they acknowledge me. Then I approach. Way different than staring at a chick with a serious expression and your eyes half closed.
Yea I know, but unless I hold a mirror in front of me I don't know if I look creepy of just...ok...omg. Do I need to practice in front a mirror!?..lols
 
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Buddy...You'd hate it up here in Canada. You see, healthcare is free up here and that is a bad thing. Shrinks in a country where healthcare is free have NO inclination to help a patient. Sadly they only have one job. Prescribing pills. You walk in, they go "ok what kind of pills do you want?" and you walk out...Not even sure if paid psychiatry is legal up here now that I think about it.
Health care isn't free here, we pay for it every single day in taxes.
If you are considering therapy but not psychiatry and would prefer something covered under your provincial healthcare plan look for MD's who also provide therapy. There aren't a lot of them but they are usually covered under their medical license.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Health care isn't free here, we pay for it every single day in taxes.
Our health care system is starting to crumble. High taxes aren't saving it from becoming 5hit. ERs here are being shut down, services are being cut, but the politicians are enjoying lining their pockets.

If you want a good therapist, you're gonna have to pay for one.
 
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Our health care system is starting to crumble. High taxes aren't saving it from becoming 5hit. ERs here are being shut down, services are being cut, but the politicians are enjoying lining their pockets.

If you want a good therapist, you're gonna have to pay for one.
True. It's sad. I often go to hospitals with my work and I see people in beds in the hallways. How are people supposed to recover on a bed in a busy hallway. Meanwhile the person running the place collects a fat cheque.

For people who can't afford therapy an MD is an option (or group therapy which is usually covered) but I agree a good therapist is going to cost money.
 

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I am...sorry. I'll improve.
Haha. I'm just saying, don't be so dramatic. It's really not that bad out there. You do have to be careful but I can count on one hand the number of times something bad has happened from approaching women. Worst that happens most of the time is they're a ***** and you take an ego hit, boo hoo.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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