B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Does it still apply even if you'e exit text was "hit me up if u change ur mind?" Like what if I contact her in three weeks if she still hasn't? I want one more opinion and I promise I'll let this go
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
if you die today, same person will forget about you..I can't forget. My thoughts are torturing me and I can't do my schoolwork or anything for that matter.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I know this old. Why do you say call instead of text?Two choices, stay no contact and be miserable wondering what you already know or call her up, no text, CALL her up, express how you feel and what you think and receive the bad news immediately and start to deal with it. Unless she is a cluster b who comes and goes she is most likely done if you dont hear from her.
Focus on other women.I know this old. Why do you say call instead of text?
I am but I'm not giving up on this one...Focus on other women.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ugh that message was so ****ing stupid. And just to clear this up, I'm not trying to seek approval here. I'm just voicing my thoughts and if I get some insight, great. I know how I'm coming across but hey I'm online right now and I dunno you guys so I think it's alright...There is no rule. You can write in this forum and still be sneaking "behind our backs" texting her. The point is, you told her "if you change your mind, hit me up". In this case, if you want to be a man of your word, go on with your life. Things look and feel ****ty right now, but that will change soon depending on how well you handle this. If you feel low and bad right now, feel it, it's OK. Life has its lows, too. But then, go for it. Not simply women, but everything else.
so you think I'm better off leaving it alone? Like in the long run, my chances will be better if there is any?She didn't hit you up which means she didn't change her mind. The same obsession and desperation that blew it for you before it will blow it for you again. If you need to make the same mistake one more time to realise that then knock yourself out. Something in you obviously needs to nuke this thing for good.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Calling is direct and shows initiative no nonsense.I know this old. Why do you say call instead of text?
she has forgotten about you. She is riding new ****. You need to do the same. Find new women.I wanna forget about it but I also wanna know the door could still be open one day in spite of that text and that I could be the one to knock on it
No. And you dunno thatshe has forgotten about you. She is riding new ****. You need to do the same. Find new women.
not getting over her. Sorry. Ever. I ****ed up with her and I'll make it right. I can make her laugh, smile, wet, everything.Didn't you say that this bird was yiur first girlfriend?
Don't expect to be properly over it right away. But do expect that on moving forward with some other girls, you'll be completely over it soon enough. Maybe a year or two.
Just some growing pains. You'll be alright.
anyone that responds to this troll suffering from NAWALT is very f00lish.No. And you dunno that
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.